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Miss Spider Established Member

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We met on bumble. :D

 

First strike is he accused me of being a fake account. I give him a little leeway because I know guys deal with that a lot on apps and he didn't do that thing where he asked for more pics or "proof"

 

The second strike is he got my number and texted me and we planned to meet up today but it is now 6:24pm and he has not given me a place or a time....

 

 

He said he gets off at 3.at about 5 .he texted me "what are you up tonight?"

I said "I thought I was meeting up with you..?.."

 

I didn't get any response??? So this is pissing me the hell off and I say "hmm you're laggy, shoot me a time and place if we're still on"

 

He texts me "Hey! Sorry, I'm working over. Work has been crazy. I'll hit you up as soon as I'm out :D"

 

:mad:

 

Should I just cancel with him or let the work excuse slide...?

 

I have nothing better to do tonight but I'm certainly never making plans with him again

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Shanex Established Member

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How long have you been talking? I mean, when was the first contact on bumble?

 

Usually in these cases, and his work excuse might be legit, I'd give him a second chance. If you have only been talking since a couple days, no big deal. Mondays can be busy.

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Cazalinka New Member

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I think it's rude on his part. He can't just leave you hanging like that! Needs to give you a time and place, like you say - and not last minute.

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Purepony Established Member

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Cancel on that loser and call me !

 

I'll pick you up, open doors for you and we'll do 150 and forget about everything !!

:p

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MidwestUSA Established Member

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Don't contact him to cancel. Just ignore him if he texts back. Show him the same respect he showed you. Time wasters.

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curiouslysearching Established Member

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We met on bumble. :D

 

First strike is he accused me of being a fake account. I give him a little leeway because I know guys deal with that a lot on apps and he didn't do that thing where he asked for more pics or "proof"

 

The second strike is he got my number and texted me and we planned to meet up today but it is now 6:24pm and he has not given me a place or a time....

 

 

He said he gets off at 3.at about 5 .he texted me "what are you up tonight?"

I said "I thought I was meeting up with you..?.."

 

I didn't get any response??? So this is pissing me the hell off and I say "hmm you're laggy, shoot me a time and place if we're still on"

 

He texts me "Hey! Sorry, I'm working over. Work has been crazy. I'll hit you up as soon as I'm out :D"

 

:mad:

 

Should I just cancel with him or let the work excuse slide...?

 

I have nothing better to do tonight but I'm certainly never making plans with him again

 

Something tells me he is not worth your time.....he should be doing anything possible to make things easy for you. He is not yet clued into the FACT that

he is the fortunate one (to be able to spend time with a woman like you).

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Shanex Established Member

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#TheLoveshackTheme: giving up rather than persistance.

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Erik30 Established Member

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I would cancel because it seems he was already going to do that himself anyway. (Or maybe he would've just ghost you) It looks like he's not that interested since he basically hasn't planned anything

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SevenCity Established Member

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Yea just ignore him. If he can't set definite plans he's not interested.

 

Though I would not hold the fake profile accusation against future guys. There's a lot of them online and especially if the woman is very attractive it appears fishy.

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Dis Established Member

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Hey girl! :D

 

Ugh...I'm frustrated for you

 

Treat him with the same respect and courtesy he shows you

 

He texted you,"Hey what you are you up to tonight?" So.....ya :rolleyes:

 

I dont think he cares whether or not you're going out

 

If he was really interested in meeting you he wouldnt have sent you a text like that or left you hanging

 

Enjoy your own company tonight....your company would probably be better than any jerk could offer ;)

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kendahke Established Member

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We met on bumble. :D

 

First strike is he accused me of being a fake account. I give him a little leeway because I know guys deal with that a lot on apps and he didn't do that thing where he asked for more pics or "proof"

 

The second strike is he got my number and texted me and we planned to meet up today but it is now 6:24pm and he has not given me a place or a time....

 

 

He said he gets off at 3.at about 5 .he texted me "what are you up tonight?"

I said "I thought I was meeting up with you..?.."

 

I didn't get any response??? So this is pissing me the hell off and I say "hmm you're laggy, shoot me a time and place if we're still on"

 

He texts me "Hey! Sorry, I'm working over. Work has been crazy. I'll hit you up as soon as I'm out :D"

 

:mad:

 

Should I just cancel with him or let the work excuse slide...?

 

I have nothing better to do tonight but I'm certainly never making plans with him again

 

The work excuse may be legit, but he also knew he'd penciled in plans to meet up with you this evening. The minute he saw he had to work overtime, he needed to contact you and tell you his plans may have to change. He didn't do that. Is it because he's not that interested or he doesn't have home training? Both are plausible--I suppose it depends upon late you want to be out on a Monday night and if you think he's worth you being tired tomorrow morning for work.

 

My new motto: you don't know him, you don't owe him.

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Dis Established Member

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Plus, going out with him tells him you allow people to waste and/or monopolize your time

 

Even if you never see him again...he doesnt deserve to have that effect on you

 

No one does

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Dis Established Member

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My new motto: you don't know him, you don't owe him.

 

I really like this

 

*fist pump* :D

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angel.eyes Established Member

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Hey Cookie! What would you cancel?:confused: Do you have a meeting time and location? If not, how is there a date? Add to that, he asked you what you were up to tonight, then flaked when you said meeting him.

 

If he pops back up randomly, just ignore. He's not worth any more time or energy.

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Dis Established Member

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Hey Cookie! What would you cancel?:confused: Do you have a meeting time and location?

 

Right

 

Last minute plans dont fly with me

 

Let the guy know you need solid plans made ahead of time. Time. Place. Date.

 

Its really not that difficult of a task

 

But if it is for a guy (like this one) cut him loose. Dont let him string you along until he bails 2 hours before whenever the date is supposed to happen (in his mind) lol :rolleyes:

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Shanex Established Member

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Cookie has yet to answer, I bet she's at the date by now and you guys are speaking for her. ;)

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Dis Established Member

Dis

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Cookie has yet to answer, I bet she's at the date by now

 

I think she is

 

Let us know how it goes girl :)

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KBob Established Member

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Cookie has yet to answer, I bet she's at the date by now and you guys are speaking for her. ;)

 

He must have had a smooth follow up explanation!

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Dis Established Member

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He must have had a smooth follow up explanation!

 

This made me lol :lmao:

 

I guess so!

 

Or Cookies was just super bored and figured wth lol

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Miss Spider Established Member

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Thank you, everyone!!

 

Lol we did end up going out at 8 last night after he got off...

 

He apologized but he was still so rude to do that.... dunno why I agreed to go...I think cuz I didn't want to waste the makeup and just wanted to get it over with

 

 

It was totally awkward(as per usual for me) but the rush-iness of it and that I was a little pissed and embarrassed made it worse

 

No chemistry...Not much to talk about but I pulled through...for like an hour

 

I even said "so you wanna...go?" And he said "go where??" I meant like go home and he said no he doesn't do we stayed until the place closed.

When we left he apologized again, said he wanted to see me again, that he was "intimated" by me but told me to text him...? Um he didn't pay for my tea since I got there early..shouldn't he have called me???

 

 

 

Yet no call or text in a day...though I'm not that surprised..as you guys said he was lukewarm by his actions to begin with....also I didn't feel chemistry with him anyway.

 

I feel like I'll never find anyone I click with, that I find attractive. It makes me sad, but I'm just exhausted with the whole dating process after 1 "date" in months.

 

 

Maybe my standards are just too high.

 

Hopeless.

 

 

Thanks anyway for the support,all. It means a lot.:)

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SevenCity Established Member

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Thank you, everyone!!

 

Lol we did end up going out at 8 last night after he got off...

 

He apologized but he was still so rude to do that.... dunno why I agreed to go...I think cuz I didn't want to waste the makeup and just wanted to get it over with

 

 

It was totally awkward(as per usual for me) but the rush-iness of it and that I was a little pissed and embarrassed made it worse

 

No chemistry...Not much to talk about but I pulled through...for like an hour

 

I even said "so you wanna...go?" And he said "go where??" I meant like go home and he said no he doesn't do we stayed until the place closed.

When we left he apologized again, said he wanted to see me again, that he was "intimated" by me but told me to text him...? Um he didn't pay for my tea since I got there early..shouldn't he have called me???

 

 

 

Yet no call or text in a day...though I'm not that surprised..as you guys said he was lukewarm by his actions to begin with....also I didn't feel chemistry with him anyway.

 

I feel like I'll never find anyone I click with, that I find attractive. It makes me sad, but I'm just exhausted with the whole dating process after 1 "date" in months.

 

 

Maybe my standards are just too high.

 

Hopeless.

 

 

Thanks anyway for the support,all. It means a lot.:)

 

That sounds awful and uncomfortable. But that's what can happen with dating.

 

Your standards are not too high. At a minimum the guy should make definite plans. Work is no excuse - anyone can take 2 seconds to let you know they are running late.

 

Not all guys are like this. But be thankful you figured him out after one date (actually before). The worst is when it takes several dates to see who they really are.

 

Keep at it and learn the signs of what to avoid - this guy gave you many.

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CaliforniaGirl Established Member

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Cookies, neither one of you was really feeling it.

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Gaeta Established Member

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Maybe my standards are just too high.

 

Hopeless.

 

 

Thanks anyway for the support,all. It means a lot.:)

 

Hey Cookie! don't be discouraged you will meet. Each day that passes you are getting closer to meeting him. Keep an open mind and let all these meetings roll over you.

 

Now, I want to talk to you about your standards. It's good to have high standards but I think your standards are in the wrong place. A woman with high standards would never have met this man, right? A woman with high standards knows exactly how she wants to be treated and she waits to come across that man that will offer her that special treatment.

 

I understand you want to meet a man attractive to you BUT don't put all of your high standards in the look department. Start a new list of high standards you'll have from now on that are about men's manners, respect of your time, consideration toward you and courtesy.

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curiouslysearching Established Member

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Thank you, everyone!!

 

Lol we did end up going out at 8 last night after he got off...

 

He apologized but he was still so rude to do that.... dunno why I agreed to go...I think cuz I didn't want to waste the makeup and just wanted to get it over with

 

 

It was totally awkward(as per usual for me) but the rush-iness of it and that I was a little pissed and embarrassed made it worse

 

No chemistry...Not much to talk about but I pulled through...for like an hour

 

I even said "so you wanna...go?" And he said "go where??" I meant like go home and he said no he doesn't do we stayed until the place closed.

When we left he apologized again, said he wanted to see me again, that he was "intimated" by me but told me to text him...? Um he didn't pay for my tea since I got there early..shouldn't he have called me???

 

 

 

Yet no call or text in a day...though I'm not that surprised..as you guys said he was lukewarm by his actions to begin with....also I didn't feel chemistry with him anyway.

 

I feel like I'll never find anyone I click with, that I find attractive. It makes me sad, but I'm just exhausted with the whole dating process after 1 "date" in months.

 

 

Maybe my standards are just too high.

 

Hopeless.

 

 

Thanks anyway for the support,all. It means a lot.:)

 

that is absolutely terrible that he did not at least buy your tea....please listen COOKIE....."you deserve much better than anything you have described in this thread"....I have zero doubt that you are beyond amazing....this guy simply did not deserve to spend five minutes with a woman like you....you will find someone who is worthy of you....do not get discouraged you are

WORTH IT

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Speak of the freaking devil

 

 

He just sent me a text

 

 

"Hey. Thanks for coming out last night. I really enjoyed meeting you. I was a little intimidated because my first reaction was, "oh damn she's really hot". Such a charmer I know! I'd like to see you again if you're up for it "

 

 

Sounds like a humblebrag but I'm really wtf with this guy. Wait a freaking DAY (pretty much to the hour) to text me? Is it just me or is that another huge strike? He says he works a lot/long hours but I bet his dating like 20 girls and he met me last night after a date and just remembered to text me lol

 

I'm so sick of being back burner/last thing on his mind even IF it's work. Seven city, you are so right. I should have never gone on a date with him after he did not firm plans the day of or tell me. Last time I'll ever do that..even if I have to waste time getting ready

 

And the "intimidated l" thing again. I'm glad I'm not the only person who couldn't forget that comment. Trying to stroke my ego....make me think he's awkward instead of just disinterested.

 

 

Should I just ghost. Or say sorry I don't think it's a good idea (should have done that yesterday) I'm sooooo tired of dating.

 

Thanks for saying my standards aren't too high, but it's so hard not to feel that way after so many disastrous dates

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