What are the best ways to meet people in real life? I'm a 20 year old female college

[Didyouknow96]

My school is mainly girls, and I can't be any more involved than I already am because I work a lot and my schedule is packed TIGHT. However, I am free on Friday and Saturday nights occasionally. My friends usually take me to frat parties, where the guys are all horny as hell and immature. I'm tired of it. I live in Boston, what are the best things I can do to meet a nice guy? I'm willing to put myself out there I just don't know how! I work at a daycare and nursing home so yeah not a ton of young men around. Advice?

[CryForNoOne]

It never gets easier meeting people than in college, especially Boston. It gets much tougher once you join the work force. That said, if you're having a hard time because it's an all girl school, have you tried OLD? That would seem to be the obvious option...

[Didyouknow96]

OLD? It's not an all girls school but its like 70:30 girls to boys and I'm an education major so pretty much surrounded by all girls all the time. I'm on a sports team too and I volunteer but it's still all girls all the time.

[Didyouknow96]

Oh, online dating. The point is that I don't want to do that! That's taking the easy way out! What else could I do?

[CryForNoOne]

OLD = online dating.

[CryForNoOne]

Oh, online dating. The point is that I don't want to do that! That's taking the easy way out! What else could I do?

 

Do you know how ridiculous that sounds? You're online complaining about how to meet guys, but you'd rather do it the hard way and cry about it than take the easy and obvious route???

[Didyouknow96]

I'm not saying it's beneath me. I'm saying it's taking the easy way out and not forcing me to expand my horizons and branch out. And there aren't even any guys I'm interested in asking out, I have trouble really meeting any! Why are you attacking me...

[Didyouknow96]

I'm seeking advice online from a community I've found supportive in the past, not crying about anything.

[Didyouknow96]

You know, I don't go for hot guys. I do find certain guys more attractive than everyone, but stereotypical "hot" guys scream douchebag for me. Way to make assumptions about me without knowing me, at all.

[Miss Spider]

I feel you, girl! It's hard to meet the right people at any stage of your life. Being in college has a lot of pros, but still hard if you don't have a big social group or shy. Get involved in extra curricular things that are aimed toward your interests if you have the time. Try making new friends:)

[Miss Spider]

When you have so many double standards.

 

Making friends lol. Women tell guys friends first but have you have seen a friendship become something more? I haven't.

 

Oh I ctually meant for her to make new female friends who can introduce her to friendly, nice, good looking guys.

[CryForNoOne]

I'm seeking advice online from a community I've found supportive in the past, not crying about anything.

 

Well you're not presenting a lot of other options. You've painted the picture that your schedule is packed tight, you used emphasis on the word TIGHT, so you have no time for any additional extra curricular activities. The activities that currently dominate all your time are comprised almost entirely of women, so no opportunities to meet guys. What other option do you have than OLD, which you've categorically rejected because it's too easy??? OLD is by far the #1 option for working professionals who don't have time to lounge around waiting to meet a guy/girl in everyday life...

[Els]

Ignore the abe_l guy, OP. I tried reporting his posts but it says "invalid link", so I'm guessing he's banned by now.

 

70/30 isn't terribly bad, honestly. Do you talk to guys in class? Also, you don't necessarily have to date someone directly from your class, that's the beauty of college. If you meet people through clubs, activities, etc, they can be from any class. None of the guys I dated in college were from my class (which was 90/10 women/men - worse than yours!). I know you said you're "packed" schedule-wise but surely you can spend 2-3 hours a WEEK on a hobby - it's healthy to have something to do other than work and school anyway. Besides, if you don't have time for that, how will you have time for a R?

 

Don't do OLD if you are in college. So many opportunities open to you there IMO.

[Didyouknow96]

The frustrating thing is I have a lot of friends! And they're not even shy! But we just go to frat parties or other kinda crazy college parties where everyone is drunk as hell. Not a great way to meet a potential bf lol. I also am on a club sport team, and volunteer through two programs at my school. There's just no guys involved! Sucks honestly

[Els]

There are no guys on a sports team and at two volunteer programs.....??? Wait, you are in COLLEGE, right? Not a girls' school?

[Didyouknow96]

My schedule is packed tight because of extra curriculars! I'm on the tae kwon do team, practice three days a week and lots of tournaments, and I have guy friends on that team but no potential bfs. And I'm involved with volunteer organizations at my school but legit only girls participate D:

 

I'm in the college of education, there are about 2 boys total. There's a joke at my school: "like a men's bathroom in SED (school of education), you're worthless."

 

Sigh...I did everything right, got super involved freshman year, made lots of friends. I have quite a few guy friends but they're seriously just friends and several of them I suspect are gay. Finding a boyfriend is the difficult thing.

[elaine567]

Think of changing your job so that you do meet young guys at work, and change where you volunteer so that you can meet more guys.

College is a great way to meet people, you just need to get out of the all girl/frat party/nursing home circuit and investigate other possibilities.

[Didyouknow96]

Yep...the team is like 70% girls and the guys are mainly chinese international students that just kinda stick with each other (taekwondo team). And no guys are involved with community service. I'm serious. Guess I could have sold my soul and joined a sorority but i don't have the money or time for it.

[Didyouknow96]

Yeah, I just don't know what a better job would be. My job at the nursing home pays $18/hr and is great experience for occupational therapy school in a couple years (I'm a rehab assistant). Like I really really wanted that job. And I need to work at the preschool so I have access to students for my education courses. It's a vicious cycle lol.

[d0nnivain]

You go to college in Boston, right? What about going to another school's activities? Can you go to a game? Can you take a class at another school? Are there any guys on the teams you play against? What about the family of the patients you care for?

 

 

OLD is an option. I didn't care for it & it broke my heart more than it helped. Just be picky about the site you chose understanding it's function. You are unlikely to find a BF on Tinder but isn't there a woman oriented one, Bumble or something?

[smackie9]

Simple...get some girls together and find a frat party from other unis or colleges. There must be things like dances you guys can organize and invite other schools.

[mortensorchid]

I'm 42. I have been asking myself this question since I was in college myself. It's not easy to meet people to be friends with in general, let alone date. The world is rough. If there was an answer, I would tell you the answer, but I don't have it to give you.

 

Just keep trying in all means and methods possible, change things up, and keep moving forward rather than throw in the towel.

[Didyouknow96]

The familes are never really around the nursing home and that would kinda be uhh like highly innapropriate lol. And yeah we go to MIT frat parties but like I said all the guys want to do there is hook up and honestly they kinda just see BU girls are "biddies" to hook up with and it's very obvious that they don't respect us. I know there are probably decent guys at MIT that arent in frats but I don't have a way of meeting them. And taekwondo has about 3 tournaments a semester and nah, theres no mingling between teams really. My coach would get really annoyed if I walked around trying to flirt with guys lol...tournaments are serious business.

[TheTraveler]

And taekwondo

 

The main thing I learned practicing taekwondo for years...

 

Always sweep the leg

 

[Kitchen]

My school is mainly girls, and I can't be any more involved than I already am because I work a lot and my schedule is packed TIGHT. However, I am free on Friday and Saturday nights occasionally. My friends usually take me to frat parties, where the guys are all horny as hell and immature. I'm tired of it. I live in Boston, what are the best things I can do to meet a nice guy? I'm willing to put myself out there I just don't know how! I work at a daycare and nursing home so yeah not a ton of young men around. Advice?

 

Check the grocery store or coffee shop. You'll find me there!