longdistancegirl Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 I just found this place and have been reading through the messages. Lots of great topics and advice here. I really need an impartial party to give me some advice here. This is the short version. I am in a ldr. We are 12,000 miles away. We met online. We have been together about a year. I have been to see him 3 times, 2 times for a month and 1 time for 2 weeks. We spent 24/7 together and we get along very well. He refers to me as his love and his best friend. I love him too very much. I have a good job here and he is unemployed there. There is a 15 year age difference between us. Im the older one. I just got back from a visit with him a couple of weeks ago. Before he wasn't sure if he loved me but this time it seemed like a flood gate opened and he said all kinds of things about forever and how much he cared for me. Just lots of things that left me no doubt he loves me. He just blurted these things out of the blue! lol I came back here and put myself into my work. I must say that my heart just aches so being away from him. Some days I am fine but there are a few times where I cry and it is almost too much. Recently I asked where he thought the relationship was gioing. He said he didn't know as he couldn't predcit the future. The he asked me where I thought it was going. I said that I hoped to get married one day. Then he said he didn't think he was ready for marriage right now. I was pretty sad and told him. He said he probably would be one day but not right now. He said he doesn't want to rush into marriage. He also said that if he were to get married it would be to me. I guess my part is how long should I wait? I do not get to see him again until the end of the year. We have made plans to rent a house together. I wouldnt even mind moving there and working but I can't get a visa to work there without a lot of expense. It is easier for me and cheaper to be a snow bird and spend my winters there. I hear about people waiting 10 years which I think is rediculous. I simply won't do that. I am really thinking that if he doesn't propose by the beginning of next year, I will end it. It is much too painful to be away from him for months at a time. So I am willing to come back one more time and spend 4 months there living together but that will be it. Comments? Advice?
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