Zchris2797 Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 (edited) This is what he texted me after 2 months of dating "Hey I'm sorry that I haven't gotten back to you it's just I got to thinking a lot and I wasn't sure what to say but I just don't think I'm in a place right now where I can focus on being with someone else there's just a lot of things going on in my life right now that I need to focus on and goals that I need to meet for myself and I feel like I'm hurting you and I don't want to keep hurting you so I think it's best for you to move on and forget about me well at least in that way I never meant to do this to you but I'm just now ready to start something new and I didn't know that but I do now and I'm sorry it has nothing to do with you you're an amazing person you're really sweet and you deserve someone who can give you more". I'm gay also and the guy I like stopped talking to me at first because he thought I wasn't ready for a relationship but we started talking again. Now he says he isn't ready. I'm really confused he says he likes being chased so I started pursing him more, but then he says I text to much. The biggest problem is the lack of communication. He has horrible trust issues also like the moment we started talking he wanted to be exclusive. He's accused me of cheating before and has ignored me alot but in person everything's different fine. I really do care about him but I'm not sure how to handle this. He's very independent and doesn't like to depend on anyone or open up about deep stuff. Please I just need some advice. He also has bipolar but I can careless love has no boundaries in my opinion Edited March 30, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 OMG! Oh honey. His mishmash of babbled cliches reads like Breakup Excuse Bingo. Don't take it personally. You could be the most attractive guy on earth but you can not possibly be wanted by every single person you come across. Nobody can. He's not into you, but the next guy will be. His cliches are insulting, don't you give them another thought, they do not deserve your headspace. 3
Redhead14 Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 This is what he texted me after 2 months of dating "Hey I'm sorry that I haven't gotten back to you it's just I got to thinking a lot and I wasn't sure what to say but I just don't think I'm in a place right now where I can focus on being with someone else there's just a lot of things going on in my life right now that I need to focus on and goals that I need to meet for myself and I feel like I'm hurting you and I don't want to keep hurting you so I think it's best for you to move on and forget about me well at least in that way I never meant to do this to you but I'm just now ready to start something new and I didn't know that but I do now and I'm sorry it has nothing to do with you you're an amazing person you're really sweet and you deserve someone who can give you more". I'm gay also and the guy I like stopped talking to me at first because he thought I wasn't ready for a relationship but we started talking again. Now he says he isn't ready. I'm really confused he says he likes being chased so I started pursing him more, but then he says I text to much. The biggest problem is the lack of communication. He has horrible trust issues also like the moment we started talking he wanted to be exclusive. He's accused me of cheating before and has ignored me alot but in person everything's different fine. I really do care about him but I'm not sure how to handle this. He's very independent and doesn't like to depend on anyone or open up about deep stuff. Please I just need some advice. He also has bipolar but I can careless love has no boundaries in my opinion At two months of dating, you should be having fun if it even has a chance to go further. There is entirely too much push/pull going on here and bipolar explains a lot. It also says things won't likely change. I say . . . if it isn't fun, run! 2
Zahara Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 He's telling you he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. It would be time for you to step away and move on. Love has no boundaries is silly stuff. Boundaries are important especially when someone is telling you that they are not invested in your anymore. It allows you to save yourself from hurt and not to allow people to play with your emotions. It also doesn't sound like he is emotionally healthy or available. Listen to what he is saying and shut the door. 4
kendahke Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 He also has bipolar but I can careless love has no boundaries in my opinion The boundary in question here isn't yours or love's. It's his and he's made his boundary as far as you're concerned quite explicit: "Hey I'm sorry that I haven't gotten back to you it's just I got to thinking a lot and I wasn't sure what to say but I just don't think I'm in a place right now where I can focus on being with someone else there's just a lot of things going on in my life right now that I need to focus on and goals that I need to meet for myself and I feel like I'm hurting you and I don't want to keep hurting you so I think it's best for you to move on and forget about me well at least in that way I never meant to do this to you but I'm just now ready to start something new and I didn't know that but I do now and I'm sorry it has nothing to do with you you're an amazing person you're really sweet and you deserve someone who can give you more" Respect it. He doesn't want a relationship with you.
caringsister Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 He likes you and does not want to hurt your feelings, deems you as sweet and amazing, but he isn't feeling the relationship thing with you. Rather then string you along he is letting you down as easy as possible. As he says, you deserve someone who can give you more. Believe him and move forward. He isn't right for you.
smackie9 Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Bi-polar, has trust issues? good lord run for the hills.
CryForNoOne Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 OMG! Oh honey. His mishmash of babbled cliches reads like Breakup Excuse Bingo. Don't take it personally. You could be the most attractive guy on earth but you can not possibly be wanted by every single person you come across. Nobody can. He's not into you, but the next guy will be. His cliches are insulting, don't you give them another thought, they do not deserve your headspace. LOL. I was thinking the same exact thing. When I need a simple legal contract I google it and fill in the blanks. It's like he did the same exact thing for a breakup text... 1
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