Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 Did you meet her ? if you have only been messaging back and forth virtually for nothing then I wouldn't be too happy either Yes we've met, we see each other from time to time when we go out and we'll kiss and stuff but then she's right back to pretending I don't exist
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 I dealt with plenty of these in my younger days. Once you start giving her attention again, she will get cold once more. Ignore her. Only give her attention if she shows up naked at your door. LOL good idea!
smackie9 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Again: Because to be desirable is to be unavailable....what we can't have we want more than ever. It's how our brains work. You have only hung out twice in what 8 months? She's using you, stop being a damn fool. Remember all this energy you waste on this person is energy that could be spent on someone that is more worthy...a for sure thing. 2
kendahke Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 I realized she was just playing games im turned off from her and I dont want to get sucked back in by her showing temporary interest in me how do I handle this situation? Put her on block and keep it moving. You say she's blowing you off, stringing you along, ignoring you, showing temporary interest and you're feeling stupid and are turned off by her. Why in god's name would you want to pursue such a one any further? There aren't other women on the dating site? She's the only one there? 3
Shanex Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Yes we've met, we see each other from time to time when we go out and we'll kiss and stuff but then she's right back to pretending I don't exist Well, that's still better than nothing but I'll approve on the other posters and tell you that she's fooling you around. It's been months, you only met a couple times for kisses and you are giving her way too much attention and putting tireless efforts with very few in return. The best advice I have read here : 'unless she comes over at your door naked, cut her loose'.
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 18, 2017 Author Posted March 18, 2017 Welp I fell for her trap after 4 whole days of starving her of my attention and compliments she messaged me asking how my night was etc then she sends me all these sexy pics. I reply complimenting her and she left me hanging
Curiousroxy86 Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 I stopped initiating contact with this girl because I felt like she was blowing me off, just stringing me along for attention and I actually started to feel stupid about it. Anyway its been 4 days that I've gone completely NC with her even ignoring her post and things on social media when normally I would compliment her. Now all of a sudden shes messaging me trying to start a conversation. I dont know how to feel about it because now that I realized she was just playing games im turned off from her and I dont want to get sucked back in by her showing temporary interest in me how do I handle this situation? your handling it. Keep doing what your doing and leave this attention wench where she at
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 I stopped initiating contact with this girl because I felt like she was blowing me off, just stringing me along for attention and I actually started to feel stupid about it. Anyway its been 4 days that I've gone completely NC with her even ignoring her post and things on social media when normally I would compliment her. Now all of a sudden shes messaging me trying to start a conversation. I dont know how to feel about it because now that I realized she was just playing games im turned off from her and I dont want to get sucked back in by her showing temporary interest in me how do I handle this situation? You already answered your own question above. Just ignore, block her and move on unless she starts planning for a date/meet-up. I've been in this type of situation and simply moved on w/o responding.
OnlyHonesty Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 (edited) Welp I fell for her trap after 4 whole days of starving her of my attention and compliments she messaged me asking how my night was etc then she sends me all these sexy pics. I reply complimenting her and she left me hanging She does not want you, she just wants attention from you. You starved her of attention so she had to up her game. She sent you the sexy pics to get you to give her some attention. You gave her some, now she is satisfied once again that she has something. In other words you've fed her ego for now hence the lack of response. When her ego is hungry, you will hear from her again. My suggestion is simple...ignore her forever. Edited March 18, 2017 by OnlyHonesty
salparadise Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Welp I fell for her trap after 4 whole days of starving her of my attention and compliments she messaged me asking how my night was etc then she sends me all these sexy pics. I reply complimenting her and she left me hanging This is almost laughable it's so transparent. Now you know her game without any doubt whatsoever. Just starve that selfish, immature ego of hers until it becomes dust under your feet... not a shred of attention, no matter what. 1
Hopeful30 Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 The answer is simple. You're not longer clingy or constantly available, so now she has interest, whereas before there was nothing interesting Cuz you were always there, always in contact and always available. I would say keep in touch, but don't fall back into being always available and chasing. Be courteous, answer her messages, but have a life basically lol
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 20, 2017 Author Posted March 20, 2017 I stopped giving this girl attention and starved her ego, I also told her yesterday that I met someone else that's willing to do fun things with me etc, and instead of her saying I'll start doing fun things with you she just said oh I guess now it's ok to start talking to other people and I said yea it is, I'm done waiting on you to stop playing mind games with me, so today now she posted on facebook this morning that her ex from YEARS ago messaged her last night and she so happy. Is she just trying to make me jealous? If so why? Either way I'm just going to ignore that post and her.
xUnknown Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 I stopped giving this girl attention and starved her ego, I also told her yesterday that I met someone else that's willing to do fun things with me etc, and instead of her saying I'll start doing fun things with you she just said oh I guess now it's ok to start talking to other people and I said yea it is, I'm done waiting on you to stop playing mind games with me, so today now she posted on facebook this morning that her ex from YEARS ago messaged her last night and she so happy. Is she just trying to make me jealous? If so why? Either way I'm just going to ignore that post and her. Yes she is. Its just another mind game to get you to do what you're doing now...thinking about her. Ignore it, ignore her, show her you're moving on..don't just tell her you are. 1
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 20, 2017 Author Posted March 20, 2017 Yes she is. Its just another mind game to get you to do what you're doing now...thinking about her. Ignore it, ignore her, show her you're moving on..don't just tell her you are. Thats exactly what I was thinking when I seen the post it irritated me at first, but then I thought hmm maybe she's just pulling my strings because the timing dont add up. I don't know why she would even post that to make me jealous when obviously she only likese for attention. I have been really taking everyones advice and ignoring her.
kendahke Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 I stopped giving this girl attention and starved her ego, I also told her yesterday that I met someone else that's willing to do fun things with me etc, and instead of her saying I'll start doing fun things with you she just said oh I guess now it's ok to start talking to other people and I said yea it is, I'm done waiting on you to stop playing mind games with me, so today now she posted on facebook this morning that her ex from YEARS ago messaged her last night and she so happy. Is she just trying to make me jealous? If so why? Either way I'm just going to ignore that post and her. Apparently, you're not done with her mind games because you got lured into another one. She's not blocked on facebook why? Looking at her facebook updates is giving her attention. 2
preraph Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 This is why you block people, so they can't try to stir you up or you don't get stirred up just by seeing what they're doing. If it's not worked, block and move on. 4
Zahara Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 You both are game players. You both want to push each others buttons. Both starving for each others attention. Both trying to make each other jealous. Trying to one up each other. The mature thing to do would be to enjoy your new partner and your new relationship and not have any investment in someone that you clearly believe is manipulative. For when you do, you keep the drama going. The fact that you had to tell her you were with someone else doing fun things was your way of provoking her too. If you were truly done you wouldn't still be having conversations with her. You wouldn't still be checking her FB to see what she's up to. 6
lily999 Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 At least you were honest about your new relationship But if a guy tells me he has found another date, I will not contact him again. I would consider he is rejecting me more than making me jealous.
Miss Spider Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 (edited) Is this the girl that you spoke about in your last thread? Because if so, you could not have "starved her ego" for more than a few days MAX (and I guarantee she was getting it supplemented elsewhere in that time)and you seem to have an unhealthy obsession with her. Move on, dude. You're feeding her rn. Edited March 20, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 Ok i completely stopped chasing the girl I talked about in my last thread and moved on! Ignoring her messages and all! No I didnt block her on social media because it's just social media and I would still consider her an associate since we are friendky when we see each other out. Anyway now that im not messaging her and she knows I'm talking to another girl she keeps messaging saything things like "oh i guess you're with her"? when she seesme post a pic out to eat or whatever. I ignored that msg. Now today she said "oh I guess im going to be ignored now". Idk why but im not going to fall for it and boost her ego trip by giving her attention. It just blows my mind that when I wasnt ignoring her and wanted her and showed her attention she acted as if she was too good. Now I act like she dont exist and she wants me to talk to her soo badly!
Miss Spider Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 Omg..you're not ignoring her. You're reading her messages and going crazy over it. Block her, stop lurking her social media, stop playing games, and move on. 4
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 Omg..you're not ignoring her. You're reading her messages and going crazy over it. Block her, stop lurking her social media, stop playing games, and move on. Shes lurking on my social media she sent me a message relating to something I directly posted. I am ignoring her by not messaging her or responding to her measages. I dont have to block her to not be involved with her. I dont hold a grudge against her. No need to be rude in your response 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 She's immature and the instant you were to show her a spot of attention, I mean ONE WORD, she'd go scurrying off again. So you're right...don't bother answering. I mean don't answer at all. This could never have worked out. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 Shes lurking on my social media she sent me a message relating to something I directly posted. I am ignoring her by not messaging her or responding to her measages. I dont have to block her to not be involved with her. I dont hold a grudge against her. No need to be rude in your response I didn't mean to be rude, but you make a post pretty much every day over her pretty much going crazy. I'm and just wondering what you intend to accomplish with all these games you both are playing? If it's get the girl and live happily ever after you are way off point. 2
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