coolheadal Posted March 26, 2017 Share Posted March 26, 2017 Hello, everyone. I am new to this site and could really use some advice. I have been seeing a guy I met online for 2 months now. We surprisingly have lots in common and whenever we get together I have a great time with him. We've been out every single Saturday since our 1st date. But the problem is we ONLY ever see each other on Saturdays and its not even for the entire day, just a few hours in the evening. We do the typical date night things such as dinner and a movie. We rarely text each other and have literally never talked on the phone. I've asked if he's still on the site that we met on, he said no, that he really liked me and that he wasn't seeing anyone else. I waited to sleep with him even though he was ready before I was, and said waiting was fine with him. I really like this guy and would like to continue to see where this goes but don't like that we never see each other except for Saturday evenings. I don't like that we never talk on the phone and barely text during the week. I'm afraid that now that we've started to sleep together this will become a FWB situation since we only see each other once a week. He's not a player and has said he's looking to settle down. I would like us to move forward with the relationship but how can we do that if we only ever see each other for a few hours on a Saturday? He's admitted to being a loner. Is this typical loner behavior? How do I tell him I want more-to see him more and talk to him more without him thinking I'm clingy or needy? We've only been together 2 months, should I wait another month to see if things change? See how things are, your in a situation where he's pulling the strings and your just going along for the ride and starts only on Saturday. My question for you is why do you continue? Do you not see what's going on here? I believe there is a hidden reason for him to only available one day for a few hours. Now everyone here has all sorts have answers. I had a woman who worked everyday except Sunday and Monday. She had two kids that she had supported. She only could see me on Monday in the morning for 2 hrs. Then she left. I didn't see her again until the following Monday. In the beginning I could see her 2 twice a week. No she wasn't married, she worked and manage retail fast food chain, had to take care of two pre-teenage kids. She had to struggle. But she found time to be with me one day after the son overdose on drugs. She didn't want to leave her daughter alone too long on her own the day she was able to be with me. So when the daughter was in school I would see the Mother. Like I said for a few hours. Now you have a Guy doing the same thing only you see him on Saturday. The phone calling I found women who don't like to talk on the phone, just text. You got a guy doing the same thing. If he was married do you think he could get away with just Saturday only. If you haven't been to his house then you have to wonder what's going on with the one day visit. Unless he was working 6 days a week putting in 60 hours. So my question for you is what your next call of action. I got out my situation because that is no way to have a relationship like that. If it ever was one in the first place. Yours it just come see me and then leave me. How long are you going to put up with this. I would really think about this and say to this guy "Listen this is not going to work" I want things to move more into a full-time relationship" Either he's seeing other woman or he's not really into you like you think. If he was married his wife wouldn't allow me out the house. Unless she wasn't home that date. Too much what ifs? Only you can find out the truth... Link to post Share on other sites
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