vampirebrat Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 (edited) So I've met this great guy, well technically I met him ages ago, but I've only just started talking to him fairly recently. I really like him. Like so much. We click together so well it's amazing. We're so comfortable and happy together, and it feels like we've been together for ages. It's all just so natural. But, ofc, there's a catch. He's moving to Manchester. Which is about 4 hours away. It's doable, but so expensive. It's £200 for a single ticket. There's no way I can afford that. It might be another 5 months until I'm working again and able to afford the fare. I can't go with him, I don't want to rush things and he doesn't either. Besides I've been there and it's always killed the relationship. He also can't stay here. He has his heart set on leaving, and I like him too much to hold him back. Also, if he did stay and it didn't work out, I'd feel just dreadful. He did pitch an idea to me that I'm really not sure about. He suggested a semi-open relationship. The way he explained it we'd be exclusive until we left. But once he's in Manchester I can sleep around. He's even been setting me up with people. I know it's a method of controlling who I sleep with. But I can't figure out if it's an arse-backwards way to attempt to make it work. Or a way for him to guilt me into not straying. Even if I did sleep with his friends, how freaking awkward would it be if we hung out as a group? I just don't know what to do. I'm legit so conflicted. Part of me wants to try this weird relationship. But the rational part tells me it just won't work. The potential to get messy is just too big. Idk if I should just bail, or wait to see things pan out. I mean we might not even like each other by the time he leaves. Why are relationships so freaking complicated? Srsly I dunno whether to laugh or cry. ^^; Edited March 22, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Clean up extraneous characters and approve post
Tressugar Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 If it's meant to be it'll work out in terms of the of you being together in the future. Him setting you with folks to sleep with in my opinion is not necessary. You can do that on your own. Ask yourself are you strong enough to sleep with this guy and willing to take a risk of developing even a stronger bond or feelings only for him to leave you? Think ahead and what's best for you and not just in the here and now.
Miss Spider Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Sounds like he has no respect for you at all. Suggesting you can fck people when he moves away and even suggesting to you people to fck. How sweet. Where do people find the gall.... 2
divegrl Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Whenever a man sets you up with other people, he is just not that into you. Let this one go. Good luck my friend!
GoldSparkz Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Setting you up with people to sleep with?? He should be doing the opposite! Why is there always a catch:( Having said that some people are open to the idea of a non-exclusive relationship. How do you feel about it? Remember, he will be sleeping with other women too. Will you have any control over who he sleeps with?? I doubt it. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. Being so far away will make you even more insecure. Have you considered that?
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