Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 The youngish crowd simply doesn't value commitment as an immediate consideration as the 35+ folks. Still exploring, having fun and not looking to settle down or maintain a monogamous relationship long term. Not entirely sold on the "they are not mature yet" business, rather, up-bringing, values and priorities are much more indicators, I think. I thank goodness I'm not dating as a 20-something today. I didn't have many relationships in my 20s, but not b/c I couldn't, rather, it was b/c my personal value system didn't find the need to find the next warm body necessary. I was in one or two LTR or happily single working on myself and thinking about my future. 1
devilish innocent Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 It wasn't really a date, but I did once flake on a guy who was interested in me. I met him at the start of college. He kept wanting to hang out but didn't seem to pick up on the fact that I wasn't interested in him, just hanging out with him as a friend would. When I tried to claim I had somewhere else to be to avoid seeing him, he'd say, "I can meet you there," not picking up that I was trying to brush him off. So one time I'd agreed to meet him for something after my science lab. During lab, my lab partner asked if I wanted to get lunch with her after lab was done. It seemed more worthwhile to invest in a friendship with her than him so I stood him up.
Jj66 Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 I flaked because I was seeing someone else and decided I couldn't actually go through with the date I had agreed to. It was a last minute pang of conscience. I decided to see if I could work things out with my gf and if not actually break up with her before trying to find someone new.
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