mmx Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 So I have been talking to this guy on a dating app for a week or so. We talked a couple of times a day on the app. Mainly me asking questions and him responding and asking me the same question. I am pretty sure I was the only one on the app he was talking to as he would get on to respond and then get off. Last Friday, I asked him what his plans for the weekend were and he said he might go hiking at the place I had suggested. I then responded that he should let me know what he thinks of it. He has not responded since. Does this mean he is not interested? Should I have asked another question? Should I message him again or just forget about him?
palmsand Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 He hasn't asked you out on a date yet, correct? I would say he isn't interested, but it wouldn't hurt to send one more message. It sounds like you did everything right. 3
smackie9 Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 He has you on the backburner just in case his other dates don't pan out. Welcome to OLD....you are just an option. IMO If the guy doesn't ask you out after the first two messages, he's not that worried if you move on. 5
Author mmx Posted March 20, 2017 Author Posted March 20, 2017 What should I say? I don't want to seem needy
Miss Spider Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 I think you've said enough...you gave him a perfect window to ask you out..you have shown a lot of interest by asking questions and keeping the convo going...he doesn't sound very interested. Sorry ;(
palmsand Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 Probably just ask if he ended up going on the hike, and how he liked it. If he doesn't respond then that's your answer, unfortunately.
Author mmx Posted March 20, 2017 Author Posted March 20, 2017 He would respond and then usually say.."how about you?"
Miss Peach Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 He has you on the backburner just in case his other dates don't pan out. Welcome to OLD....you are just an option. IMO If the guy doesn't ask you out after the first two messages, he's not that worried if you move on. I would say first week or two because a lot of men are confused as how much time to go on the site for but I totally agree with everything else. He has something else going on and you're on the back burner for now.
Purepony Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 What should I say? I don't want to seem needy Nothing move on !
SevenCity Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 He has you on the backburner just in case his other dates don't pan out. Welcome to OLD....you are just an option. IMO If the guy doesn't ask you out after the first two messages, he's not that worried if you move on. A lot of women want to build a rapport before beig asked. Personally, I don't like doing it but tend to go about 6 messages before asking them out. If you ask too soon they often freak out. If you wait too long they lose interest. It's a difficult position for a guy to gauge. 1
Erik30 Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 I think he has low interest but is replying just to be nice. Usually guys are asking most of the questions and try to keep the conversation going. I would back off, you've done enough. If he's into you, he'll reach out... if he really was just being nice, you won't be hearing from him again. But don't wait, start talking to other guys
smackie9 Posted March 21, 2017 Posted March 21, 2017 A lot of women want to build a rapport before beig asked. Personally, I don't like doing it but tend to go about 6 messages before asking them out. If you ask too soon they often freak out. If you wait too long they lose interest. It's a difficult position for a guy to gauge. If they freak out they were never that interested in the first place, just my 2 cents.
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