Can a guy and a girl be best friends without one of them falling for each other?

[ZayKayWill]

I used to think they can, but now I'm really not sure. I have a few girls who I definitely consider best friends (as in, I know I can always go to them if I need someone to talk to/support me for whatever it is I need support with), but I mean we don't talk or hang out very often. Plus they both live in different states from me. If we were to talk and hang out more often, though, then who really knows what would happen? If you consider someone a best friend, someone that you know you can trust with your life no matter what, why wouldn't you make them your partner, you know? And this doesn't include guys and girls who are just friends. I'm talking *best* friends. Also I think that if you're already in a relationship with someone, someone of the opposite sex can be a best friend, but if I'm single and looking for someone to be with...I feel my girl 'best friend' would be the person I make my future partner.

 

PS: For all your smart asses, obviously this doesn't include gay guys or lesbian girls.

Edited March 21, 2017 by ZayKayWill

[cocorico]

 

If you consider someone a best friend, someone that you know you can trust with your life no matter what, why wouldn't you make them your partner, you know?

 

 

I'd want to be sexually attracted to a life partner. I have some really close guy friends that I love dearly, but, well, jumping their bones is never going to happen. Perhaps because there is too much emotional closeness, or perhaps just a lack of chemistry, who knows. But no, I wouldn't make moves on them, precisely because they are best friends. Friends, IMO, are for life. Romantic interests wax and wane, and you need a friend to talk these things through with.

 

That said, my H is my closest friend. But that happened the other way round. Passion, then intimacy, then friendship and love.

[Haydn]

For me yes. Many others would disagree.

 

I have had close opposite sex friends for years.

 

Vice versa with my better half.

 

No issue.

[ZayKayWill]

For me yes. Many others would disagree.

 

I have had close opposite sex friends for years.

 

Vice versa with my better half.

 

No issue.

 

What made you not want to pursue something more? (Just out of curiosity)

[TheBathWater]

I think it is possible, yes, but in many instances I think it is very likely that at least one person will desire more from the other at some point...and usually the man desiring more from the woman.

[ZayKayWill]

Bumpabump.

[central]

I have several very close female friends. I don't want a relationship with them (wouldn't even if I were single) because there is at least one fundamental incompatibility with each of them: it may be appearance, it may be personality, it may be beliefs, or attitude(s), life goals, etc., and one is asexual. It's pretty easy to NOT want something more with any of them, but they are great friends. There's one who might be good for FWB, but the risk there is that she'd want more.

[ZayKayWill]

I have several very close female friends. I don't want a relationship with them (wouldn't even if I were single) because there is at least one fundamental incompatibility with each of them: it may be appearance, it may be personality, it may be beliefs, or attitude(s), life goals, etc., and one is asexual. It's pretty easy to NOT want something more with any of them, but they are great friends. There's one who might be good for FWB, but the risk there is that she'd want more.

 

You know I always have wondered why some of my clise female friends were nothing more but just friends. And oddly enough one girl I know is beautiful, smart, very alike to me etc. You'd think she'd be the one, but yet I only see her as a friend and nothing more. I like the way you said what you said though that makes a lot of sense it absolutely baffles me that people think that guys will ONLY AND ALWAYS want to have sex with their female friends. Honestly the thought of having sex with her is just awkward. If I was drunk I'm sure that would change though.