telemakus Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 Nurses, bartenders and other workers who work with the public are expected to be nice to their patrons/clients . . . and there might be an office policy that precludes her from dating patients. After the stuff you've done so far, do not pursue her anymore. Yes. Bar staff is the trickiest. Way too easy to forget they're like that with all customers. 1
act00 Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 Long gone are the days of courting bringing flowers and chocolates to a woman. I agree for the baby boomer generation it may be more acceptable. However, this guy sent flowers to a girl he didn't even have a date with. That is usually a really bad idea. Au contraire, in the OP's generation, and my own, which isn't that far behind, this could be a rather normal part of courtship. I stated in an earlier post, I got my first "real" boyfriend because the flowers were a means of asking me out. He didn't know my number, and at the time when we talked at the party, he didn't ask for it, but he knew where I worked through conversation and mutual friends. He sent me flowers with his number at work. I called. My mother received flowers at work from someone to ask her out. There were quite a few jealous oohs and ahs over this in the office. It was quite exciting. This man had access to her home phone and work phone and address due to paperwork when she hired him for a professional service, but he sent flowers. The OP sending flowers like he did, as a means of asking her out, is not completely out of line for his era. Again, there is risk involved in that the recipient may not be interested in the giver romantically. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 i dont think letters or messages are creepy because its actually non confronting.....im not talking harry potter delivered by owl messages every ten minutes.... one heart felt written apology is not creepy.....its the addition of the owl....kidding....i wouldnt mind owning an owl though i love them.... constant phone calls...now there's harrassing and invasive.....one phone call not...i think when it comes to creepy its quantity....and a quality message.....is appropriate....not creepy...maybe i'm just different being a poet and a writer...but words to me...are not invasive and thoughtful and precise.....and perfect because you have time to reflect as you write.....and edit.... and easier to handle....its how i roll anyway... showing up on my door face to face....woudl be too confronting....and not respectful in my opinion.....so face to face...fro an apology should be to me only if you frequent places together.....and its a random ooccurence you run into each other.....you coudl i guess deal with the elephant then ...but that elephant pulled aside and in private....not public.........deb 2
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