M1ke12 Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 I've been dating a lot. I guess I'm doing alright with the online thing. I've met a woman that I consider to be very compatible. In other words she can keep up with my activity. Not an easy find. She's also very accomplished and put together. Anyway she's called me sweet a couple times now. We've only been able to go on one date, talk on the phone due to her job. Anyway I've haven't dated for long and after a 22 year marriage I'm pretty green. Is this the kiss of death?
Author M1ke12 Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 No not at all. Just a compliment. That's good to know. I am definitely not a game player and wear my heart on my sleeve. Not in a "let's move this relationship forward asap kinda way" but a lot more like "I definitely want to take you out again kinda way". Is this bad? It's just my nature. 2
Miss Spider Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 That's good to know. I am definitely not a game player and wear my heart on my sleeve. Not in a "let's move this relationship forward asap kinda way" but a lot more like "I definitely want to take you out again kinda way". Is this bad? It's just my nature. No...it's sweet. Lol I think that's a good thing. Games suck and anyone into that is going to be stressful anyway. I have told guys I'm very interested in that they were sweet when they did something gentlemanly or kind. 3
Author M1ke12 Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 No...it's sweet. Lol I think that's a good thing. Games suck and anyone into that is going to be stressful anyway. I have told guys I'm very interested in that they were sweet when they did something gentlemanly or kind. Ah, gotcha. Like I say it's just the way I am. 2
Author M1ke12 Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 Also she's a firefighter. A captain to be exact. I am a teacher. Both of us are very fit and active for our forties. Her schedule will keep us a part some but I can roll with it if it pans out. 2
Popsicle Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 Is this the kiss of death? Noooooooooo it isn't and don't let any jaded people tell you it is. Sweet men are very attractive (and rare). It is a very good sign that you've been doing well with the ladies. 1
coolheadal Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 I've been dating a lot. I guess I'm doing alright with the online thing. I've met a woman that I consider to be very compatible. In other words she can keep up with my activity. Not an easy find. She's also very accomplished and put together. Anyway she's called me sweet a couple times now. We've only been able to go on one date, talk on the phone due to her job. Anyway I've haven't dated for long and after a 22 year marriage I'm pretty green. Is this the kiss of death? Nothing wrong dating online we're all online now consulting. This is the norm today. She likes you. That's a good thing to hear. Long marriage there prior for you but try to get over that prior and move on with your new woman. I wish you the best of luck! 1
Redhead14 Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 I've been dating a lot. I guess I'm doing alright with the online thing. I've met a woman that I consider to be very compatible. In other words she can keep up with my activity. Not an easy find. She's also very accomplished and put together. Anyway she's called me sweet a couple times now. We've only been able to go on one date, talk on the phone due to her job. Anyway I've haven't dated for long and after a 22 year marriage I'm pretty green. Is this the kiss of death? After only one date, I wouldn't be wasting my time or emotional energy thinking about or analyzing anything. Just sit back and observe. How long has it been since that first date? Have you asked for other dates and been declined because of her "job"? If it seems that she's using that excuse often, I'd wonder if she was really interested but stringing you along and I'd be concerned about picking things up with her if she's going to really be so unavailable. Yes, people are busy and work is a priority, however, if it were me and I really liked a guy, I'd find time to fit him in. And, if you had dated her a couple of times and she started with "hey, you're a sweet guy but . . . then you'd know it was the kiss of death. 2
Author M1ke12 Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 Nothing wrong dating online we're all online now consulting. This is the norm today. She likes you. That's a good thing to hear. Long marriage there prior for you but try to get over that prior and move on with your new woman. I wish you the best of luck! Yeh, the marriage ended in such a way there was a great deal of relief when it was over. There was grief, don't get me wrong, but my new found love is exploring and meeting people. I've dated a lot and even the date where she showed up after just crying was so interesting to me. Not future dating material but I listened to her story enjoyed a couple drinks. I heard perspective from a different walk of life and it was good! i am on a roll with an extremely positive attitude and it helps
Author M1ke12 Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 After only one date, I wouldn't be wasting my time or emotional energy thinking about or analyzing anything. Just sit back and observe. How long has it been since that first date? Have you asked for other dates and been declined because of her "job"? If it seems that she's using that excuse often, I'd wonder if she was really interested but stringing you along and I'd be concerned about picking things up with her if she's going to really be so unavailable. Yes, people are busy and work is a priority, however, if it were me and I really liked a guy, I'd find time to fit him in. And, if you had dated her a couple of times and she started with "hey, you're a sweet guy but . . . then you'd know it was the kiss of death. Thanks for the reply! She has been making an effort to communicate for sure. I know a little bit about the life of a firefighter and when they are on for 48 they are on. In addition she is a captain so she has administrative work. I also have my EMT because I was going to be a firefighter at one point (long story). We will see how it pans out, I am not worried about any of that and will never be. If she doesn't want to see me I'll keep looking for my active woman 1
TheTraveler Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 i am on a roll with an extremely positive attitude and it helps Keep being the sweet guy you are and continue doing your thing like mentioned above. You will eventually find someone 1
joseb Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 After only one date, I wouldn't be wasting my time or emotional energy thinking about or analyzing anything. This exactly. Probably partly because dating is still new to you you are finding your feet. But really one date isn't deserving of all you emotional energy. At the same time, a positive attitude is great, so don't lose that! So many people get jaded by the dating process. Try to set up a date fairly soon, and make sure you are moving things forward (e.g. kissing her, etc)
Jj66 Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 It's a compliment. I had a 2.5 year relationship with a woman whose first written message to me was "thank you for being an all around nice guy." But then she added in a second "I'm looking forward to getting to know you better." I had driven her home after seeing her (second time I had run into her) and hitting it off somewhat at a party. I had also driven the bad boy I thought she was interested in home that night. I refused an invitation to come up to her appartmnet for a cup of coffee for the road. She thought by the first message she was thanking me for being a gentleman. When I checked my messages the next morning, at first I wondered if she might be friend-zoning me. Except she wrote it after 2 a.m. You don't friend zone someone after 2 a.m. You just don't. You write after 2 a.m because you are giddy and you can't sleep. The looking forward to getting to know you better was even more of a clincher. So, soon afterward, I did what I should have done the first time we met (and also had hit it off). I asked her out. You only have to beat me over the head twice to get my attention. Mr. Bad Boy from that night later found out we were dating and "congratulated" me. He had been pursuing her for a while but she kept turning him down.
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