My girlfriend of 4 years dumped me over text & then broke all contacts

[forbidden93]

Long story short.... I'm an Indian guy. we were in deep loving relationship since last 4 years. We were very close and in love. I paid for her education, helped her get job and sacrificed everything for her. Now she is gone to other city for job since last 10 months. One day she asked me to give her some space and for a week she behaved very coldly. Then one night she texted me that she has no feelings for me, she has infatuation for other boy, who happens to be her co worker and she is not guilty of it. She dint even care to break up face to face as her city was only few hours away from mine. After break up, she dint talk properly over call, neither gave proper closure, told me she dint care whether i live or die. And then just disappeared from my life. Now I see her pics outing with friends & family, having lots of fun. I dont know how can she do these after all that we have shared. She is happy and I am hardly living my life. I am so sad that i ruined my career for her. Please do help me.

[Maldives]

Long story short.... I'm an Indian guy. we were in deep loving relationship since last 4 years. We were very close and in love. I paid for her education, helped her get job and sacrificed everything for her. Now she is gone to other city for job since last 10 months. One day she asked me to give her some space and for a week she behaved very coldly. Then one night she texted me that she has no feelings for me, she has infatuation for other boy, who happens to be her co worker and she is not guilty of it. She dint even care to break up face to face as her city was only few hours away from mine. After break up, she dint talk properly over call, neither gave proper closure, told me she dint care whether i live or die. And then just disappeared from my life. Now I see her pics outing with friends & family, having lots of fun. I dont know how can she do these after all that we have shared. She is happy and I am hardly living my life. I am so sad that i ruined my career for her. Please do help me.

 

 

1st of all I'm sorry to hear this sounds awful and ive gone thru something similar and same thing a cpl times in my past .

 

2nd thing she's shown her true colours to u. And there ugly. I kno u probably desperately want her back at this stage but trus t me on this wen I say the best tg hinges u can do right now is NC no txt no email nada. If u want any hope of a reconciliation later down the track this is the best for that to altho not the main reason it is to start healing this is the worse part of it right at the beginning. And this is why I am in no rush to get into another relationship anytime soon. U did everything for her you from the sounds of it and she is really cold towards u. Let me try and explain that part the cold part. The reason a dumper acts cold wen they do this is because it's kind of a way for them to process the guilt. So they don't feel guilty or hear or see how badly they've hurt u. From wa u wrote about her I wouldn't tak3 her back if she ever returned. Why? Because u have to ask ureself this one question, if she's done it once, she'll most likely do it again. And the reason that is is from the way she's treated u. It's funny because we want them vacation so badly but the reality is how can someone that broke us fix us back up again. That's an important thing to understand. If u can get that even tho u miss her hopefully it's enough to gather the strength to walk away. Someone who truly values the relationship wouldn't do this. I don't kno the reasons why she did wat she did but I bet money on it it had something to do wth the 3rd party plus being a woman they r not logical they go by how they feel at any given moment. Watever you do don't reach out and contact her it'll just hurt u and push her further away. Remember u haven't done anything wrong.

[forbidden93]

Yes thank you for your reply. It's just that I loved her infinitely and now she has done the thing I'm unable to bear

[Apple1977]

My friend im sorry to hear of your pain if you read my storey it's pretty close to yours to. So I know the pain you are feeling it's been5 weeks for me and I'm starting to feel better, I know it's hard when your love but get no love back right I gave my girl space and got nothing. I hope you start to feel better soon I do when a women does this it's just crazy. I'm 40 year old and have never experienced this kind of beahaviour from a female in my life. I mean you think your settled and boom right, have a read of my storey it will make you feeel better I'm sure I wish you luck my friend

[forbidden93]

I'm unable to bear this pain that she left me without saying good bye or sorry or thank you. She broke up as if nothing mattered. I'm totally broken

[AirFlyer]

I can sympathize with your pain, mine also broke up by text and abandoned me =/. Hurts a lot, no matter how hard it hurts you have to be NC only way you will ever get over it!

[preraph]

I'm very sorry this happened to you. It sounds like you did a lot to be with her. I hope she wasn't just using you. Probably she just changed some as she got older and then met some other guy and wanted her freedom. It is sad how things work out.

 

There was surely some forewarning of this, though. You must have felt her slipping away when she moved towns. Dating long-distance just usually doesn't work out.

 

Please just be kind to yourself and do some exercise to destress your body and treat yourself well as you mourn your loss.