dollchick Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 I'm now 31. When I was 20 working in the emergency room a medic used to come and always catch my eye. He always would look at me and smile and gesture for me to smile back at him. I was totally crushing. Two years later I went to work at a private practice and just knew that my medic crush had gotten married. Fast foward three years ago I stumbled upon him on Facebook, saw he was divorced and no I sent him a request even though I was in a relationship. I messaged him hours after he accepted thanking him and it sparked him wanting to talk to me and get together. So he took me on a total of 4 dates. He was the perfect gentleman and treated me like an absolute princess. For Christmas he had an ornament made up with a picture of the both us that said it all started with a smile. After these dated he became distant and next thing I knew we were no longer dating. I was confused and even his friends assured me he really liked me. He told me I'm very different than any girl he's been with in a good way and it scared him. Since then he still keeps in touch with me via text. The last time I saw him will be two years this summer. He picked me up and went for ice cream. Everything was perfect and he told me as he took me home how he'd love for me to hang out with him again. Only for me to never see him since. Anytime I asked him to hang out he always has a million excuses and I feel like I'm chasing him. But yet he makes comments to me at tmes that show he has some kind of deep affection towards me. Things like he never has to give a second thought to hanging out with me, or how he would love to take me to the outer Banks one day, or how that Christmas gift was probably one of his most sentimental gifts he gave to a person. Any insights or how I can break his wall down?
smackie9 Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 Yes by confronting him....ask him "what are we doing here?" "I want a relationship with the possibility of marriage and kids." "Why are you keeping in touch with me?" "What are you trying to get out of this?" "I like you a lot, but if this is all I'm ever going to get with you, I can't be wasting my time here...." 1
kendahke Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 I'm curious: why do you want a relationship with a man who has walls put up? 1
Erik30 Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 You haven't seen this guy in two years, think about that... I doubt he's really interested. Maybe he's dating other women but likes to keep you around as a back up just in case 3
StormyEyes Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 You've been benched... being on the bench sucks. ?Benching? Is the New Ghosting 1
ashy555 Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 Ok.. So you're saying this guy has been stringing you along for TWO YEARS??? That is two years of your life wasted.. You need to move on before you waste any more time. I don't know what you are after essentially, but if you want children, you haven't got forever unfortunately. Forget this guy. In two years he hasn't made the effort to see you once. That means hes just not that into you. He may say it but trust me.. Actions speak much louder than words. In the meantime I am sure he is seeing and sleeping with other women. 3
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