Dating new guy, moving way too fast?

[Ilovelifeforwhatcome]

You told us it wasn't until after your second date.

 

 

 

The story is changing a lot here. I feel like you're hoping and wishing, so you're subconsciously slanting things so they don't look as bad. But...they do look bad. All I'm saying is, I wouldn't be holding my breath, if I were you. You said you want to date other people (or you said that in your previous thread) so just keep doing that.

 

I'm really sorry I mixed up what he said the 2nd date. The 3 weeks thing he brought up very soon after we began messaging. The 2nd date he just brought up that rushing into a relationship (his original idea) was not a good idea after talking to some co workers and sitting down and thinking about it. He told me took keep options open and we could continue going on dates after the 3 weeks. I promise I'm not slanting the story, just should word it better. I expressed my feelings to him and he said he was very interested, just wanted not to dive into a serious relationship and get hurt again.

[Miss Spider]

I'm really sorry I mixed up what he said the 2nd date. The 3 weeks thing he brought up very soon after we began messaging. The 2nd date he just brought up that rushing into a relationship (his original idea) was not a good idea after talking to some co workers and sitting down and thinking about it. He told me took keep options open and we could continue going on dates after the 3 weeks. I promise I'm not slanting the story, just should word it better. I expressed my feelings to him and he said he was very interested, just wanted not to dive into a serious relationship and get hurt again.

 

I wouldn't put my eggs in this basket if you know what I mean..

 

A guy who's really into you is rarely going to tell you "keep your options open"

 

Sounds like it somehow wasn't working for him sometime after dates 1 and 2 and he's prob seeing others.

 

No biggie, it happens.

You're seeing other guys anyway

[CaliforniaGirl]

I'm really sorry I mixed up what he said the 2nd date. The 3 weeks thing he brought up very soon after we began messaging. The 2nd date he just brought up that rushing into a relationship (his original idea) was not a good idea after talking to some co workers and sitting down and thinking about it. He told me took keep options open and we could continue going on dates after the 3 weeks. I promise I'm not slanting the story, just should word it better. I expressed my feelings to him and he said he was very interested, just wanted not to dive into a serious relationship and get hurt again.

 

I don't really understand what you're asking us here. You are seeing other guys and he told you point blank that you should, which indicates you are on the same page. He said a few dramatic things but maybe he just isn't great at figuring out what women want to hear, so he threw out what he hoped would be panty droppers and kind of fumbled that. But then he definitely sounds like he does not want just you right now. And you don't want just him. That's what you want, right? Something not serious, but you're having the occasional date? So...where is the issue? What is your question? If the question is - is it moving too fast? Well, obviously not, because he backed right up after his big proclamations and said: please date other guys.

[Ilovelifeforwhatcome]

I wouldn't put my eggs in this basket if you know what I mean..

 

A guy who's really into you is rarely going to tell you "keep your options open"

 

Sounds like it somehow wasn't working for him sometime after dates 1 and 2 and he's prob seeing others.

 

No biggie, it happens.

You're seeing other guys anyway

 

I was before I met him, but not at the moment, none of the other guys worked out. Plus I told him I was dating others before we even met.

[Kamille]

I'm really sorry I mixed up what he said the 2nd date. The 3 weeks thing he brought up very soon after we began messaging. The 2nd date he just brought up that rushing into a relationship (his original idea) was not a good idea after talking to some co workers and sitting down and thinking about it. He told me took keep options open and we could continue going on dates after the 3 weeks. I promise I'm not slanting the story, just should word it better. I expressed my feelings to him and he said he was very interested, just wanted not to dive into a serious relationship and get hurt again.

 

So you both agree.

 

1. Neither of you want to rush into a relationship.

2. You two will continue dating when he comes back.

 

Is there a problem here?

[Ilovelifeforwhatcome]

So you both agree.

 

1. Neither of you want to rush into a relationship.

2. You two will continue dating when he comes back.

 

Is there a problem here?

 

I guess not, idk though. I am really interested in taking it to the next level w/him, I just want to prepare myself for a slow fade if that happens. The slow fade has happened to me several times and it really hurt me.