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Would it appear desperate to message a guy who months earlier you told to get lost.

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Would it appear desperate to message a guy on Facebook who months earlier you told to take care because you felt you weren't on the same page? I'm rethinking my relationship goals. I basically told this guy that I didn't want to see him anymore because we we're on different pages. He enjoys the casual dating life, I seek more than that. But it's not working on my end and I miss him. I've already deleted his number. Would it be weird to message him on Facebook?

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Would it appear desperate to message a guy on Facebook who months earlier you told to take care because you felt you weren't on the same page? I'm rethinking my relationship goals. I basically told this guy that I didn't want to see him anymore because we we're on different pages. He enjoys the casual dating life, I seek more than that. But it's not working on my end and I miss him. I've already deleted his number. Would it be weird to message him on Facebook?

 

Yes. Leave him alone. You two want different things and you reaching out is for self serving reasons. Just because you miss him isn't a good enough reason to contact him. Things ended, leave it at that.

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Would it appear desperate to message a guy on Facebook who months earlier you told to take care because you felt you weren't on the same page? I'm rethinking my relationship goals. I basically told this guy that I didn't want to see him anymore because we we're on different pages. He enjoys the casual dating life, I seek more than that. But it's not working on my end and I miss him. I've already deleted his number. Would it be weird to message him on Facebook?

 

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If you are willing to settle for the opposite of what you really want in a relationship (and he knows this) then yes, it will appear very desperate to contact him again.

 

What you should be more concerned about is how it is going to make you feel settling for a guy who wants to date and sleep with other women and doesn't want any type of commitment with you.

 

You will only be setting yourself up for more rejection by contacting him.

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You're "rethinking your relationship goals" only because you want this guy... Why?! He ain't nothing. You're willing to settle for less than what you want and maybe under the delusion if you stuck around had change his mind. If you come crawling back and play by his rules it will look extremely desperate.

 

 

Keep your pride. This guy is not the person for you and not worth it!

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Would it appear desperate to message a guy on Facebook who months earlier you told to take care because you felt you weren't on the same page? I'm rethinking my relationship goals. I basically told this guy that I didn't want to see him anymore because we we're on different pages. He enjoys the casual dating life, I seek more than that. But it's not working on my end and I miss him. I've already deleted his number. Would it be weird to message him on Facebook?

 

Only message him on FB if you are interested in a causal dating life. Don't even poke that bear if you still seek long-term. He can fill a void temporarily, but he will not be what you want, long-term, commitment, and you will end up hurt.

 

I've had many men message me weeks and months later. I find it odd, but not desperate. I think they're scoping out potential prospects, back burner girls when the well has gone dry. The sale rack. I'm not a guy, so I don't know what the thought process is. A guy might think it's desperate, but maybe he thinks he'll get the sex he wanted in the first place, but you were all "commitment" and "dating" and "relationship," and now you're willing fall into bed with no strings.

 

My answer is "no." Unless you're up for casual dating and casual sex, no, do not message him.

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If casual dating is now what you want, in theory you could approach him again. However, as he's previously told you to 'get lost', I'm guessing that he doesn't want to hear from you again.

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You should go back and read your own post.

 

What exactly do you miss??

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