Legumin Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Hello forum, I'm new here and I thought you might be able to help me with this one issue that's been bothering me. About three months ago, the girl that I had gone on a few dates with, who seemed to really like me and had already been intimate with me, was in a car accident. Her car was hit by a drunk driver and she had to get her leg stitched because of a piece of the windshield. Once I found out, I naturally freaked out and immediately repeatedly asked if there was anything that I can do to help. She politely thanked me but declined both times. I seemed to notice she went a bit cold after that. However, we kept on talking and even met up once again a few days later, though only for a short time. After a few more days of messaging, she told me her grandfather, who she had been very close with, passed away. In response to that, I sent her the most understanding text that I could, talking about how much I sympathize with her, saying that she knew I was there for her, if she needed me - though I knew she could take care of herself - that I want to give her a present to bring her a little happiness in these difficult times, as I always liked doing so; and asking her to tell me how she went on. From that moment on, we never spoke again. I tried messaging, voice messaging, and calling (though her phone was always off when I called, so I don't know if she ever found out that I was trying to reach out that way). Do you think I should not have been so "personal" with her in my message offering to bring her a present? Is that enough reason to cut someone off from your life entirely? Through a few common friends, I found out she was at a party only 2 days after her accident, where she got quite drunk, which she (I think quite deliberately) never told me about. Also, I generally had the creeping feeling that she was trying to keep me out of her circle of friends. Do you think I messed up by acting too much like a boyfriend in relatively early stages of dating? Or do you think she was simply stringing me along and started feeling bad about it once things got "too real", so she decided to ghost me? It has been over two months now and I cannot get her out of my head. I am not one to believe in "the one", but I had never been so in love before.
smackie9 Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 You have been on a couple of dates and you are in love with her??? She's running away from you and there is nothing you can do about it. The writing is on the wall. You did nothing wrong, it's just the fact she doesn't feel the same way about you....nature of the beast.
Author Legumin Posted March 22, 2017 Author Posted March 22, 2017 I've known her for a while, we've just never been close. She actually initiated this more intimate contact. Your reading of it is also mine, though. The truth is, I just wanted to hear it from someone else.
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