marie25 Posted March 25, 2017 Posted March 25, 2017 So if he one day asks how I'm doing, then I should just not reply to him? That is called breadcrumbs. If he wants to reconcile, he will make it clear. My ex actually did reconcile after giving me breadcrumbs. When he asked me how I was doing (as breadcrumbs, a little while before reconciliation day) I just replied a short "I'm doing fine." Signaling that I wasn't ignoring him but also wasn't interested in small talk. He got the signal and immediately went to say that he missed me, and I told him that I didn't want to hear that as friends and asked him to please leave me alone until I am over him. A week later he messaged back about reconciliation. It's up to you what you decide to reply (or not reply) to that - but I'd say respect yourself and don't give into the small talk and breadcrumbs. Do some research on breadcrumbs and see that many ex's give them and many don't lead to reconciliations. Many simply are wondering how you are doing. This won't let you heal. Also, it allows them to have a hold on you while they also move on and see other girls. Don't let him do that either. But him off cold turkey and explain that if it's no relationship, you don't want to be friends (for a while at least).
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