thertz5412 Posted March 28, 2017 Posted March 28, 2017 Hello everyone, I'm in a situation currently that I would much appreciate if someone could shed some light on. I once dated this girl about 3 months ago and we lasted for about 5 months. Her parents even when we were dating, never approved of me because I was not Italian and because I don't have a stable family life because my mom and dad had me when they were young, but then never stayed together after the fact. Her and I had a great relationship but one day, her mom forced my girlfriend to break up with me very randomly. I didn't really get a chance to say anything because it happened so quickly. Her and I want to be together but we can't while her parents don't accept me. We have been talking/texting recently and are worried that her parents will never come around. Please help! it just doesn't feel fair that her and had to break up because her parents didn't like the person i was born to be...
Telemachus Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 (edited) If she's a minor, her parents have a say. If she's an adult but living in her parents' home and not paying rent, then her parents have a say. You can't make them come around to accept you, particularly if they've already rejected you. One day, your girlfriend will be on her own, supporting herself and living in her own place, and it won't matter whether her parents accept you or not. If you're worth waiting for, and if she's worth waiting for, the two of you will wait. It also gives her incentive to be fully self-sufficient and not depending on their support all the sooner. When you have a daughter whom you're supporting, you may not like every boy or man she brings home, but you'll give them all a fair chance, without regard to parentage or ethnicity. However, you'll have your own criteria, that your daughter will likely find unreasonable. In the meantime, learn the Italian language. Depending on your commitment and aptitude for languages, it'll take you between 3 and 10 years to become fluent. If they ever do accept you, they'll appreciate your effort. Even if they don't ever accept you, it's a beautiful language, and that knowledge will serve you well in many life situations. Edited March 29, 2017 by Telemachus
NEB01 Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 If you are good to her I don't see how she could leave you because her parents told her to. How old are you two? In my opinion, unless you guys plan on relying on her parents financially for the rest of your life, you guys should live your life together and disregard what her parents say. If you treat her right who really cares if you are "Italian" and I definitely wouldn't go out of my way to try to learn Italian or anything to impress her. Have you tried calling her parents and talking to them? I have had a girlfriend parents not like me and I talked it over with them and told them my intentions and it was good from there. 1
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