jgraham11 Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Just want to get the consensus of some of the regulars on here with their thoughts I'm considering going completely analog for the first time in over a year. No online dating! However, I can't help but feel i'll be putting myself at a severe disadvantage since nowadays online dating is so critical Thoughts?
Popsicle Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 It can't hurt to just try it for a while. May I ask why you're getting offline?
coolheadal Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Digital is the way to go, and analog just not going to cut it. Remember we are all strangers. I've tried it both ways the digital way works best for me. Back in the day I had more choices in women than today, but I've made a lot of friends along the way too. What dating site do you like to use?
Author jgraham11 Posted March 30, 2017 Author Posted March 30, 2017 It can't hurt to just try it for a while. May I ask why you're getting offline? I like getting to know a girl without having the end game being obvious (dating/relationship). With online dating you kind of know the outset from the very beginning. I mean the major sites like OKC, Eharmony and Match (the one I use) all the people on there are looking for relationships (usually LTR) and so am I, but I like going about it a different way. Maybe i'll go back to it, I may even have no choice
Author jgraham11 Posted March 30, 2017 Author Posted March 30, 2017 Digital is the way to go, and analog just not going to cut it. Remember we are all strangers. I've tried it both ways the digital way works best for me. Back in the day I had more choices in women than today, but I've made a lot of friends along the way too. What dating site do you like to use? I've always been a Match guy. I gave OKC a chance awhile back, but I didn't like it quite as much. I don't plan on renewing my Match subscription though. The convos I have on there seem so forced at times. If I do go back to OLD it'll probably be OKC since it's free
coolheadal Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 (edited) I've always been a Match guy. I gave OKC a chance awhile back, but I didn't like it quite as much. I don't plan on renewing my Match subscription though. The convos I have on there seem so forced at times. If I do go back to OLD it'll probably be OKC since it's free If you need help with OKC I can teach how to get them to contact you but it's fun on OKC. I am not on there now because I am done. I usually disable the account or just delete it. Match and the others I don't see the point to pay for those services. Years ago you could hire a service for $300 and they would match you up with women. I've been on radio dating shows. Yeah I've done a lot. Learned a lot also. If you ever seen a woman smiling at you then get your butt in gear and go smile back and talk to them. That's in the face than to hide your face behind a computer monitor. I like the online experience when it first started out it was tough, but there are more women today doing that way. Married ones are on there also so be careful not to date them. You will never get what you want out of them and they always go back to their husbands to live with. Even if they're in a different room in the house. For me there was many women, but I down to one there is another one but she's has complicated and large family other issues I can't deal with. I wish it wasn't that way. Too bad, but I told we can be in the friend-zone. The other lady some issues but she's happy so that's a bonus. She chased me down so that's a plus too. We have fun, that's what counts. Edited March 30, 2017 by coolheadal
Popsicle Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 I like getting to know a girl without having the end game being obvious (dating/relationship). But why? Guys who think like you are the ones who get friendzoned.
coolheadal Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Just be yourself and show interest in them otherwise it's not going to work out.
Curiousroxy86 Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Just want to get the consensus of some of the regulars on here with their thoughts I'm considering going completely analog for the first time in over a year. No online dating! However, I can't help but feel i'll be putting myself at a severe disadvantage since nowadays online dating is so critical Thoughts? what are you trying to get out of this? I mean are you wanting to be in a relationship or married. if so do you think you have a better chance by going analog or less chance? if you don't care about being in a relationship I say go ahead. if you do care I would personally just consider if what you are doing really helps or hurt. I don't see it hurting to simply keep up with old if you are serious about finding a relationship simply because its an added avenue if that makes sense.....not a guarantee but it gives an additional option to get what you want. again assuming your goal is relationship oriented.
Author jgraham11 Posted March 30, 2017 Author Posted March 30, 2017 But why? Guys who think like you are the ones who get friendzoned. I've just never been very comfortable with OLD. It puts more pressure on the dates if you ask me. When you meet a girl at a bar, or through mutual friends, or in some real-life scenario the first time you meet them it isn't a coffee date. With OLD you have no choice in many ways but to jump right into some sort of date. I'm not saying some girl I meet a bar/mutual friends will friendzone (that could or could not happen), but I just like the first initial meeting being something that is just casual so if something is there it can blossom on its own. 1
Author jgraham11 Posted March 30, 2017 Author Posted March 30, 2017 what are you trying to get out of this? I mean are you wanting to be in a relationship or married. if so do you think you have a better chance by going analog or less chance? if you don't care about being in a relationship I say go ahead. if you do care I would personally just consider if what you are doing really helps or hurt. I don't see it hurting to simply keep up with old if you are serious about finding a relationship simply because its an added avenue if that makes sense.....not a guarantee but it gives an additional option to get what you want. again assuming your goal is relationship oriented. Well I don't know about married, but a LTR yeah. Marriage would come after how I feel about that. I'm 25 so I'm not exactly in a huge rush to get married. In the next 10 years I would hope though. It's hard to say whether I think i'd have a better chance or not. I didn't have a ton of luck before OLD, but even with OLD the people i'm meeting up with have a hard time connecting me and vice versa. Again, I think that comes down the impetus that is put on the relationship at the very outset. My comment directly above this kind of explains more of my reasoning. I'm going to probably give analog one more shot for 3-6 months. If not much comes from it then i'll go back to OLD on OkCupid or something
Popsicle Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 I've just never been very comfortable with OLD. It puts more pressure on the dates if you ask me. When you meet a girl at a bar, or through mutual friends, or in some real-life scenario the first time you meet them it isn't a coffee date. With OLD you have no choice in many ways but to jump right into some sort of date. I'm not saying some girl I meet a bar/mutual friends will friendzone (that could or could not happen), but I just like the first initial meeting being something that is just casual so if something is there it can blossom on its own. Well that I understand. It's true that OLD is not organic and it is so obvious. I hate that part of it too. It's better to meet someone in person if you can. So if you think you can meet enough girls organically, then go for it! 1
Redhead14 Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Just want to get the consensus of some of the regulars on here with their thoughts I'm considering going completely analog for the first time in over a year. No online dating! However, I can't help but feel i'll be putting myself at a severe disadvantage since nowadays online dating is so critical Thoughts? Do both . . . why does it have to be an either/or? And, let me remind you that before OLD, computers, social media, people were dating and getting married anyway. online dating is so critical -- Is it???????
Author jgraham11 Posted March 30, 2017 Author Posted March 30, 2017 (edited) Do both . . . why does it have to be an either/or? And, let me remind you that before OLD, computers, social media, people were dating and getting married anyway. online dating is so critical -- Is it??????? Nowadays, I feel like it is definitely. Before OLD people were getting married and dating, yeah, but that's also because they didn't have a computer... Now you don't even have to leave your house and you get to evaluate potential partners through a phone or computer. Popsicle used the term that I was looking for, but didn't use and that's "organic" there's just no flow to OLD (in my opinion/my experiences) Edited March 30, 2017 by jgraham11
preraph Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Take a break and hone your analog skills. Balance is everything. Get a "real" life going and then maybe you can still keep a foot in online. 2
mrs rubble Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 I spent 5 years online dating and then met my now husband in real life at a club I joined. He was on the same online dating site, but we'd never matched there!! 2
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