SevenCity Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 You'll never know unless you ask. I'm sure you won't get sued for sexual harassment for a job that is likely off the books. Go for it. If it doesn't work out get another one. Who cares? But, this reminds me of that episode of Seinfeld where he dated his cleanig lady and she was charging him for sex and naps lol! What happened with the other chick? 3
Dis Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 Omg K, the title of this thread cracked me up!!! Lmao You're really funny lol When you no longer require her sevices, ask her out Dont do it while she's working for you because you're right, she'll feel trapped and obligated...or it would just be awkward Just wait awhile, once you've given her her last check, ask her out Good luck! 2
Hoosfoos Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 When the renos are done, ask her if she would like to meet up with you in some different setting. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 (edited) it would be extremely awkward to ask her whiel she was in your home and you were paying her to clean your home... any sort of situation where you are placing money into a woman's hand or bank account.... should not be a pre cursor to asking for a date..she is obligated to clean for you...dont mess with her feelings of obligation.....or feelings about the need for her to work for you for money.... .......its not right;.. wait until sh eno longer works for you ..fire her and you would definitely be what i would consider a selfish man who had no qualms about negging a woman to get a date.. your fired but here youre hot enough ill date you instead even though i just sunk your employment so now you have to worry about money and finding another job.................. be respectful of her position in your home and be appreciative of her work ethic/...........deb Edited April 2, 2017 by todreaminblue 2
Author KBob Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 What happened with the other chick? Are you referring to the single mom? Conversation with her got weird and confrontational before we even met up so I pulled the plug. If you're referring to the one I made the Love Bombing thread about, she's coming over tonight but she leaves in a week to go back to Ontario for the summer so it'll be a short fling.
Author KBob Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 Omg K, the title of this thread cracked me up!!! Lmao You're really funny lol You were probably thinking off the bad that she's old I've decided I am going to play it cool and just build a good rep with her. If I get some sure signs she's interested, I'll act on them and if we end up dating then it'll be with the understanding that I'm not going to employ her anymore. 2
Dis Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 You were probably thinking off the bad that she's old I've decided I am going to play it cool and just build a good rep with her. If I get some sure signs she's interested, I'll act on them and if we end up dating then it'll be with the understanding that I'm not going to employ her anymore. Hahaha! No I didnt think she was old, the title was just hilarious to me! Good plan! Keep in mind, if she is interested she's going to keep it really low key/barely noticable because you're her employer I hope it works out! 2
CryForNoOne Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 What h3ll is up with randomly hot cleaning ladies??? A few days ago I saw a very attractive lady in her mid-late 20's walking out of an apartment complex across the street from me with a basket of cleaning supplies. I thought "is that a costume, fetish outfit, strip-o-gram?" I saw her again yesterday and realize now she is my neighbor and on her way to work. I think my place is overdue for a cleaning... 1
CryForNoOne Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Yeah I would steer clear because you are like her boss. Not that it wouldn't work out, it's just not a chance I think is worth it C'mon cleaning ladies (men) are a dime a dozen. Ask her out as she's leaving. If you creep her out, hire someone else. Nothing to lose here. A good friend of mine started dating his physical therapist and it started the same EXACT way.
Author KBob Posted April 8, 2017 Author Posted April 8, 2017 UPDATE Had her clean the place again today, and I'm about 90% sure nothing will ever come of it. When I texted her at the beginning of the week to line up a time she didn't know who it was, which was a bad sign. I was busy with renovations so I didn't talk to her a whole lot, but I was bugging her about being a little hung over and it came out over a few indirect sentences that it was from watching movies with a buddy last night. I don't want to jump to conclusions but usually in that scenario, buddy = F buddy. Letting that info slip isn't a very good sign. However, I do find it weird that she's that comfortable with telling me such personal info; like we were talking about taking melatonin for sleeping and that led to her telling me she's on birth control and how it messes with her hormones and cycles. I can't think of many women whom I barely know telling me that kind of personal info... I think I'd be friend zoned but either way I'm not going to pursue this anymore. If I catch any obvious interest then we'll see, but for now she's simply someone who cleans my house. 1
joseb Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 and that led to her telling me she's on birth control and how it messes with her hormones and cycles. I can't think of many women whom I barely know telling me that kind of personal info... I think I'd be friend zoned but either way I'm not going to pursue this anymore. If I catch any obvious interest then we'll see, but for now she's simply someone who cleans my house. It sounds like it. Hold off on the French maids outfit for now... 1
phineas Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Leave a half empty box of OKAMOTO BEYOND SEVEN MEGA BIG BOY condoms on your nightstand. That will make her interested. 1
Author KBob Posted April 9, 2017 Author Posted April 9, 2017 Leave a half empty box of OKAMOTO BEYOND SEVEN MEGA BIG BOY condoms on your nightstand. That will make her interested. Brilliant! That was very brand specific.
SevenCity Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Are you referring to the single mom? Conversation with her got weird and confrontational before we even met up so I pulled the plug. If you're referring to the one I made the Love Bombing thread about, she's coming over tonight but she leaves in a week to go back to Ontario for the summer so it'll be a short fling. Yea love bomber. How did it go?
SevenCity Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 UPDATE Had her clean the place again today, and I'm about 90% sure nothing will ever come of it. When I texted her at the beginning of the week to line up a time she didn't know who it was, which was a bad sign. I was busy with renovations so I didn't talk to her a whole lot, but I was bugging her about being a little hung over and it came out over a few indirect sentences that it was from watching movies with a buddy last night. I don't want to jump to conclusions but usually in that scenario, buddy = F buddy. Letting that info slip isn't a very good sign. However, I do find it weird that she's that comfortable with telling me such personal info; like we were talking about taking melatonin for sleeping and that led to her telling me she's on birth control and how it messes with her hormones and cycles. I can't think of many women whom I barely know telling me that kind of personal info... I think I'd be friend zoned but either way I'm not going to pursue this anymore. If I catch any obvious interest then we'll see, but for now she's simply someone who cleans my house. That's odd for sure. Don't turn her away if she starts showing signs of interest. What I would have done after the birth control thing was say you're dating and she likely would have told you her status and take the convo from there. Even if she isn't interested she might have a hot friend as they tend to flock together. 1
Author KBob Posted April 9, 2017 Author Posted April 9, 2017 Yea love bomber. How did it go? Good, she's leaving for Hawaii tomorrow for 8 days. I'll likely see her once more when she returns before she leaves to go out east for the summer. I don't think I'd pursue anything with her when she gets back, there some weird red flags: roommate is an ex, she tried storing her tires at my place while she would be in Hawaii, some stories don't quite add up, etc. It was a nice fling, good company and good sex.
SevenCity Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Good, she's leaving for Hawaii tomorrow for 8 days. I'll likely see her once more when she returns before she leaves to go out east for the summer. I don't think I'd pursue anything with her when she gets back, there some weird red flags: roommate is an ex, she tried storing her tires at my place while she would be in Hawaii, some stories don't quite add up, etc. It was a nice fling, good company and good sex. Win win. Well done! 1
Dis Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Ohh I'm sorry K Seems like she was over sharing because she looked at you like a friend, rather than potentional bf or FWB The birth control thing might've been an awkward attempt at flirting though....When I tell potentional bfs I'm on the pill they get super psyched about that so....maybe???
Author KBob Posted April 10, 2017 Author Posted April 10, 2017 Ohh I'm sorry K Seems like she was over sharing because she looked at you like a friend, rather than potentional bf or FWB The birth control thing might've been an awkward attempt at flirting though....When I tell potentional bfs I'm on the pill they get super psyched about that so....maybe??? Hmmm she is definitely a little awkward. But then again you tell them that when it's already established that there's a mutual romantic interest, correct? I'm assuming you don't just blurt out "hey btw I'm on the pill" to a guy who hasn't asked you out yet
Fair Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 (edited) I would tread extremely carefully with this one. This is not the same at all as for instance asking out a subordinate or a co-worker in a normal working environment where other people are about. This is one person working pretty damn personally for you within your home. Once she knows you are attracted and if she is not interested her knowing of your attraction will always enter her mind when she works for you. I think that is a heck of a lot of pressure to put on someone and she, working alone in your home environment may never feel comfortable working for you each and every visit. If she's uncomfortable enough she'll quit. No doubt she's doing more than one cleaning job if she's on buy and sell. Basically he's a 'client', not really her boss. She's in business for herself. . Edited April 10, 2017 by Fair
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