barbossa Posted March 26, 2017 Posted March 26, 2017 In the past I have lingered, been friendszoned and attempts made to just use me for emotional or financial benefits.... dumb me keeps thinking I have some sort of shot and I stay friends with these girls for far longer than I should.... most times I think I can somehow score and sleep with them but looking back i think its happened like once out of the dozens of times? It is a complete waste of my time and energy, why do I keep doing it? What do you do when you become attracted to a person already in a committed relationship?
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 26, 2017 Posted March 26, 2017 It is a complete waste of my time and energy, why do I keep doing it? What do you do when you become attracted to a person already in a committed relationship? You are little or no self-control and that may be due to many things. One is your lack of success in relationships and not only the romantic type. I simply do not get involved with women who are in another committed relationship. That simple. 1
Raena Posted March 26, 2017 Posted March 26, 2017 The sad part is, those girls probably thought you really wanted to be friends. I've had exbf's tell me over and over that men don't want friendship with women, they are just hoping to score. I argued every time that Noooo, he's just a friend. Your post proves they were right. To answer your question, don't become attracted to a women who is already involved. It's that simple. Walk away if they are already committed. Don't hang around pretending to be a friend in the hopes that they will what... dump their man for you or worse cheat to be with you? Doesn't seem worth it. 3
basil67 Posted March 26, 2017 Posted March 26, 2017 It would appear that you only see women as being of use if there's a romantic interest. Thing is, most socially well rounded people have a mix of male and female friends. And friends will support each other in emotional matters. 1
hercules22 Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 need to be alpha and stop giving these girls to much attention otherwise they will treat you just like a friend also stay away from girls who actually do have boyfriends big waste of time
TheAntiHero Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 Check out MGTOW videos on YouTube; I think it'll help out a lot of guys.
kendahke Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 In the past I have lingered, been friendszoned and attempts made to just use me for emotional or financial benefits.... dumb me keeps thinking I have some sort of shot and I stay friends with these girls for far longer than I should.... most times I think I can somehow score and sleep with them but looking back i think its happened like once out of the dozens of times? It is a complete waste of my time and energy, why do I keep doing it? because you don't want to admit to yourself that they don't want the same level of relationship as you do and you figure it you wait them out, they'll come around eventually. Except they don't. The psychological moment is over for them. What do you do when you become attracted to a person already in a committed relationship? Realize that their loyalties lie elsewhere and move on.
CptInsano Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 (edited) [...] What do you do when you become attracted to a person already in a committed relationship? Normally I just don't. There used to be a very attractive woman who was in an LDR, but who wanted to go out clubbing, mainly because she was bored. She paid, so I didn't mind. Otherwise you just move on. Edited March 27, 2017 by CptInsano
jay1983 Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 The sad part is, those girls probably thought you really wanted to be friends. I've had exbf's tell me over and over that men don't want friendship with women, they are just hoping to score. I argued every time that Noooo, he's just a friend. Your post proves they were right. To answer your question, don't become attracted to a women who is already involved. It's that simple. Walk away if they are already committed. Don't hang around pretending to be a friend in the hopes that they will what... dump their man for you or worse cheat to be with you? Doesn't seem worth it. To be fair, most women know this whether or notthey admit it and use the guys as a shoulder to cry on. I've tried to befriend women I'm not attracted to as well as gay men. In every case they're just looking for an opportunity to strike.
preraph Posted March 27, 2017 Posted March 27, 2017 When you know they're taken or when you know they only think of you as a friend, if you don't want to be just friends forever, don't hang around. It is very rare that a woman who thinks of you as a friend for any period of time will suddenly decide she's attracted to you. There's just no point if you're not just looking for friends. It ain't going to happen and yes is a waste of time.
Recommended Posts