LS15268 Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 I met this guy on match and had our first date 2weeks ago. He was out of town last week and on Monday I asked him to go out for our second date. He said that Wednesday mighat work but would have to move a work dinner (he had noted that he had three work dinners this week......he is a VP for a very large company). I texted him yesterday to ask if he was successful but said he had a very busy morning and still needs to speak to his EA. Today is now Wednesday and I have not heard back from him.....I have seen him (active) online this morning several times. He seemed very interested in going out with me but I just don't know anymore. Should I follow up or just move on??
Redhead14 Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 I met this guy on match and had our first date 2weeks ago. He was out of town last week and on Monday I asked him to go out for our second date. He said that Wednesday mighat work but would have to move a work dinner (he had noted that he had three work dinners this week......he is a VP for a very large company). I texted him yesterday to ask if he was successful but said he had a very busy morning and still needs to speak to his EA. Today is now Wednesday and I have not heard back from him.....I have seen him (active) online this morning several times. He seemed very interested in going out with me but I just don't know anymore. Should I follow up or just move on?? Let it sit. The ball is in his court. Sit back and observe. In the first few dates, you should let the man lead and do most of the intiating. After 3 or 4 solid dates, then you can and should do some initiating. You initiated, he responded positively, let him show you if he's really interested. Don't chase him. It's now Wednesday, you make plans for yourself. If he contacts you at the last minute, you're not available and let him offer another day with specifics. 3
StormyEyes Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 Let it sit. The ball is in his court. Sit back and observe. In the first few dates, you should let the man lead and do most of the intiating. After 3 or 4 solid dates, then you can and should do some initiating. You initiated, he responded positively, let him show you if he's really interested. Don't chase him. It's now Wednesday, you make plans for yourself. If he contacts you at the last minute, you're not available and let him offer another day with specifics. Redhead is exactly right. The ball is in his court. If he wants you in his life, he will make room. He needs to make a plan. This should not be difficult for someone in his position who clearly has a detailed schedule/calendar and an EA. You should continue dating others as well. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 He's on there shopping around still, but he's waffling on planning a date with you? Nah. I'd let this one go. If Mr. VP is so busy that he can't find a couple hours in a week and a 1/2 for a date , perhaps he should hide his account, not keep shopping 6
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 Yeah, he's hemming and hawing and making vague "Maybe but we'll see...so so busy..." excuses... I realize he said he had other things set up, but he may have put that in there as his "out." IME, a very eager guy will manage to secure an actual date regardless of what he has going on for a specific week. Further, why would someone who doesn't have time to date, be on OLD looking for dates? He may indeed be seriously busy, but if he were literally too busy to date or at least to tell someone he's really interested in that he'd love to see her on X day, then it would make no sense whatsoever for him to be on OLD, actively pursuing dates. Do you see what I'm saying? I'd let this one drift away (unless he calls/texts you) and keep looking.
curiouslysearching Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 He's on there shopping around still, but he's waffling on planning a date with you? Nah. I'd let this one go. If Mr. VP is so busy that he can't find a couple hours in a week and a 1/2 for a date , perhaps he should hide his account, not keep shopping or just go to the beach and hangout .....
coolheadal Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 I met this guy on match and had our first date 2weeks ago. He was out of town last week and on Monday I asked him to go out for our second date. He said that Wednesday mighat work but would have to move a work dinner (he had noted that he had three work dinners this week......he is a VP for a very large company). I texted him yesterday to ask if he was successful but said he had a very busy morning and still needs to speak to his EA. Today is now Wednesday and I have not heard back from him.....I have seen him (active) online this morning several times. He seemed very interested in going out with me but I just don't know anymore. Should I follow up or just move on?? Your doing all the planning and etc. He should be chasing you, your doing the chasing. Tell him this "When he finds the time to be with you just let you know?" In the meantime you have better things to do than just wait on him. Sounds like he's way to busy to date you or anything else. Your just settling for it. If he's active online then, you know the truth about him that's he's not that busy to be online then not to give you a call or text. Got see the entire picture here. EA (Executive Administrator) his Sec. He's VP of his company he doesn't need his EA to tell him when can take you out. Come on now don't you see what's going on? Don't be blind to his excuses.. 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 Your doing all the planning and etc. He should be chasing you, your doing the chasing. Tell him this "When he finds the time to be with you just let you know?" In the meantime you have better things to do than just wait on him. Sounds like he's way to busy to date you or anything else. Your just settling for it. If he's active online then, you know the truth about him that's he's not that busy to be online then not to give you a call or text. Got see the entire picture here. EA (Executive Administrator) his Sec. He's VP of his company he doesn't need his EA to tell him when can take you out. Come on now don't you see what's going on? Don't be blind to his excuses.. Personally, I disagree with the underlined above. She already expressed her interest clearly so she shouldn't say anything after this point. But even if that weren't the case, I would NEVER do this "let me know" thing. It sounds so desperate/hurt/pitiful. NO, he SHOULDN'T let her know when he's free and has time for her, because she will be moved on to someone different. And no, she doesn't need to say that either. She just needs to do it. Saying these things outright just sounds so wound-licking. Why give him that? She's given him attention enough already. I'm not saying you're wrong, Al, and I'm right, just saying this is how I personally would see it. 2
Author LS15268 Posted March 29, 2017 Author Posted March 29, 2017 Thanks all The ****ty part as we have a good mutual friend and she told mr that he is a guy of integrity that doesn't have time for games but is "an emotional retard".
BlueIvy Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 Don't date men that are too busy.... If a man is too busy for you, then he is not that into you. My ex was department chair and a professor and he always made time for me. People make time for people who they deem important. I remember I was very busy when I did this program, and it was kinda far from my house. I still made time to see my best friend even if it meant coming to her house just an hour at 900 PM. I would move on OP. 1
frus69 Posted March 30, 2017 Posted March 30, 2017 Thanks all The ****ty part as we have a good mutual friend and she told mr that he is a guy of integrity that doesn't have time for games but is "an emotional retard". Has that friend ever dated him? If not she has no idea if he has integrity and doesn't play games when it comes to sex and relationships. 1
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