Crews Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 So I have posted on here before about my situation. To sum it up, my ex girlfriend left me almost a month ago. We have a child together and it really really sucks that she left. We were together for a little over 4 years and it was great. We had the normal arguments but they were never anything we couldn't talk through and fix. She just up and left and she told me she left because she felt we became emotionally disconnected. She also said that right now she doesn't see us working out but down the road if the spark is back she would want to. I hear all the time that she misses me and still loves me and she said that she has never loved anyone like she has loved me. When I talk to her or try to atleast, she is like very very distant. She doesn't say a lot and it almost seems like she wants to hang the phone up. So from talking to her about it she is like very vague and it's not really telling me what actually happened. She just said she needs time and just said we disconnected emotionally. My question is should I try talking to her about it or give her some more time? Like I said she is treating me like I have some kind of disease that she will get even if I talk to her over the phone. I'm just lost right now on what to do, and I actually want to work it out and have our family like her and I talked about.
Telemachus Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 You don't say anything about the child. She left, but who's taking care of your child - you, her, or someone else? What matters above all is that the child is well cared for - your emotional connection with your estranged girlfreind is way, way down on the list of important matters. You can't give her more time. Time just is, and we all get the same 24 hours per day. You can neither give her more time, nor take any away from her. How she spends hers is her decision, just as how you spend your time is your decision. That's true each and every minute of each and every day. Regarding the loss of emotional connection, communication happens best in person, not on the phone. Most human communication is through facial expression and body language, and that can't happen on the phone. She left. If and when she comes back, you can talk in person. You'll have much more success in deciding how to move forward or whether the split is permanent the next time you see her, if there's a next time. If she has your child, and you think the child is in any danger or not being cared for, you should be filing for full care, control, and custody of your child. That is, assuming that you have stronger parenting skills and instincts than your estranged girlfriend does.
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