Sjohnny08 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Me and my ex girl dated for almost 3 full years, and it's been over 3 months since she broke up with me saying she needed time and space. She said she fell out of love but had no real reasons for the split. I begged for for the first couple weeks, and In the last 3 months I would check up on her text her every couple weeks but she showed no interest. She would say things like "you never know what the future holds" or "give me time to forgive you" never really giving me closure. I wrote her a beautiful letter a month ago she never responded or even brought it up. Then the last time we spoke about 2 weeks ago, she said it bothered her that I bettered myself once she walked away from me, not when she asked me to during the relationship, she then proceeded to block me and my whole family on everything!! So I'm now in no contact for the last two weeks with no idea what she's up to, all I know is she said she's happy and she loves her new job. We broke up a little after she quit her first job out of college, while I still have 2 years remaining till I graduate. She's 22 I'm 20.
fromheart Posted April 1, 2017 Posted April 1, 2017 It bothers her that you are bettering yourself after the break up, as this re addresses the power balance in your favor. You reaching out to her givers her more power and you less self respect. NC and you bettering yourself takes her power away and actually increases your attraction levels, meaning that she now has to face the fact that she might have made the wrong decision. Next time she reaches out, and she probably will do, let her know that you are doing even better than before. If she moans that you didn't do that in the relationship, tell her that you're doing it now and it has been her decision to not be a part of it. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted April 1, 2017 Posted April 1, 2017 Me and my ex girl dated for almost 3 full years, and it's been over 3 months since she broke up with me saying she needed time and space. She said she fell out of love but had no real reasons for the split. I begged for for the first couple weeks, and In the last 3 months I would check up on her text her every couple weeks but she showed no interest. She would say things like "you never know what the future holds" or "give me time to forgive you" never really giving me closure. I wrote her a beautiful letter a month ago she never responded or even brought it up. Then the last time we spoke about 2 weeks ago, she said it bothered her that I bettered myself once she walked away from me, not when she asked me to during the relationship, she then proceeded to block me and my whole family on everything!! So I'm now in no contact for the last two weeks with no idea what she's up to, all I know is she said she's happy and she loves her new job. We broke up a little after she quit her first job out of college, while I still have 2 years remaining till I graduate. She's 22 I'm 20. Forgive you for what?
Author Sjohnny08 Posted April 1, 2017 Author Posted April 1, 2017 Will she contact me though?! As I am continuing to better myself in every way needed while we are in no contact and I am blocked. She said she needs more time to forgive me because sometimes she didn't know if I respected her whether I was joking or serious she couldn't quite tell. She is Venezuela and most of her family doesn't speak much English. She's bilangual but she didn't think I respected where she came from and at times she asked me to do things like slow down on smoking marijuana and do better in school which obviously I still smoked but she did too with me all the time and I did pick up my grades. The serious problem is she doesn't want to wait for me 2 years to finish school even though I just transferred to to a school 1 hour away for next fall. Whereas our 3 years together we've had a long distance relationship 10 hours away. We would probably spend a weeks time together every month or so. Please help, it's been 4 months since she asked for the split and I can't move on it's been so hard I feel trapped and I want her in my life, she suddenly went from wanting to get married to asking for time and space and then leading to all this. She's scared of our future because all her friends already getting married or engaged she lives down south and they get serious at a younger age she's 22 I'm soon to be 21
fromheart Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Will she contact me though?! As I am continuing to better myself in every way needed while we are in no contact and I am blocked. She said she needs more time to forgive me because sometimes she didn't know if I respected her whether I was joking or serious she couldn't quite tell. She is Venezuela and most of her family doesn't speak much English. She's bilangual but she didn't think I respected where she came from and at times she asked me to do things like slow down on smoking marijuana and do better in school which obviously I still smoked but she did too with me all the time and I did pick up my grades. The serious problem is she doesn't want to wait for me 2 years to finish school even though I just transferred to to a school 1 hour away for next fall. Whereas our 3 years together we've had a long distance relationship 10 hours away. We would probably spend a weeks time together every month or so. Please help, it's been 4 months since she asked for the split and I can't move on it's been so hard I feel trapped and I want her in my life, she suddenly went from wanting to get married to asking for time and space and then leading to all this. She's scared of our future because all her friends already getting married or engaged she lives down south and they get serious at a younger age she's 22 I'm soon to be 21 So what does she need to forgive? You going to school? Having a vape which she herself does? As for your chosen career path being a serious problem for her, there are plenty of men who have no chosen career path for her to choose from. There are plenty of doormats available for her to order around, and do as they are told. The serious problem is herself. I wouldn't recommend getting involved with her on a committed level. I'm a bit older than you and if I date a younger woman I fully give them the freedom to come and go, as I know that at that age they are changing all the time and who they are now, might not be who they are in a few months. A 22 year old woman is usually at a time when she is experimenting, discovering herself and having fun. This one though is actually showing signs of insecure, controlling and abusive behavior. Learn to recognize this and not be blinded by her other attributes which I'm sure are very attractive. Walk away if someone is not supportive of your career path.
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