Jagged100 Posted March 23, 2017 Posted March 23, 2017 My ex and I have been broken up for over a year now and have seen each other since then. We've both did petty, stupid things to hurt each other after our break up till I put a complete stop to the games. She was trying to throw her new relationship in my face via social media. I got to a point where I just blocked her and have tried to move on. My problem is that I've accepted and paid for a charity lunch in May and have found out that she may be there in a professional capacity due to a new job. Do I still go and if so how do I react? What would you do if it was you?
SerPundnes Posted March 23, 2017 Posted March 23, 2017 My ex and I have been broken up for over a year now and have seen each other since then. We've both did petty, stupid things to hurt each other after our break up till I put a complete stop to the games. She was trying to throw her new relationship in my face via social media. I got to a point where I just blocked her and have tried to move on. My problem is that I've accepted and paid for a charity lunch in May and have found out that she may be there in a professional capacity due to a new job. Do I still go and if so how do I react? What would you do if it was you? I would go and don't care (atleast look like it) about your ex. Act indifferent, look happy. If your path crosses, a simple "hello" will do. But if you think you'll get an setback in your healing from seeing her there, I wouldn't go. Now I ask you, what do you WANT to do?
Author Jagged100 Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 I would go and don't care (atleast look like it) about your ex. Act indifferent, look happy. If your path crosses, a simple "hello" will do. But if you think you'll get an setback in your healing from seeing her there, I wouldn't go. Now I ask you, what do you WANT to do? I really have no idea yet, I think seeing her will give me an indication of whether I really am over her or not. I wouldn't say hello though, I would do my best to ignore her completely.
BC1980 Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 I really have no idea yet, I think seeing her will give me an indication of whether I really am over her or not. I wouldn't say hello though, I would do my best to ignore her completely. I was going to say that it depends on how far you are in the healing process, but you often need to touch the fire to see if you get burnt. It's a public event, so I don't see the harm in going. Just avoid her or smile and nod if she speaks.
Author Jagged100 Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 I was going to say that it depends on how far you are in the healing process, but you often need to touch the fire to see if you get burnt. It's a public event, so I don't see the harm in going. Just avoid her or smile and nod if she speaks. You're right, it's the ultimate test for me so to speak. I would love to be able to see her and literally not feel a thing. I don't think she'll try to speak to me, she loves to play the victim card
Redhead14 Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 My ex and I have been broken up for over a year now and have seen each other since then. We've both did petty, stupid things to hurt each other after our break up till I put a complete stop to the games. She was trying to throw her new relationship in my face via social media. I got to a point where I just blocked her and have tried to move on. My problem is that I've accepted and paid for a charity lunch in May and have found out that she may be there in a professional capacity due to a new job. Do I still go and if so how do I react? What would you do if it was you? I would behave like the adult that I am . . . and deal with whatever comes in a civil, respectful way and focused on her professional responsibility for being there and nothing else. She's just another attendee at a charity function. If she does not conduct herself in that capacity, you tell her that you will not entertain anything that doesn't support the purpose for attending the event and turn away.
Author Jagged100 Posted March 25, 2017 Author Posted March 25, 2017 I would behave like the adult that I am . . . and deal with whatever comes in a civil, respectful way and focused on her professional responsibility for being there and nothing else. She's just another attendee at a charity function. If she does not conduct herself in that capacity, you tell her that you will not entertain anything that doesn't support the purpose for attending the event and turn away. I absolutely agree with you, I'm there for a purpose that has nothing to do with her
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