berry1 Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 Okay to be bluntly honest im new to dating. I've only really been in one long term relationship and with that girl we never dated. We was kind of sleeping in the same bed and getting sexual on week 2 but we already knew each other for a long time. As im sure you know dating is very different than this from what i can tell so im a bit lost. I have been dating a lady who i met online for about a month now. We have been on 2 dates so far and we have a 3rd date arranged for this week. She has a shy personality but does not seem shy around me (good sign?) I seem to make her laugh a lot with my sarcasm and witty way at explaining things which again i would assume is a good sign? I guess my main question is can someone give me a basic layout of how this dating thing usually goes? E.g. how long is it usual to date for before moving into a more long term relationship? How affectionate should things be on date 2 to 3? I think im just worried about not moving the affection forward quick enough and her feeling awkward and losing interest On both previous dates we have ended the night with a quick kiss on the lips which seemed right but i don't know haha im so clueless with this! Usually i wouldn't care so much but i think i really like this woman. I've not bothered logging into my dating profiles since our first date so i think so Any general advice would be appreciated!
smackie9 Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 Everyone is different...you go at a pace that you feel confident with. 3
coolheadal Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 Are you ready for a more meaningful relationship instead of playing the field online dating? If you are then you can handle yourself with the shy girl. Time comes and goes what you can find out will happen but you have to give it time. No rushing into or forcing someone to move in your direction. Remember you can't change her and she can't change you. Be loyal to this one she might be a keeper for you. Then you can close-up shop on the online dating and finally have someone you can want to be with.
Simple Logic Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Okay to be bluntly honest im new to dating. I've only really been in one long term relationship and with that girl we never dated. We was kind of sleeping in the same bed and getting sexual on week 2 but we already knew each other for a long time. As im sure you know dating is very different than this from what i can tell so im a bit lost. I have been dating a lady who i met online for about a month now. We have been on 2 dates so far and we have a 3rd date arranged for this week. She has a shy personality but does not seem shy around me (good sign?) I seem to make her laugh a lot with my sarcasm and witty way at explaining things which again i would assume is a good sign? I guess my main question is can someone give me a basic layout of how this dating thing usually goes? E.g. how long is it usual to date for before moving into a more long term relationship? How affectionate should things be on date 2 to 3? I think im just worried about not moving the affection forward quick enough and her feeling awkward and losing interest On both previous dates we have ended the night with a quick kiss on the lips which seemed right but i don't know haha im so clueless with this! Usually i wouldn't care so much but i think i really like this woman. I've not bothered logging into my dating profiles since our first date so i think so Any general advice would be appreciated! Treat her with respect, go on fun dates you both enjoy, and she give you some clues.
NVO Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 I'm in a similar situation. I've been on three dates with this girl and we only kissed on the lips. Our third date ended with a kiss on the lips too, so afterwards I just bluntly asked her if she was feeling it because I've never been on three dates with a girl without at least making out. She told me she had fun, but likes to move slow because I'm a new guy she just met. She mentioned our next date ('Next time we'll do this and this'), but at the same time she has a busy week coming up so I won't be able to see her for the coming two weeks. And since she is studying for her exams, texting is getting less frequent too. We'll see how this works out. I understand your concerns about the level of interest, because I'm somewhat left wondering too. If you like the girl, just don't pressure her but keep doing you. Let her decide the pace. Don't bring up any exclusivity talk and stuff until she does. And if this is moving too slow for you, I guess you're not compatible.
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