LoveYouForever Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 Hello everyone, been a while here (lurking since June last year). I've read loads of different stories, I've been shocked by some . I must say that some of them stopped me from getting in affair with a married man. How did it happen that I fell in love with him? I always had a crush on him, few years ago ( both single) he asked me out, been on maybe 4 dates and we lost contact. We reunited in 2015 (few months after his wedding). Nothing ever happened between us, but it could. I've decided not to get involved with him, but I fell for him really, really badly. I'd rather stay single forever than to be in a relationship with someone else. He's got everything I ever wanted in a man, no one can satisfy me, I've never met anyone who fulfilled my needs in 100%, he's like my other half I swear. I live in pain, I can't be happy with sb else, no one is as good as him, his wife is the luckiest woman in the world and I'd do anything to be at her place I tried to move on and forget about him but all those guys talk the same sh#t over and over again, all of them want to have sex on the first date, all they talk about is themselves or they are faking to be nice just to get laid. He is so unique, he always been, he's got the whole package - imagine your perfect type, he's exactly what I want. It's very rare to meet a person like this, I've never met anyone who I had such a good connection with. None of my ex was as good as him, this is so weird. I always wonder why it happens to me, I just can't forget about him! 1
bradt93 Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 Hello everyone, been a while here (lurking since June last year). I've read loads of different stories, I've been shocked by some . I must say that some of them stopped me from getting in affair with a married man. How did it happen that I fell in love with him? I always had a crush on him, few years ago ( both single) he asked me out, been on maybe 4 dates and we lost contact. We reunited in 2015 (few months after his wedding). Nothing ever happened between us, but it could. I've decided not to get involved with him, but I fell for him really, really badly. I'd rather stay single forever than to be in a relationship with someone else. He's got everything I ever wanted in a man, no one can satisfy me, I've never met anyone who fulfilled my needs in 100%, he's like my other half I swear. I live in pain, I can't be happy with sb else, no one is as good as him, his wife is the luckiest woman in the world and I'd do anything to be at her place I tried to move on and forget about him but all those guys talk the same sh#t over and over again, all of them want to have sex on the first date, all they talk about is themselves or they are faking to be nice just to get laid. He is so unique, he always been, he's got the whole package - imagine your perfect type, he's exactly what I want. It's very rare to meet a person like this, I've never met anyone who I had such a good connection with. None of my ex was as good as him, this is so weird. I always wonder why it happens to me, I just can't forget about him! Please don't think about it, do you really want to be the one to ruin a marriage? 1
Author LoveYouForever Posted March 21, 2017 Author Posted March 21, 2017 Please don't think about it, do you really want to be the one to ruin a marriage? But I am not planning to have an affair, I'm struggling and waiting until he's single again, eventually.
mikeylo Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 Hello everyone, been a while here (lurking since June last year). I've read loads of different stories, I've been shocked by some . I must say that some of them stopped me from getting in affair with a married man. How did it happen that I fell in love with him? I always had a crush on him, few years ago ( both single) he asked me out, been on maybe 4 dates and we lost contact. We reunited in 2015 (few months after his wedding). Nothing ever happened between us, but it could. I've decided not to get involved with him, but I fell for him really, really badly. I'd rather stay single forever than to be in a relationship with someone else. He's got everything I ever wanted in a man, no one can satisfy me, I've never met anyone who fulfilled my needs in 100%, he's like my other half I swear. I live in pain, I can't be happy with sb else, no one is as good as him, his wife is the luckiest woman in the world and I'd do anything to be at her place I tried to move on and forget about him but all those guys talk the same sh#t over and over again, all of them want to have sex on the first date, all they talk about is themselves or they are faking to be nice just to get laid. He is so unique, he always been, he's got the whole package - imagine your perfect type, he's exactly what I want. It's very rare to meet a person like this, I've never met anyone who I had such a good connection with. None of my ex was as good as him, this is so weird. I always wonder why it happens to me, I just can't forget about him! But I am not planning to have an affair, I'm struggling and waiting until he's single again, eventually. Has he filed for divorce or getting an annulment after such a short marriage?
Whodatdog Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 Very easy to put someone up on a pedestal that you dont really know. You may be in love with him, or you may be in love with what you think he is. 2
JuneL Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 If you are so attracted to him, why would you just lose contact after going on a few dates?
Author LoveYouForever Posted March 23, 2017 Author Posted March 23, 2017 If you are so attracted to him, why would you just lose contact after going on a few dates? Good question. I had emotional problems at that time, was depressed and even though he was chasing me I've never had time to meet and I lost him. We've met only few times and he wanted more. I could not to be ready for commitment and got scared as well. He was messaging me all this time asking for a meeting and I just f***** up.
Author LoveYouForever Posted March 23, 2017 Author Posted March 23, 2017 Very easy to put someone up on a pedestal that you dont really know. You may be in love with him, or you may be in love with what you think he is. I actually know him very well because we are friends.
Author LoveYouForever Posted March 23, 2017 Author Posted March 23, 2017 Has he filed for divorce or getting an annulment after such a short marriage? No, he hasn't. Why should've he?
Author LoveYouForever Posted March 24, 2017 Author Posted March 24, 2017 For some reason I can't focus on anyone else. I know it has no future, why do I hurt myself like this....
mikeylo Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 No, he hasn't. Why should've he? Exactly. Why are you waiting for him to be single again? If he decides to stay married and faithful all his life then ?
aileD Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 He made a commitment to be married to his wife "til death do us part" Stop waiting for him. If oh we're all that special to him, he wouldn't have married someone else. You are obsessed with him and obsession isn't love. You won't find anyone else until you stop your obsession.
Whodatdog Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 I actually know him very well because we are friends. Just because you were friends, doesnt mean you know him very well. You were only on 4 dates with him.
preraph Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 He's got everything you like except for one very big thing: He didn't choose you. He could have remained single or divorced and been with you. His interest wasn't that high or he would have. I'm not trying to rub salt in the wound, but you've got to stop thinking this is the perfect union. It's one-sided.
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 For some reason I can't focus on anyone else. I know it has no future, why do I hurt myself like this.... If I had to guess, not knowing you but knowing human nature, I'd say it's so that you don't have to risk having an actual relationship. Actual relationships aren't sure things, and people can get hurt. By "wanting" this married man, the hurt has already happened so you don't have to wait for the axe to fall and the hurt to come out of nowhere. Also, it's so easy to idealize someone when you don't have to have a real relationship with him. You don't have to listen to his chewing noises at the table, be near his accidental farts, or see him day to day doing incredibly boring, normal things.
DKT3 Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 Hello everyone, been a while here (lurking since June last year). I've read loads of different stories, I've been shocked by some . I must say that some of them stopped me from getting in affair with a married man. How did it happen that I fell in love with him? I always had a crush on him, few years ago ( both single) he asked me out, been on maybe 4 dates and we lost contact. We reunited in 2015 (few months after his wedding). Nothing ever happened between us, but it could. I've decided not to get involved with him, but I fell for him really, really badly. I'd rather stay single forever than to be in a relationship with someone else. He's got everything I ever wanted in a man, no one can satisfy me, I've never met anyone who fulfilled my needs in 100%, he's like my other half I swear. I live in pain, I can't be happy with sb else, no one is as good as him, his wife is the luckiest woman in the world and I'd do anything to be at her place I tried to move on and forget about him but all those guys talk the same sh#t over and over again, all of them want to have sex on the first date, all they talk about is themselves or they are faking to be nice just to get laid. He is so unique, he always been, he's got the whole package - imagine your perfect type, he's exactly what I want. It's very rare to meet a person like this, I've never met anyone who I had such a good connection with. None of my ex was as good as him, this is so weird. I always wonder why it happens to me, I just can't forget about him! You do realize that this sounds like the rambling of a 14 year old girl, right? I'm not trying to make lite of your situation and discount your feelings, but it sounds like you've spent far too much time reading corny romance novels. You went on tour dates several years ago, lost connection then boom you're madly in love? Of course no other man can compare with a fantasy 1
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