palmsand Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Matched with a girl on Tinder this week. She had no profile info at all so I asked her out to a movie on the third message for lack of anything to talk about. Amazingly she said yes and sent her address and number. I picked her up since she has no car. I thought it seemed a bit much giving out her address to a perfect stranger and getting into his car at night, but she did. The date went really well, flowing conversation and really good chemistry, just felt very natural and right being close to her. It ended with us making out for a while when I dropped her off. I felt like I could have slept with her that night if she didn't have a roommate, which meant no privacy. We planned to get together sunday, but I messaged her and haven't heard back the last couple of days. So I'm wondering if I was just a free night out to her? She's in tough financial straits and said she hadn't been to the movies for a year because she can't afford it. More concerning is how she could put on that romantic act so successfully if she never intended to see me again? Kind of makes me question my judgement a little.
Redhead14 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Matched with a girl on Tinder this week. She had no profile info at all so I asked her out to a movie on the third message for lack of anything to talk about. Amazingly she said yes and sent her address and number. I picked her up since she has no car. I thought it seemed a bit much giving out her address to a perfect stranger and getting into his car at night, but she did. The date went really well, flowing conversation and really good chemistry, just felt very natural and right being close to her. It ended with us making out for a while when I dropped her off. I felt like I could have slept with her that night if she didn't have a roommate, which meant no privacy. We planned to get together sunday, but I messaged her and haven't heard back the last couple of days. So I'm wondering if I was just a free night out to her? She's in tough financial straits and said she hadn't been to the movies for a year because she can't afford it. More concerning is how she could put on that romantic act so successfully if she never intended to see me again? Kind of makes me question my judgement a little. You set yourself up for failure . . . taking a date to the movies on a first date doesn't allow you to "connect" with each other, #1. And, you need to work on your conversation skills if you taking a date to the movies because you think there's nothing to talk about. Sounds kinda dull and uninspiring, so I'm not surprised if she's not going to go on another date. You need to up your "game" a little in the dating arena. And, when you're meeting new people from OLD for the first time, you don't spend a lot of money. You meet for a drink or two, make sure they are who they say they are and look like their pictures and then decide if you want a "real" date. Movies are pretty expensive these days, and if she's that young and likes to go to the movies, she'll probably go for it. I thought it seemed a bit much giving out her address to a perfect stranger and getting into his car at night, but she did. -- I agree. She's not too bright or safety conscious. Keep moving and don't bother with her. 5
smackie9 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Maybe she was just using dating to get a free meal or whatever.....her return was making out and possible sex for your troubles. Sounds like a pretty straight deal.
Author palmsand Posted March 31, 2017 Author Posted March 31, 2017 I agree. But I always got the impression this was more a hookup, not talking/connection thing. But we did get to talk a while as we were really early getting to the movie. I spent $12 on her, isn't that about as cheap as it gets? I guess it's weird that she gave every indication that it went really well if it didn't?
Author palmsand Posted March 31, 2017 Author Posted March 31, 2017 (edited) Maybe she was just using dating to get a free meal or whatever.....her return was making out and possible sex for your troubles. Sounds like a pretty straight deal. Totally, I think it was worth it for me, a nice night out. Kinda bummed I won't see her again though. I would never seriously date her. She's not the most successful in life and seems pretty irresponsible. I'd just be looking for something physical. Edited March 31, 2017 by palmsand
ManyDissapoint Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Maybe she was just using dating to get a free meal or whatever.....her return was making out and possible sex for your troubles. Sounds like a pretty straight deal. Not the straightest of deals.
dumbass2 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 It was just a first date. Did you have a good time? I would guess yes and that is better than a lot of people that go on a first date. You'll learn that some people don't think making out or holding hands or any kind of fooling around really means anything. They just live in the moment. Some people can just jump from person to person and be all lovey dovey and then disappear. Might have something to do with their upbringing or past relationships and the way they were treated. Don't contact her and if she contacts you then if you want to go have a good time, sounds like you should go. Just keep the date on the less expensive end and enjoy her for that evening and expect nothing more right now.
mightycpa Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 You could have slept with her, except you were too shy because of a roommate? Sounds like she was ready to pay for the date and you made it free. Where else can you watch a movie AND get laid for less than $30? Or, maybe her internet connection is suspended for non-payment, or you fat-fingered the number you sent the text to, and she never got the message, or something like that, and if so, what she must think about you now! Send ANOTHER message. It's not begging.
Author palmsand Posted March 31, 2017 Author Posted March 31, 2017 I really don't think I could have slept with her that night. She rents in a house with 13 other people, five in her room. Don't think that would have worked. She also lives almost an hour away and had work the next morning so it was just bad timing. I texted her before meeting so the number is good. I just sent another message more suggestive about hooking up, so I'll see what happens. Just shooting in the dark here.
basil67 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Does she know that you would not have seriously dated her? That you really just wanted her for sex? If so, it would totally justify her disappearing. Given that you don't want to date her, really don't see that you have cause for complaint.
Author palmsand Posted March 31, 2017 Author Posted March 31, 2017 She definitely didn't know that, I didn't either until I talked to her some. I also had some privileged information. My buddy matched with her a while back but she just stopped talking to him, never met him. So I took that as a hint that she was not looking for anything serious or things may have gone farther. I'm just bummed I had a chance for a hookup and it didn't happen. Not my fault I'm convinced.
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