emsx0x Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 (edited) So I met a guy recently for a casual hook up, he is younger than me which is kinda why I chose him to do something like this with so no feelings could get attached. We met once did our thing and then he never spoke to me after so I wrote him off. (He finished fast and I told him this so I figured thats probably why he didnt talk to me, maybe was embarrassed, but I was attracted enough to give it another shot) Then out of the blue he texts me and acts like he wants to meet up but then always has some excuse. This happened every couple weeks or so since (it's been 2 months). I've finally stopped talking to him because I feel like he's just using me for an ego boost with no real plans to see me. I feel like if a guy had a chance to have a f w b situation wouldn't they take it? And why would he keep talking to me with no intention of seeing me when he's had multiple chances. So frustrated. Edited March 21, 2017 by emsx0x
hercules22 Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 so why do you care if his being wierd about the whole thing just think of it as his loss try a fwb situation with someone else if u truly dont care what the other person feels whos knows maybe this bloke will beg for you down the road lol
Miss Spider Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 2 things I can think of Either 1. He wants to hook up again he's nervous/embarrassed about his "abilities" (idk??)? Or 2. He doesn't really wanna hookup again now but likes to know the option's there. 3
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 2 things I can think of Either 1. He wants to hook up again he's nervous/embarrassed about his "abilities" (idk??)? Or 2. He doesn't really wanna hookup again now but likes to know the option's there. These are actually just the two things I thought of. We could both be wrong but yeah, these are what came to mind. 1
coolheadal Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 So I met a guy recently for a casual hook up, he is younger than me which is kinda why I chose him to do something like this with so no feelings could get attached. We met once did our thing and then he never spoke to me after so I wrote him off. (He finished fast and I told him this so I figured thats probably why he didnt talk to me, maybe was embarrassed, but I was attracted enough to give it another shot) Then out of the blue he texts me and acts like he wants to meet up but then always has some excuse. This happened every couple weeks or so since (it's been 2 months). I've finally stopped talking to him because I feel like he's just using me for an ego boost with no real plans to see me. I feel like if a guy had a chance to have a f w b situation wouldn't they take it? And why would he keep talking to me with no intention of seeing me when he's had multiple chances. So frustrated. Because he can, why can he, because you allowing him to do so. Write him off and move on. 2
act00 Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 I'm thinking he contacts you in case he doesn't have someone else to do. He wants to make sure you're around. I don't know why you care. You hooked up with him on the premise this was just a one-timer, or casual. You were unsatisfied, but he got what he needed. He'll keep you around, and I doubt he'll work on his stamina, let alone work you, so let it go. 3
Author emsx0x Posted March 22, 2017 Author Posted March 22, 2017 I'm thinking he contacts you in case he doesn't have someone else to do. He wants to make sure you're around. I don't know why you care. You hooked up with him on the premise this was just a one-timer, or casual. You were unsatisfied, but he got what he needed. He'll keep you around, and I doubt he'll work on his stamina, let alone work you, so let it go. Well I mean I care because I wanted to see him again but he never asks, he send s snapchats and texts once in a while but it never goes anywhere :/
divegrl Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 It could be a million different reasons. My guess is he is having sex with someone else..... but wants to make sure he stills has you as an option. I would find another FWB. Good luck my friend! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Well I mean I care because I wanted to see him again but he never asks, he send s snapchats and texts once in a while but it never goes anywhere :/ You're the back-up plan. If he actually has a free night, without other options, he's probably hoping he can still get some from you. Sounds like a waste of your time; I would stop replying to him. 2
GoldSparkz Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 I never thought things could get this complicated with a FWB situation. I thought the whole point of having one is to meet each other's sexual needs with no emotional involvement. So does this mean you are developing feelings for him...if you care this much? How do you feel about the prospect of him sleeping with other women and potentially choosing them over you? 1
Arieswoman Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 emsx, So I met a guy recently for a casual hook up and now you're wondering why he's acting flaky?? What do you expect? It's like buying an orange and then wondering why it doesn't taste like a banana. Delete, block move on. 3
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