How did you know he/she was "the one"?

[avvril3000]

In this forum, the issues and problems are plentiful.

 

I thought i might open a positive, feel good post regarding anyone who has been in a super long term relationship that works and is happy, whether it be marriage or not. How and when did you know they were "the one"?

[ZayKayWill]

If they stick with you no matter how crazy you are or how many problems you bring to the table, they are a keeper.

[duncsvoice]

If they stick with you no matter how crazy you are or how many problems you bring to the table, they are a keeper.

 

Oh, no no no. My ex abused me physically and emotionally and I stuck with her through all of her mental problems, and made myself very ill in the process. I was absolutely not The One, just Another One. Far too black and white your thinking.

 

Personally, I realised my current partner is the one when I realised she encourages me to embrace the parts of my personality others had made me feel ashamed of (namely being a bit of nerd!). A little thing, for sure, and there are many other reasons, but this one sticks out for me

[2.50 a gallon]

For about two years she had been telling me I was the one she wanted to marry.

Hernia surgery, I went in at 6, was supposed to go under the knife at 7 and released that afternoon. As it turned out, the cops got in a shot out, a couple of LEO's were shot along with a couple of bad guys. They spill into my operating room and I do not get put under until afternoon. When I come out of it, the girl is at work, my mom has them put me in a non smoking room, this was over 30 years ago and you could still smoke in a hospital. I was cold and they tried to get me to eat this garbage, and worst of all I have to pee bad. They, the nurses expect me to lay on my back and use the muscle they just cut to pee uphill.

GF shows up and the **** hits the fan, she finds a nurse and the two of them help me to the potty where I can dangle and let it drip. Relief! I was addicted to Pepsi, she got me a cold one and something worth eating, an extra blanket to keep me warm, the told them he has been smoking for over a decade lit one up for me and two puffs later I was sleepy.

In short she had my back when I really needed the help

One year later we married, and six months after that we broke up

[2.50 a gallon]

Over the next 15 years I probably dated close to a hundred different ladies. None of them came close to getting me to break my vows of never falling in love again. I was a happy bachelor, I could do what I wanted, with whom ever I wanted, and when ever I wanted and had no one to answer to. My life was perfect. I dated lots of women.

Second date, first kiss, my thick and mighty walls melted. It happened so quickly I had no defense. I went home that night realizing how lonely I was.

We have now been together for almost 22 years, not married, why screw up a good thing?

[Rockdad]

We have been together almost 20 yrs. I didn't know she was "the one". We grew to be best friends from me initially not being able to stand her. She was a self admitting man hater. I learned over time the hidden physical and mental abuse she endured for years at the hand of her husband.

 

We both eventually were divorced. One day at the office after feeling something odd in the air outside our professional life I came out and asked her "Are you in love with me??" She replied a nervous and simple yes.

 

No exaggeration not just my opinion she is one of the prettiest woman in this area. Heck her brother is thought of a really hot guy. I had this dumb founded question echoing in my thoughts, how does a girl like this fall in love with me? We kissed later on that day after my head and thoughts cleared up.

 

We have been connected since. Over time her hard edge at men waned away. We married a couple years after that first kiss. She is the most impressive person I have ever met. She inherited my 3 little boys and my narcissistic ex all in one stroke.