Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 How sure are you about this theory you wont have women of these races there??? Sure these places could be so remote there are no women available to date What do you mean?
Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 Truthfully, I would seek a job I enjoy that takes me to places where there are more women of your preference. Hard to say. Advantages to joining the AF, but is that what you want to do? Join the AF? I feel like they are equally important in a way. Be a slave to a job but have your preferred women available or not having a tough and tiring job but not having your preferred women available.
JuneL Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Just curious: Would you mind elaborating on the values and personality you are looking for? Thanks. Why not put yourself into closer contact with the women you are attracted to? Is there a Chinatown neighborhood where you live? Is there a latin dance community? Indian grocery stores and restaurants? You get the point. If you don't live in a city where these communities are an option, would you consider relocating to one where the options are there? In any case, whatever type of women you are attracted to, they are rarely or never going to come to you. You have to be the one to find and attract them. I suspect that you would date a white woman if it was the right woman. I'm white, and probably 75% of the women I date are East Asian. I am not opposed to dating white women, but I find that when it come to values and personality, I'm a more 'natural' fit with East Asian women and multicultural women in general. When I date and feel connected to white women, it's often because they share some of those personal values too.
Ami1uwant Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 What do you mean? B-52s arent just in north dakota. They are stationed elsewhere. Being in ND there likely wont be many women to even meet given its a rural locations so there is a tendancy for women to get warried at 18-20. You assume asians/hispanic are located in only certain areas where you may find them in numerous places. There is a large hispanic population at midwest meat processing plants and other agriculture related processing plants.
Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 I would just move....you would be most certainly happier being at a location loaded with diversity, and I don't think you will ever regret it. There are opportunities everywhere. Time to think outside the box. I forgot to add that I will be happier surrounded by these women but I wouldn't be happy with my job which makes it a dilemma. I feel they have about the same importance in life.
Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 B-52s arent just in north dakota. They are stationed elsewhere. Being in ND there likely wont be many women to even meet given its a rural locations so there is a tendancy for women to get warried at 18-20. You assume asians/hispanic are located in only certain areas where you may find them in numerous places. There is a large hispanic population at midwest meat processing plants and other agriculture related processing plants. I meant B2 stealth wings. The plane that is literally shaped like a wing, haha. The AF doesn't have many of them. Being stationed out of the country is out of the question because I am planning on going to flight school and college as well. I know they are in numerous places, but I thought it would be best to be stationed where the majority are.
TheBathWater Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 (edited) Just curious: Would you mind elaborating on the values and personality you are looking for? Thanks. It's really hard to distill into a forum post, but I could provide you with a couple of examples. Readers should keep in mind I only speak as one man with one life lived. I can only speak about what is true for me based on what I've experienced. I'm sure many people feel differently than I do, so this is just me... Everyone values connection and intimacy, but I've noticed that the way in which certain cultural groups lean into connection and intimacy can differ. I can give you one example... I really enjoy deep and meaningful conversations. Most East Asian women I've dated have grown up in a home where emotional sharing was discouraged and seen as weakness at best. With an inhibition against talking and sharing, many are more than delighted when they find someone to communicate openly with who understands them. I think my being from a white racial background might provide a safe 'other' kind of experience outside of their cultural norm where taboos around emotions can be lifted. That, or maybe I'm just really good at talking. In any case, as a result I often find I develop a sense of deep intimate connection with women from East Asia more easily than I do with women who are white. It also probably helps that I tend to practice many of the same interests (food, music, health practices, etc...) that women from East Asia do. My last girlfriend once said to me: "I never thought I would ever feel so connected and on the same page with a man who was white." I also think the tension created by cultural differences is a factor in the attraction too, and I have to say, I tend to find East Asian women more physically attractive than most white women. The women I do date who are white are able to connect with me in a similar way, so it's not an issue of "whites can't connect in the way East Asian women do" or something like that... but in my experience, there is a higher chance for me that on average I will connect more meaningfully with East Asian women than I will with a white woman. I could go on and on and give more examples of why this is for me, but it's just too much. Edited April 3, 2017 by TunaInTheBrine 2
curiouslysearching Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 You really can't help the physical stuff you're attracted to. It starts very early, maybe even genetic. Does that limit your dating options? Oh yes. There's also the ability to overlook it to an extent once you find someone you really click with. Don't discount that, to whatever extent it's possible for you. Cookie, you are down right adorable
Popsicle Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 (edited) If you are joining the Air Force you will likely be stationed somewhere else. For instance, the Air Force base here in California is in a location that has many asians, latinas, and Indian women. Edited April 3, 2017 by Popsicle 3
Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 If you are joining the Air Force you will likely be stationed somewhere else. For instance, the Air Force base here in California is in a location that has many asians, latinas, and Indian women. California, and neighboring states like Texas, Nevada, New Mexico, Oregon, and Arizona were all the places I was considering, but the jobs I want has no locations in those states.
Popsicle Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 California, and neighboring states like Texas, Nevada, New Mexico, Oregon, and Arizona were all the places I was considering, but the jobs I want has no locations in those states. If you just want to learn how to fly, you can do that in California too (we have planes) it will take you at least 2 enlistments. I hope you realize that only 40 and 50 yo pilots get to fly the B2. In other words, only THE most experienced pilots with many many years of experience and war time deployments. 2
Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 (edited) If you just want to learn how to fly, you can do that in California too (we have planes) it will take you at least 2 enlistments. I hope you realize that only 40 and 50 yo pilots get to fly the B2. In other words, only THE most experienced pilots with many many years of experience and war time deployments. I am not planning to fly aircraft in the military. I actually just want to fly RPA's or either aircraft mechanic. I want to fly in he airlines one day but I am going through a less conventional route. I am enlisting while going to college and going to civilian flight schools simultaneously. Once I have all of my ratings, I will leave Active service to go into the Reserves while being a airline pilot. Edited April 3, 2017 by mar96
reeseyummy Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I completely feel ya. I am an asian woman living in a asian country, and so far I've only been attracted to white/indian guys, not exactly the easiest to fine one where I live. Many family and friends told me to just date a local, it would be so much easier, and so much more options to choose from, but I've really had no luck finding one at all yet... I'm trying to keep my options open.... 1
reeseyummy Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 It's really hard to distill into a forum post, but I could provide you with a couple of examples. Readers should keep in mind I only speak as one man with one life lived. I can only speak about what is true for me based on what I've experienced. I'm sure many people feel differently than I do, so this is just me... Everyone values connection and intimacy, but I've noticed that the way in which certain cultural groups lean into connection and intimacy can differ. I can give you one example... I really enjoy deep and meaningful conversations. Most East Asian women I've dated have grown up in a home where emotional sharing was discouraged and seen as weakness at best. With an inhibition against talking and sharing, many are more than delighted when they find someone to communicate openly with who understands them. I think my being from a white racial background might provide a safe 'other' kind of experience outside of their cultural norm where taboos around emotions can be lifted. That, or maybe I'm just really good at talking. In any case, as a result I often find I develop a sense of deep intimate connection with women from East Asia more easily than I do with women who are white. It also probably helps that I tend to practice many of the same interests (food, music, health practices, etc...) that women from East Asia do. My last girlfriend once said to me: "I never thought I would ever feel so connected and on the same page with a man who was white." I also think the tension created by cultural differences is a factor in the attraction too, and I have to say, I tend to find East Asian women more physically attractive than most white women. The women I do date who are white are able to connect with me in a similar way, so it's not an issue of "whites can't connect in the way East Asian women do" or something like that... but in my experience, there is a higher chance for me that on average I will connect more meaningfully with East Asian women than I will with a white woman. I could go on and on and give more examples of why this is for me, but it's just too much. Second that! I'm asian(and living in asia) and so far I find it easier to be attracted white men, just mainly because it's easier to connect in a more intimate emotional level. Traditional asian men have very limited expectations of women, whereas white men are more liberal and open to know who you really are. (though I can't say for all, I am only saying by my former experiences) And also white men are generally built taller and stronger on average than asian men, which is a big turn-on for me because I like tall guys I don't see the problem of liking a specific race, because it just means that's your preference, for example, black hair and short for asian girls. But, you could also find a white caucasian girl with black hair and is short too. The same preference can be found on different race too. I guess we can look for more opportunities to fall in love in a specific race, but that doesn't mean you are "only attracted" to that race.
Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 Second that! I'm asian(and living in asia) and so far I find it easier to be attracted white men, just mainly because it's easier to connect in a more intimate emotional level. Traditional asian men have very limited expectations of women, whereas white men are more liberal and open to know who you really are. (though I can't say for all, I am only saying by my former experiences) And also white men are generally built taller and stronger on average than asian men, which is a big turn-on for me because I like tall guys I don't see the problem of liking a specific race, because it just means that's your preference, for example, black hair and short for asian girls. But, you could also find a white caucasian girl with black hair and is short too. The same preference can be found on different race too. I guess we can look for more opportunities to fall in love in a specific race, but that doesn't mean you are "only attracted" to that race. Where do you live in Asia?
Ruby Slippers Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Why not put yourself into closer contact with the women you are attracted to? Is there a Chinatown neighborhood where you live? Is there a latin dance community? Indian grocery stores and restaurants? You get the point. If you don't live in a city where these communities are an option, would you consider relocating to one where the options are there? In any case, whatever type of women you are attracted to, they are rarely or never going to come to you. You have to be the one to find and attract them. Great advice. You have to find them. Go to the places they congregate, relocate, or travel. 3
Author mar96 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 (edited) Great advice. You have to find them. Go to the places they congregate, relocate, or travel. What should I do when it comes to career location and options? Edited April 3, 2017 by mar96
TheBathWater Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 What should I do when it comes to career location and options? Only you can decide that. As a man, I get how important purpose and mission is in life. It's so important that it really should come first before women. But at the same time, if you never have the opportunity to develop the kind of relationships that make life worth living because you're so immersed in your career, then you have to ask yourself what's it all for and if it's really that worth it to you. What is it that you want to think about on your death bed? I'm sure you can align your life mission and purpose with other career roles than one that is going to isolate you from the life you want to live. Maybe I'm being a little harsh in saying it, but it's true that the only person that holds us back is ourselves.
Author mar96 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Posted April 4, 2017 Only you can decide that. As a man, I get how important purpose and mission is in life. It's so important that it really should come first before women. But at the same time, if you never have the opportunity to develop the kind of relationships that make life worth living because you're so immersed in your career, then you have to ask yourself what's it all for and if it's really that worth it to you. What is it that you want to think about on your death bed? I'm sure you can align your life mission and purpose with other career roles than one that is going to isolate you from the life you want to live. Maybe I'm being a little harsh in saying it, but it's true that the only person that holds us back is ourselves. Thanks, I don't think that was harsh. That was helpful.
jgraham11 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 No OP if you're attracted to a certain race then don't broaden your vision just to accommodate maybe feeling lonely. We all like who we like at the end of the day and there's not much we can do about it. I for one am a white male who happens to like other ethnicities more than white women. That's not to say I won't get to know some white woman to see if it could work out or if we're compatible, but I tend to have my eyes and heart set elsewhere. As long as it's a genuine attraction for them and not some fetish then it's fine. It's up to you to decide if it's genuine or something else
curiouslysearching Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Great advice. You have to find them. Go to the places they congregate, relocate, or travel. Ruby is so right.....find a WAY....
gaius Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Yeah, it seems odd that if you're really so attracted to them you've chosen a path that takes you nowhere near them. I was super attracted to my girlfriend so I relocated lickety split first chance I got so I could date her and make her sore. That's how it works when you're attracted to something or someone..... My best guess is you're single because you want to be and this attraction to foreign women is just because they're not available to you. Like one of those guys that jerks off to cartoon porno.
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