dbree Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 So there is this girl that goes to my college, we attend the same church and campus ministry. When I started attending the campus fellowship she sent me a friend request on fb which I didn't read meaning into, although am into her not very obvious though, but about the second day we started chatting she asked me what got attracted to her even when our conversations were really casual, she also asked if I've dated and stuffs of that nature. Am not really very good with texting, but does well with interaction at a point I felt the energy in our text were fading out. few things she highlighted were: 1. She's cautious, conflicted and busy and that summer would be a good time to know me. 2. She asked us to sit on the same table for college meal on Sunday, she still didn't talk to me, maybe because her friends were there idk. 3. She said she wants to know me but less forcefully and since she hasn't liked me a such. 4. She said she prefers we didn't talk except face-to-face. 5. She doesn't like it when I compliment her, even if I wasn't exaggerating. 6. The first time she said we were going to meet in a fellowship, she just couldn't look at my face, and later said she was sorry it just feels awkward to her. 7. I asked her number but she said she's not just ready to give it out yet. One thing to note though is we've never interacted before because am always up on stage doing music and seriously am not a pressuring guy, and can do without talking to her for weeks, I so much respect my standard but unno I don't want to assume she is interested or not. How should I go about this?
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 She's keeping you around but at arm's length...I would say she's not very interested right now (I'm sorry ). I mean...not interested in the way you want her to be interested. She started out asking you dating-type questions but she cooled off so it seems like she decided she's just not all that attracted. Now, that doesn't mean she won't ever be, but OTOH, she knows you're heavily into her (I'm sure of this...as a woman ) so you won't be able to play it cool when you're doing the "just the friend" thing. In addition, it will hurt to see her go out with other guys. Personally, I'd just keep a thought of her out there maybe for the future, but would NOT pursue a strong friendship right now as it would probably mean hoping, and getting hurt. I'd keep my feelers out.
smackie9 Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 She could be very shy, or feels guilty for being sexually attracted to you, being religious and all that. she could be interested, but IMO she's not interested enough to make it worth your while to pursue her. Best thing to do is not give her too much attention and talk to other girls. You don't owe her any commitment. 1
Author dbree Posted March 23, 2017 Author Posted March 23, 2017 Well I really don't think i would feel much hurt, I've learnt not to chase ladies per se I mean there's a lot I need to catch up with, that barely leaves no time to wander thoughts about a lady not reciprocating, however I don't wanna play too hard on her in that I could deduce she's sorta emotional. First time she said we should see in church I purposely didn't go to see her, and she messaged saying why didn't I come to say hi to her.
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