george_scruff Posted March 25, 2017 Posted March 25, 2017 I've been dating an older guy for 12 months now and we are happy. I was single for 10 years and my parents were always on me to date someone, so I ended up finding someone who I got along with perfectly. Mum was wrapped at first coz she had met him the day I first met him. But, after a couple of months things turned sour, and she began to get grumpy every time I spoke to him on the phone (long distance) and never really showed any interest in what we were doing. I confronted her and she said she doesn't trust him as he travels all the time and "surely he would sleep around". This is not the case as he always calls me 3 times a day no matter where he is, AND, I've met his whole family. He loves me and cares for me. It has brought back bad memories for Mum as she was in a relationship with an older man when she was younger and she had no idea he was married. As a result, she's had a nervous breakdown. She has automatically assumed that Mark is the same as her past life. Every time we all catch up, mum is distant from the both of us, and I am that pissed off that I have stopped talking to her. All I want is my Mum to like Mark but she told me she her intuition is telling her otherwise. Now, every time I talk to Mark, Mum's negativity lingers over me. I am seriously debating if I should break up with him, as we came close to breaking up before because of this "mum" issue. What should I do!?
smackie9 Posted March 25, 2017 Posted March 25, 2017 You should have a firm heart to heart talk with your mother. Tell her whatever her experience was doesn't mean every man is a cheating dawg. Then proceed to tell her you haven't been this happy in years and you are positive he is a gentleman, treating you with respect, and shows that he cares. And whatever happens, you are an adult and can take care of yourself. Tell her to please just be happy for you. 1
mikeylo Posted March 25, 2017 Posted March 25, 2017 How much older is he ? I wouldnt ignore mum's advise. Calling 3 times a day doesnt mean that he is isnt sleeping around. Just saying...
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