Beautiful Kisses Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 It's like one day she'll me into me, sending sexy pics etc, then the next she'll completely ignore me for days or just stop talking to me mid conversation. Yesterday we were texting I responded right back to her and she ignored me and got on instagram posting pictures and facebook. Everytime I try to hang out with her she has an excuse or she'll say when the timing is right. We literally live 2 minutes from each other and barely see each other or hangout.. We see each other here and there and when we do were friendly and kiss or whatever but after that, it's right back to her acting like I don't exist. I also feel like I'm the one who always initiate contact with her first. Ugh. Its getting old to me now. What should I do? I feel like maybe I'm showing her too much attention or something. But when I leave her alone for a few days she starts initiating contact. I don't want it to seem like I'm forcing anything with her. All advice is appreciated!
kidm Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 She's not interested in you but likes the ego boost so she comes around once in awhile to get her fix and it sounds like you oblige every time. 5
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 I suspect you are not the only one that she is getting attention from.....
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 She's not interested in you but likes the ego boost so she comes around once in awhile to get her fix and it sounds like you oblige every time. I can't lie I do, because I really like her. For the past couple of days I've just been ignoring her, not messaging her or anything and then yesterday she text me saying "hey baby" and I just thought to myself she probably just wants me to respond so she can ignore me and feel good. Idk if she knows things won't go past friendship she should just say that right? Why now is she initiating conversations now that I stopped?
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 I can't lie I do, because I really like her. For the past couple of days I've just been ignoring her, not messaging her or anything and then yesterday she text me saying "hey baby" and I just thought to myself she probably just wants me to respond so she can ignore me and feel good. Idk if she knows things won't go past friendship she should just say that right? Why now is she initiating conversations now that I stopped? Because to be desirable is to be unavailable....what we can't have we want more than ever. It's how our brains work. 3
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 I suspect you are not the only one that she is getting attention from..... She was courting this other girl calling her baby on facebook, but to her surprise I don't believe the girl was that interested in her so she came back to me. I asked her about the girl when I seen her out and she said their just friends and that's all.
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 She was courting this other girl calling her baby on facebook, but to her surprise I don't believe the girl was that interested in her so she came back to me. I asked her about the girl when I seen her out and she said their just friends and that's all. Sounds to me you are getting played......
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 Because to be desirable is to be unavailable....what we can't have we want more than ever. It's how our brains work. So do I just keep not saying anything to her? I appreciate your feed back btw. I just want to make a choice on what to do and feel confident about it.
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 If you want to settle this, honest communication with her is the only way face to face. Tell her how you feel, and get her to be honest with you with what is going on....do challenge her if she dismisses things you ask about. 1
preraph Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 There are a lot of women who just take photos of themselves and send them out to everyone they know, so just because you're getting a photo or something like that doesn't mean it's to encourage you, odd as that may seem. If you have shown interest, then she knows you're interested but she doesn't sound very interested in you other than as one more person to share photos with. 1
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 If you want to settle this, honest communication with her is the only way face to face. Tell her how you feel, and get her to be honest with you with what is going on....do challenge her if she dismisses things you ask about. To be honest I kinda did that already I asked her why she never wants to hangout and she just says she will when the time is right and change the subject. I've known her for about 7 months now and we went out together only 2 times.
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 14, 2017 Author Posted March 14, 2017 There are a lot of women who just take photos of themselves and send them out to everyone they know, so just because you're getting a photo or something like that doesn't mean it's to encourage you, odd as that may seem. If you have shown interest, then she knows you're interested but she doesn't sound very interested in you other than as one more person to share photos with. It's almost like she teases me and then when I compliment her she'll say oh we'll hook up one day blah blah then she says if we never do hook up we can still be friends. She's all over the place
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2017 Posted March 14, 2017 To be honest I kinda did that already I asked her why she never wants to hangout and she just says she will when the time is right and change the subject. I've known her for about 7 months now and we went out together only 2 times. This is why I say to challenge her on it. If she dismisses it, that's when you tell her you can't do this anymore and to go no contact. To me her promises are empty and you are wasting your time......I believe she is stringing you along until she makes her mind up about the other girl, if she ever does.
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 15, 2017 Author Posted March 15, 2017 I stopped initiating contact with this girl because I felt like she was blowing me off, just stringing me along for attention and I actually started to feel stupid about it. Anyway its been 4 days that I've gone completely NC with her even ignoring her post and things on social media when normally I would compliment her. Now all of a sudden shes messaging me trying to start a conversation. I dont know how to feel about it because now that I realized she was just playing games im turned off from her and I dont want to get sucked back in by her showing temporary interest in me how do I handle this situation?
todreaminblue Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 maybe you should give her a chance? if you like her that is because if you ignore her when and if you like her.... isnt that game playing too?.....good luck...deb
Shanex Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Did you meet her ? if you have only been messaging back and forth virtually for nothing then I wouldn't be too happy either
lolablue17 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 Well, although people can be sometimes busy or distracted, her timing to show interest just after you started ignoring her, is suspicious. Dating and courtship is a period for getting to know your partner. Many people I know use to "trade" attitude and feelings. When someone seems like a high value in the market (Ignoring them) they try harder. And when someone seems like easy to achieve, they take them for granted and doesn't invest efforts. I hate it. But it's very common. I believe this attribute never changes because it's a basic thing in people's character. Because it means that the minute you become easy again, you know what will happen.
salparadise Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 When someone seems like a high value in the market (Ignoring them) they try harder. And when someone seems like easy to achieve, they take them for granted and doesn't invest efforts. Because it means that the minute you become easy again, you know what will happen. Yup, you made her feel high value by showering her with attention, so she started ignoring you. You cut off the attention and suddenly she's not feeling so high value anymore, so she's chasing you. It's juvenile. This is why 'nagging' is so effective for the pick-up-artists. The only way to hold her interest is to keep her feeling insecure. 4
hercules22 Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 hate the girls who just crave attention and have zero interest in you whos knows she prob acts like that to everyone else aswell 2
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 If you don't want to get sucked back in, ignore her. 3
Shining One Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 I dealt with plenty of these in my younger days. Once you start giving her attention again, she will get cold once more. Ignore her. Only give her attention if she shows up naked at your door. 7
Fondue Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 She likes your attention, not you. Leave it at no-contact status. 4
Larryville Posted March 15, 2017 Posted March 15, 2017 I felt like she was blowing me off, just stringing me along for attention and I actually started to feel stupid about it. Anyway its been 4 days that I've gone completely NC with her even ignoring her post and things on social media when normally I would compliment her. She does not owe you jack. If you went NC I don’t see the issue. Until you meet and sort thru stuff what difference does it make? Sounds like you right away put her on a mental pedestal and focused the spotlight on her. I see this type of thread way too often, all you have to do is keep your attention spread out and don’t focus on one specific person and you won’t get your feelings hurt. 1
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 Yup, you made her feel high value by showering her with attention, so she started ignoring you. You cut off the attention and suddenly she's not feeling so high value anymore, so she's chasing you. It's juvenile. This is why 'nagging' is so effective for the pick-up-artists. The only way to hold her interest is to keep her feeling insecure. I cant even deny it honestly I did exactly that to the point where I started feeling stupid. have kept it NC and haven't even really wanted to message or talk to her anyway now that I know she was just playing games. Its like the quicker I responded to her messages the longer she would take to respond, but the longer I took she would respond quickly. Ridiculous. I wonder why:o
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