What percent of girls/guys do you people find too unattractive to date?

[stemgeek]

For me, I would say about 5-10% of girls who I would reject on the basis of looks. I'm curious about what are your guys thoughts on it?

[telemakus]

I'd say I find about 20% of women attractive straight off. Add another 30% that become attractive with things other than looks.

[basil67]

Morbid obesity is the one thing which would put me off. Not so much from the looks, but from a tactile sense and general fitness level.

 

Obesity is not common where I live, so there's a very high percentage of men who I'd consider.

[Els]

Solely appearance? Probably about 10% within my age range, mostly due to obesity. Obviously, if you mean of any age, the number goes way up.

 

If you add in everything else (personality, compatibility, etc) the number goes way up again.

[Jj66]

More than half.

 

The first time I was on tinder I power swiped everyone I would have been willing to date based on looks alone until tinder told me I was out of likes. I had no idea what I was doing. I don't recommend this strategy, btw. If you get matches they will alll pour in at the same time. Then the women are not going to like it when you let the match become stale when you don't have time to message them all or become unresponsive because you are too busy talking to your other matches.

 

Anyway: Pattern seemed like this. Left. Left. Right. Left left left. Right. Left right. Left left. Left. Right right.

 

More than half were left swipes, i.e, women I wouldn't want to date based on looks alone.

[normal person]

I would say I only find ~5% of women attractive. I'm well aware of how picky this is.

[Mysterio]

Its hard to say. There are some women that are good looking, but based on the attitude. I would not date them. Its very hard to put percentages.

 

So I have to use where I frequent for the most part.

 

Work at the hospital. I would say that 98% are attractive.

 

The Two Pubs I go to where there is music. 88% are attractive

 

The Gym. Hard to say. I guess 58%.

 

 

What I look for in attraction is warmth and interaction. So it can't be. I think she is hot and there is no interaction between us.

 

Based on body type. I find the skinny women are more aloof and cold. The women that are fit a little bit warmer. Semi heavy set-Happier. Obese I don't find I interact with as much.

[central]

For women my age, at most 10% are attractive. When expanding the age downwards, perhaps 25% are attractive. It may vary a little depending on geography and the health/obesity of the people living there.

[CaliforniaGirl]

Oh, a lot. A guy has to really be something special in order for me to be attracted. This isn't based solely (or even as a majority) on looks, though, in case that's what this thread is getting at. I need the whole package. Mostly though, I need to know that he can give and share. For some weird reason, that seems to be the hardest thing for a whole lot of people. I won't say "men" because IMO this is far from gender exclusive.

[preraph]

I find a very small percentage attractive and would break it down in the type of way Mysterio did. If it was in Walmart, probably zero. If it was at a gig where there was music I like, probably 15%. I'm more about culture type. A guy can be perfection in looks, but if he's real clean cut and conservative, I'm not usually going to be interested or attracted. I recently went to a concert of my favorite artist but it was at an arena, and of course, most people were older now. When young, there would have been a few people I'd find attractive there. I only saw one that I thought was cute, but I think it was because he was young and cute. My crowd's getting too old to be cute!! Including myself, of course.

 

I'm very specialized. I'm not saying that's a good thing. If you're that way, you have to find your exact niche because random people are not appealing generally.

[Silverstring]

So attraction is a much broader category than just looks, but I'm assuming the OP meant looks alone. So where I live, people are pretty healthy and our overweight percentages definitely are less than what's average for North America so I'd say for me:

 

~30% - Not at all attracted to.

~5% - Total head turners.

~20% - Attractive.

~45% - Neutral. Not attracted or repulsed, would date if personality was compatible...most of my relationships / dates have come from this category as I'm only an average looking person myself...

[RecentChange]

Context is really important here.

 

Percent of US population that is attractive? Or limited to your age range? Or your demographics?

 

I split my time between San Jose and San Francisco – both of these cities consistently rank high, if not first place when it comes to “healthiest cities” in the US. We have the lowest obesity rates in the nation, lowest rates of smoking, high rates of physical activity – which all results in more attractive people (healthy = attractive!)

 

Add to that this region is chalk full of young, educated professionals – I would say there are a lot of attractive people around.

 

Now, the percent of people I will find attractive at a trendy cocktail lounge, vs. the streets of the Financial District, vs – lets say a lower end store on a bad side of town are going to very.

 

Even if we are talking about purely physical attraction, beyond the face you are born with, fitness, clothing, grooming, posture etc are going to affect my attraction.

 

I am not set on a “type” I can be attracted to men of various physical statures (but not obese), skin colors, to an extent age. I am attracted to men from different walks of life (blue collar, artist, professional) – I would say on my daily interactions, I probably consider a good 30%+ of guys “attractive”. Fit, well dressed, well groomed.

[curiouslysearching]

Context is really important here.

 

Percent of US population that is attractive? Or limited to your age range? Or your demographics?

 

I split my time between San Jose and San Francisco – both of these cities consistently rank high, if not first place when it comes to “healthiest cities” in the US. We have the lowest obesity rates in the nation, lowest rates of smoking, high rates of physical activity – which all results in more attractive people (healthy = attractive!)

 

Add to that this region is chalk full of young, educated professionals – I would say there are a lot of attractive people around.

 

Now, the percent of people I will find attractive at a trendy cocktail lounge, vs. the streets of the Financial District, vs – lets say a lower end store on a bad side of town are going to very.

 

Even if we are talking about purely physical attraction, beyond the face you are born with, fitness, clothing, grooming, posture etc are going to affect my attraction.

 

I am not set on a “type” I can be attracted to men of various physical statures (but not obese), skin colors, to an extent age. I am attracted to men from different walks of life (blue collar, artist, professional) – I would say on my daily interactions, I probably consider a good 30%+ of guys “attractive”. Fit, well dressed, well groomed.

 

I agree with RC that you might need to put some parameters on this sampling. Regardless, I am from a very athletic environment hence women that are athletic, fit, outgoing, etc tend to appeal to me. I do believe that MOST of us have some SHALLOWNESS about us.

[CryForNoOne]

I've actually counted attractive women when bored at high traffic venues like a football stadium or amusement park - as in no, no, no, no, yes, no... I probably find 2% of women attractive enough to date. I think this is part of my misery. A friend of mine will say a girl is "hot" and more often than not I look at him and think "really?" It's also very context sensitive. I'm talking about the general public. If you go to a trendy spot it probably goes up to 10% but it's still bad. Then once they talk, it plummets even further...

[JuneJulySeptember]

For me, I would say about 5-10% of girls who I would reject on the basis of looks. I'm curious about what are your guys thoughts on it?

 

In my age range, probably about 10-15% or so.

 

But I wouldn't reject them. I'd play it out and see how it goes. I actually went on a few dates with such a woman, I wasn't really attracted to her at all, but I didn't really care, she seemed pretty cool. She ended up rejecting me.

 

I find a ridiculous amount of women attractive. I've pretty much fantasized with having sex with all of my female friends at one point or another.

Edited March 30, 2017 by JuneJulySeptember

[CptInsano]

For me it breaks down for me along the following lines within my age group:

 

5% - "Let's book the flight to Vegas!"

10% - "She's rather hot!"

30% - "She's attractive!"

30% - "Maybe there are other qualities."

10% - "Rather not"

10% - "No!!!"

5% - "Maybe homosexuality is an option after all?"

 

It's not only looks, her demeanor and her personality do factor in, but it doesn't change the numbers a whole lot.

[basil67]

It's interesting how the different answers are coming in. Some are answering the question of 'what percentage would you date?" while others are simply answering how many people they find attractive. But they are the answers to two different questions.

 

I said that I wouldn't rule out a large percentage of men. But what do I actually find attractive? That's a low figure. About 10%

 

So, while I don't find many men attractive, their looks wouldn't stop me from dating them.

[rushed]

When I was on Tinder, the percentage I'd swipe right on was really, really low. Maybe 1 out of every 30 guys.

[CaliforniaGirl]

As someone said, we do need some parameters at this point as we're all interpreting the question differently.

 

A few people have narrowed it to just their age group and some are saying we are just talking about the physical aspect...if these are both the case then I hate to say it but at almost 50, that percentage of men I'd go for (or most women would go for) just on looks alone is getting very small indeed. Like...really really small. V. A younger, unlined, fitter man? Small. At that point the guy really has to be bringing something else to the table.

 

But as I said before, I'd never date based on looks alone anyway. Maybe if we narrowed this down it would be easier to answer..."looks alone" remains a hypothetical to me.

[RecentChange]

I said that I wouldn't rule out a large percentage of men. But what do I actually find attractive? That's a low figure. About 10%

 

So, while I don't find many men attractive, their looks wouldn't stop me from dating them.

 

Ha! And I am opposite. I find a lot of men attractive, but a small percentage of those I would actually want to date.

[CptInsano]

Ha! And I am opposite. I find a lot of men attractive, but a small percentage of those I would actually want to date.

 

I am the same with women. I find more women attractive than I'm willing to date. Some of them won't find me attractive, others are also attracted to me, but I know by now that it will never work out. There is only a smaller subset of attractive women that I'm compatible with.

[CryForNoOne]

For me, I would say about 5-10% of girls who I would reject on the basis of looks. I'm curious about what are your guys thoughts on it?

 

Geez if I found 90% of women attractive, I probably would have died of a VD by now...

 

This thread is fascinating. I used to think I was somehow wired completely different than other guys. Some guys will sleep with any woman with a pulse. I thought it was just that they have no self restraint. I didn't realize it was because they actually find them all attractive. There are so few women that I find attractive, that when I do find one, I'm willing to tolerate a lot of BS just to bed them. So it kinda suggests my sex drive is no different, I just find far fewer women attractive.

 

My big problem is that there are many more women that I would date than actually sleep with. For every potential date I would sleep with, there are five I think to myself "dammit I wish she was just a little bit more attractive..."

Edited March 31, 2017 by CryForNoOne

[RecentChange]

Gosh it is funny how different we are.

 

While I find many men physically attractive, enough that I would probably enjoy sex with them - putting up with BS? Hell no. Total libido killer for me.

 

I have a higher threshold for dating than I do for sex / physical attraction.

 

I have been amazed by how much crap some men will put up with just because she is "hot".

 

Why would you consider dating someone that you wouldn't want to have sex with?

[basil67]

Ha! And I am opposite. I find a lot of men attractive, but a small percentage of those I would actually want to date.

 

You misunderstand. Their lack of looks wouldn't stop me from dating them....but their personality might stop me!

[CryForNoOne]

Why would you consider dating someone that you wouldn't want to have sex with?

 

Because if you only want to sleep with 2% of women, if you factor in all the competition, that's not a lot of dates. So eventually you lower your standards just to go on dates...