what has happened

[Pintpot]

I’ve been with my partner for 3 years last summer she made the mistake of sleeping with someone else while working at sea. to which she confessed to me in jan this year some 5 months later in between this period in sept I visited her for a stay in Spain where she was placed in a ship yard working to where she was raped by a worker

 

but there was a story behind it to that she invited him ack to her cabin for communal sex but in the morning he raped her when she refused more sex so I guess she cheated twice and got raped.

 

Now 3 weeks ago I said shall I come and visit you for a few days because I hadn’t seen her since November 8th as she was working at sea again.

 

To which she told me don’t I dare come over to visit when there is only 6 weeks left to which I then said why and she then said just **** off and I said your cheating which was my first thought given the past….??

 

So at this point she breaks off the relationship knowing I have bought a engagement ring and was about to propose in April this year.

 

So to make this simple I’ve begged and begged for 3 weeks so fare all to nothing other then we are over I don’t want to be with you etc etc. this has gone on for 3 weeks nearly I asked did she love me did she miss me and can she forgive me all she said yes to apart from forgive me for name calling her a cheat and a lier.

 

So she said the other day I don’t want to talk to you for my last 4 weeks but ill message when I get home if you want me to and she also said if you want to meet for coffee we can but just because we are meeting doesn’t mean we are going to sort this I can’t be with you and I don’t want to be.

 

she's said she doesn't want to talk to me for 4 weeks but when she is home she will talk to me and meet for coffee but I shouldn't take it that this means we will get back together

 

Then a few days ago she sent this to me

 

Look, stop messaging me, stop emailing me, stop contacting my friends. I've told you I don't want to be with you and I don't want to speak to you, that is my choice. If you carry on I will contact the police, this is harassment! Stop now, I don't ever want to see you again.

 

Ive had no contact and she's completely shut me out of her life like I never was there im juts after peoples thoughts on this as much and as open as you can be as this really helps me ??

 

What can be the problem and what can I do ??

[Poutrew]

She has done you a favor. You have dodged a bullet. This woman has a man in every port - literally. Be thankful you didn't give her the ring. If you bought it, return it and spend the money on yourself. Then find a real woman who wants to commit to you. Good luck.

[NTV]

She has done you a favor. You have dodged a bullet. This woman has a man in every port - literally. Be thankful you didn't give her the ring. If you bought it, return it and spend the money on yourself. Then find a real woman who wants to commit to you. Good luck.

 

^^^^^^^^

Exactly this.

[preraph]

Look, she's got some problems, that's for sure, but the simple fact is she has a job long distance from you and so I doubt she ever intended to stay with you, and now she has built some sort of new life, and she doesn't want you in it.

 

I sympathize because I know she sounds like she's a bit off the rails, but it also sounds like she has distanced herself intentionally for some time. I think it's time to accept this is no longer a relationship and go find yourself a nice calm woman who isn't too complicated and lives in your town.