Bluraven Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 What can I give to my friend? My best friend is in her late 30's and dating a guy who is in his 50's. They been dating for a little over a year. He seemed to be a nice guy when I met him. She told me that he comes over everyday, he takes her out to dinner, buys her gifts and he tells her that her loves her. About two months ago she told me that she is starting to fall in love with him. I told her not to rush into it because even though she been separated for 2 years from her ex husband heck he is dangerous and abusive and her divorce is not finalized. She told me that she needed someone sexually and for me to mind my own business. My friend she is really nice and I don't want this new guy to break her heart. I told her to be careful of the red flags like ;she never been to his house because a female friend that hes known for awhile lives with him, he has about 3 different baby mamas and claims he cant have kids, his oldest child is the same age as her. Just recently, my best friend called me telling me that he is going on a trip without her that he said he was going with the woman who lives with him ...who he claims isn't in a relationship with. My question is what do I tell my friend. I told her to just leave him alone. I believe that if he loved her then the ex wouldn't be in the picture. She did dump him but he refuses to leave her alone. He knows that she is my best friend and when i was over her place he popped up and I didn't let him in he told me that he wants to marry my friend and is going to prove to my friend that he cares and loves her. But heck what should my friend do now
preraph Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 She shouldn't do anything with him until she meets the roommate and hears from her own mouth that they're just friends. Which they are not or he'd already have introduced them.
kendahke Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 My friend she is really nice and I don't want this new guy to break her heart. I told her to be careful of the red flags like ;she never been to his house because a female friend that hes known for awhile lives with him, he has about 3 different baby mamas and claims he cant have kids, his oldest child is the same age as her. Just recently, my best friend called me telling me that he is going on a trip without her that he said he was going with the woman who lives with him ...who he claims isn't in a relationship with. My question is what do I tell my friend. I told her to just leave him alone. I believe that if he loved her then the ex wouldn't be in the picture. She did dump him but he refuses to leave her alone. He knows that she is my best friend and when i was over her place he popped up and I didn't let him in he told me that he wants to marry my friend and is going to prove to my friend that he cares and loves her. But heck what should my friend do now Your friend should keep you out of her business if she doesn't want you in it. Remember she said this: She told me... ...to mind my own business. She's going to do this no matter what you think. You need to step aside and let her learn her lesson. You can't keep her from doing it, nor is it right for you to do that because that lesson is going to show up eventually. She's not going to take your word for it and your interference is going to cause more problems for her than if you stayed out of it and let her fight her own battles with this guy. If you getting involved worked, the guy would be in her rear view mirror and she wouldn't be talking to him every day. Trust me, she's still pursuing him when you're not in earshot and there's a lot to this she's not telling you because you're against the relationship.
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