CryForNoOne Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 I got to talking with a girl I recently started seeing and asked if what was cheapest first date she ever had. I asked her if anyone had ever taken her to Mickey D's or Olive Garden. Or worse, if anyone had ever broken out a Groupon. She told me never, but if he did, it would be over right there and then, no matter how much she liked him. Now I would NEVER EVER use a Groupon on the first date (maybe second ) but I thought that was a bit harsh. Ladies, what would you're reaction be? Any ladies ever had this happen?
Art_Critic Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 second or third date.. yeah.. first dates are for first impressions, unless you want being frugal to be what she sees you for.. keep the groupon till after the first date... Her commenting on it was a bit harsh.. showed a lack of class IMO...
newheart Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 I love groupon! That said, for some reason I'm not sure I'd like someone breaking out a groupon on the first date ... I would rather just go dutch, if that was the case.
act00 Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 I wouldn't care at all. Toss out a coupon, BOGO, whatever. Eating out is expensive. I would be most concerned and turned off if my date treated the wait staff badly or cheaped out on the tip, but I love me some discounts and I wouldn't be bothered if a date made use of one. 5
Dis Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 Omg...if a girl is going to be so stupid as to next a guy for using Groupon she is no catch herself We should be happy the guy is paying! If he wants to save money in the process then thats his prerogative Btw, I dont mind the Olive Garden either 10
Ami1uwant Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 why is using a groupon or a coupon such an issue??? What if they had a gift certificate for the restaurant?? How is that inherently different? Why does it matter if you arent paying? What if on the first date he had event tickets, ohh by the wy he bought them at a BOGO free rate 2
Author CryForNoOne Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 Omg...if a girl is going to be so stupid as to next a guy for using Groupon she is no catch herself We should be happy the guy is paying! If he wants to save money in the process then thats his prerogative Btw, I dont mind the Olive Garden either I totally agree with you and told her that. The reason I would never use a Groupon is because I anticipate some women reacting that way and it's not worth ruining a night to save $10. She countered with "Look, $14 cocktails are a total waste of money. Why not get drunk at home. You pay for the ambiance. A ****ing Groupon is great for saving money but it would totally kill the mood for me. End of story." I kinda saw her point... 3
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I got to talking with a girl I recently started seeing and asked if what was cheapest first date she ever had. I asked her if anyone had ever taken her to Mickey D's or Olive Garden. Or worse, if anyone had ever broken out a Groupon. She told me never, but if he did, it would be over right there and then, no matter how much she liked him. Now I would NEVER EVER use a Groupon on the first date (maybe second ) but I thought that was a bit harsh. Ladies, what would you're reaction be? Any ladies ever had this happen? I don't understand. A groupon is a coupon right? You're impressing a woman by showing her you know how to waste $? 2
Marc878 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Ahem, I've never taken anyone on a date that I didn't pickup the whole tab. Dutch is not honorable. A DATE is supposed to be special so it should be a nice place. Especially if you asked and set it up. If you're in college and money's tight that's a different story but...... 3
Medsop Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 if a man is using a groupon on a 1st date then it sounds like he shouldn't be dating because that would signal things are tight financially. 3
Dis Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I don't understand. A groupon is a coupon right? You're impressing a woman by showing her you know how to waste $? Ya I agree If anything it shows the guy cares about his finances = good thing! 3
kendahke Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 If given the choice between using a groupon and being stood up, which would she prefer? 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 To further add to her point - I know this about myself. Some restaurants I just go to eat and be full. I'll rarely order a drink other than water to save $. Other places, typically more expensive, I'm there for the experience. I don't care how much anything costs, I order whatever I want. But oh man - if something goes wrong, like I get bad service or ripped off some way - I get really really pissed. Much more so than the cheaper places that are just eat-and-go. You pay a premium to "escape" for an hour or two and there is nothing worse than some petty thing that ruins your mood. That's how I could relate to her argument. Anyway, I'm not going to breakout a Groupon any time soon...
SevenCity Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Ya I agree If anything it shows the guy cares about his finances = good thing! D - so few women feel this way it's refreshing to hear your maturity. Brava! I dated a girl once who had a groupon story - she was horrified the guy busted it out. He went further to say she had to stick to the groupon menu rather than get what she likes as it wasn't covered. I sort of get that. But how about if the groupon was for skydiving? Pretty cool first date no? How is using it at a restaurant (assuming no menu restrictions) any different? Women would be better served playing the long game. If a guy is careful with his money and wants to save it, then you should look at that as a plus if your intent is to find someone to get married to and raise children with. That said, I would never use one on a date due to how most women would react. Disclaimer - I love groupon
Simple Logic Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I got to talking with a girl I recently started seeing and asked if what was cheapest first date she ever had. I asked her if anyone had ever taken her to Mickey D's or Olive Garden. Or worse, if anyone had ever broken out a Groupon. She told me never, but if he did, it would be over right there and then, no matter how much she liked him. Now I would NEVER EVER use a Groupon on the first date (maybe second ) but I thought that was a bit harsh. Ladies, what would you're reaction be? Any ladies ever had this happen? Lol, if I was on a first date and was using Gropon and my dated ended it right there, she could pay for her own meal.
Arieswoman Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 IMO groupon/coupons/BOGOFs are fine for later dates, but not for a first date or first meal. I dated a guy who was a drugs rep. He used to ask me to accompany him to events where he did a presentation about a new drug (to doctors) followed by a meal or a buffet. This was all paid for by the drugs company. He never took me for a meal any other time. He never even suggested "going dutch". I also dated a guy who only treated me to a bar snack after he'd had a win on a fruit machine. I dumped them both because they were tight-wads. 1
Shining One Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I dated a guy who was a drugs rep. He used to ask me to accompany him to events where he did a presentation about a new drug (to doctors) followed by a meal or a buffet. This was all paid for by the drugs company. He never took me for a meal any other time. He never even suggested "going dutch".I dated a woman who "paid" for all of our meals. She insisted on it since all of her meals (including alcohol) could be expensed. It never bothered me that she did this. I've also had women bring out coupons on early dates. Personally, I found no correlation between women who did this sort of thing and a lack of generosity. It's a shame both of your experiences were with tight wads. 3
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 If I was being told what I could order, I'd be annoyed. I would then order what I wanted & pick up the whole check. If everything else was good, I'd find a bit more about his finances / relationship with money. I like frugal but hate cheap. The difference is as follows: recently on vacation my husband & I hung out at a local private club because the view was great & the drinks were inexpensive (1/3 the price of our hotel) but I really wanted to have 1 drink at a high end once in a life time place, where I knew we couldn't afford dinner. Two drinks cost me $70 OMG! I almost choked when I got that bill but laughed & realized I'll never go back. My husband took me on a cheap first date but it was an OK place. I don't mind going for 1 drink or a cup of coffee but I'd like to see a little imagination. I'd rather get a picnic or go to a free event then be taken to MickeyD's. 1
Marc878 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 If you really want to be frugal just take her to a nice gas station and buy her something out of a vending machine. Hey, the waters usually free but you could bring your own cup!
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 If you really want to be frugal just take her to a nice gas station and buy her something out of a vending machine. Hey, the waters usually free but you could bring your own cup! That's cheap not frugal. Frugal would be groupons with the friends to save to have $$ for the date. 2
GemmaUK Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 It wouldn't bother me but then I've never had a guy pay for a date - so bit irrelevant. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 It wouldn't bother me but then I've never had a guy pay for a date - so bit irrelevant. Come on?! Really??? 1
todreaminblue Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 (edited) I had a guy use discounts he had on a first date to a movie.....he got the tickets ...i bought the snacks....i didn't mind at all...being frugal is not a bad thing....i did however mind when he began to stroke my breast like it was a cat...i minded when i grabbed his hand and held it for a while then dropped it to grab a sip fo a drink eh went back to thinking my breast needed petting...i showed him visually that it didnt by picking his hand off my breast and placing it on the hand rest,......sigh...he was persistent and i gave up. i didnt want to make a scene....as we had people sitting either side..front and behind...adn i couldnt get up and walk out...because i woudl have had to touch the people i moved past and block the movie and i would have dropped things being anxious.. so i sat as far away as i could...my boobs however are big ....and couldnt sit far enough away.........however it was our only date,......and i have decided i am not fond of cinema dates at all....discounts...well they dont bother me at all...bring them on..dont just pat my breast at all in any form on any date.....and ill be happy..or slobber saliva down my throat adn try and touch tonsils i have had removed..... when a guy kisses me good night...i want it soft and warm and fleeting..to be my happy little respected vegemite self........discount cards or coupons.....no problem ...money doesnt impress me..... at all...frugality...is admirable.....manners and courtesy and respect however....melt me.......deb Edited April 3, 2017 by todreaminblue
curiouslysearching Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 this shows that so many females are imbeciles. some groupons are for hundred a plate restaurants easy easy...let's not degrade any females....this was merely a POLL type question and with such you can expect an array of opinions 2
Medsop Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 My discounts are usually hidden when I go out on a date. Like for example, my credit card may be giving 5% cash back at certain restaurants when you spend a certain amount of money 1
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