fmfan08 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Fortunately I'm not invested in this girl enough for it to bother me, but I am confused with the situation. She started talking to me on POF on Monday asking for my number and a possible date (she had originally spoken to me a month ago but I left the site, so she recontacted me). Anyway I was like sure and gave her my number. She contacted me on Tuesday where we arranged the details, where I was taking her, where to meet, what time, etc and she was like "Perfect, I'd love that, etc". Fast forward to Friday and I hit her up at mid-day saying "Hey, I'll see you as planned tonight". She replies "Oh ****, I forgot!". I reply "I see, maybe some other time then". She says "Yeah. I'm heading back to [her home town, which is 50 miles away] as I've got a doctors appointment in the morning". I replied "Okay, whenever you've got free time to meet up let me know". She says "Will do. Thanks for understanding". She works/lives 5 miles away in the next town and I know previously she says sometimes she has to go work in her hometown as I remember asking her for a meal one weekend a month ago and she said she had to work back in her hometown. What confuses me is why she would have to go about 50 miles for a doctors appointment in her hometown when she was the one wanting the date with me? I'm talking to other girls, but it's just frustrating because I could have made other plans. Did I deal with this correctly?
Ieris Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 I think you did fine, personally I wouldn't give her a second chance because if someone was interested they wouldn't forget about your date in the first place. Move on swiftly... 2
PegNosePete Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 if someone was interested they wouldn't forget about your date in the first place. Move on swiftly... Exactly. While you were getting excited about meeting, she hadn't even given it a 2nd thought, to the extent that she not only made other plans, but also failed to notify you of the cancellation. If you hadn't sent the confirmation then you would have been stood up. NEXT. 1
Author fmfan08 Posted March 31, 2017 Author Posted March 31, 2017 Exactly. While you were getting excited about meeting, she hadn't even given it a 2nd thought, to the extent that she not only made other plans, but also failed to notify you of the cancellation. If you hadn't sent the confirmation then you would have been stood up. NEXT. I've been in stood up in the past which is why I now deploy the old confirmation text on the day. Maybe if we'd have contacted in those three days leading up to it, then she might have remembered.. But I don't do text conversations. Then again she could have hit me up, unless she was annoyed that I never bothered initiating but not worth the hassle down the line if that's how she is. I deleted her number anyway, if she does text again in a week I'll ask who it is so she sees that I don't have her number anymore. 1
PegNosePete Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Maybe if we'd have contacted in those three days leading up to it, then she might have remembered. Do you really want to meet someone who needs reminding? She's obviously pretty uninterested if she can't even remember a date on her own without being prompted. unless she was annoyed that I never bothered initiating but not worth the hassle down the line if that's how she is. Exactly, who needs that kind of drama llama. 1
Redhead14 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 It may be that she had been excited about your date request and she accepted but forgot about the doctor appointment . . . However, if she really had been excited, if she had a brain in her head, she would say "I forgot about the doctor appointment", not that she forgot about you and she would/should have offered another date soon. All that being said, I'd say she did forget about you because she didn't reach out to you to reschedule when she remembered the doctor appointment. Anyway, I'd move on from her, she's a ditz
Space Ritual Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 It s because she s probably going to go out with somebody else. "I have a Dr. Appointment" is much like "My best friend developed an incurable disease on Thursday and I have to watch her cat". or. "For some reason the calendar on my phone went on the fritz and I couldn't remember when we were going out. She simply got what she considered a better offer and didn't have the guts to let you know until you contacted her. That's the breaks. Don't talk to her again. 1
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