Merriweather Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 What have you guys done about returning the person's things to them after the breakup? Since he started ignoring my last calls & texts (which were just a couple & not about the breakup), I figure he's not going to answer about what to do with his stuff either. It's nothing he won't just go out & buy again (he could leave a giant flat screen TV here & would probably just go buy another one to avoid interaction, the way I see it.) But I want the stuff gone & out of my house. It's hidden in a closet but it bugs me that it's here. I asked a mutual friend to return it to him but he refused, saying we need to resolve our problems on our own. What problems, it's over! I wasn't asking him to send a message or letter, it's just a delivery. But I told him I understand. Even if he did agree to come get his things or for me to drop them off at work, I'm afraid to see him right now. Not because I'll start crying & begging or yelling. But because if I know myself I'll probably act distant & cold, which will not be good later when I return to work in a few weeks & have to see him. I was hoping by that point we could be on friendly terms because I will be past this. My behavior now might dictate what happens later. I'm at that point where I'm ready to just text him & see if we can arrange for him to get his stuff. If not, I'm ready to leave it in his truck bed at work & text him to let him know. I don't want to hear "Just throw it away" because to me, it's not my responsibility to do that. I already have the overwhelming feeling he doesn't care & I don't need one more reminder of that, one more knife put in my back by having him tell me to throw it away.
d0nnivain Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 Mail it to him or drive it to his house & leave it outside. Send a text in advance saying you are coming & another one showing you delivered it. Normally I wouldn't encourage you to make all that effort but it's your issue that you want to the stuff gone so take the action to rid yourself of it. To protect yourself, I'd take a picture of the contents with that day's newspaper for verification & take another picture of the box outside his place. Send both pictures to him too.
SevenCity Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 I would mail it to him. Don't drve by his house or work. Send a text that you mailed his stuff to his address and it should be there on x day. You're right though it should not be your problem. 1
Arieswoman Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 Merriweather, I would send it Recorded Delivery (or USA equivalent) so he has to sign for it - sorted.
Author Merriweather Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 I would mail it but I just looked at it again & it's too much stuff, too heavy to mail. I'm not spending money on someone who won't even give me the time of day anymore.
Arieswoman Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Merriweather, I would mail it but I just looked at it again & it's too much stuff, too heavy to mail. I'm not spending money on someone who won't even give me the time of day anymore. In that case your either going to have to a) keep it safe somewhere until he contacts you - which could be never or b) make an itemised list of the items. Then write to him (recorded delivery) and say that he has 1 month to contact you to make arrangements to collect his stuff or it will be disposed of. Keep a copy of the letter and wait for the month to pass - if no response then you can do what you like with it.
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