6 months later and still can't let go of the disappointment

[warpingmind]

My exboyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago after 10 years.Actually, I broke up after earing him say he felt something different for another person.Still he wanted to continue our relationship, but I just couldn't handle being in this situation.Much more after he had broken up with me a few months previously.

 

Last time we had contact was early this month where he sent me a message with his bank account details for me to transfer some money I was owing him,as per my request, to which I replied only with 'Done'.

 

6 months later I still feel a real mess.The disappointment owns me.I never thought he would go behind my back and arrange meetings with this girl he had feelings for and who knows what else.It's not just the sorrow from the ending of quite a long partnership,but the disappointment in someone you trusted entirely and was also your best friend.I know that he is angry with me because of no contact,but can't be friend with him and knowing what's going in his life and can't be part of any of it.

 

The fact that I can't get a job and have an illness that persists and I'm trying to get rid of doesn't help either.Today I was on my lowest point, all the emotions came through and I was trying to hide my tears in public.

 

How can I move on from this?

[DumpedGuy9617]

I'm so sorry you are going through this...I'm afraid I can't offer any advice you probably haven't already heard...focus on yourself and getting healthy, and know that eventually it will get better. 10 years is a long time. It will take a long time to get through it.

[Maldives]

My exboyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago after 10 years.Actually, I broke up after earing him say he felt something different for another person.Still he wanted to continue our relationship, but I just couldn't handle being in this situation.Much more after he had broken up with me a few months previously.

 

Last time we had contact was early this month where he sent me a message with his bank account details for me to transfer some money I was owing him,as per my request, to which I replied only with 'Done'.

 

6 months later I still feel a real mess.The disappointment owns me.I never thought he would go behind my back and arrange meetings with this girl he had feelings for and who knows what else.It's not just the sorrow from the ending of quite a long partnership,but the disappointment in someone you trusted entirely and was also your best friend.I know that he is angry with me because of no contact,but can't be friend with him and knowing what's going in his life and can't be part of any of it.

 

The fact that I can't get a job and have an illness that persists and I'm trying to get rid of doesn't help either.Today I was on my lowest point, all the emotions came through and I was trying to hide my tears in public.

 

How can I move on from this?

 

I know exactly how u feel. Today I felt exactly the same we were together 6 yrs and it's aweful because we work together something she wanted so bad and I knew it wold be at my expense in the end. I see guys at wo4k always go up to her and I have to put up wth it im angry at her. She chased me interstate we had problems to try and fix the relationship she had kids and lost them in a custody battle. She decided she wanted to stay let her kids go i hope one it already has btw karma gets her for this again. Imagine having to see wat i see. Even speaking to a councillor there kinda like just get on wth it yes I know and if she wasn't there it would be a hell of a lot easier to Do. I can relate to u even tho our circumstances are different. I think for u in a way at least his out of mind out of site. One way for u to start feeling better about ureself is to hav small wins and gains wether that's scoring a job or something else. Lots o lov sweetie and big hug for u