Drinkingoutofthecups Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 So I met this girl using the bumble app. We went on a date and really hit it off. We talked all the time whether it was on the phone, text, or at our university. She's a graduate student and works so her schedule is busy. We planned another date but she had to cancel since she was bombarded with school assignments. I figured no problem since that is to be expected with grad school. We reschedule for the following week when she was done work. I figured I'd be sweet and wish her and great day at work and she said thanks and all that. Later when I knew she was getting off from work I asked about our date later. No response. I didn't hear anything until about 8pm that night to which she apologized and said she had a hectic day. She told me that she doesn't think she can do this right now and seems to have trouble juggling her time. i texted her that I understand and I don't want to put any pressure on her and I am willing to hang out when she can. I haven't heard from her after that. It's been a couple days. Do you think this is a way of "letting me down easy" or do you think she is sincere with what she is saying.
preraph Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Grad school can be tough. If I were you I would just tell her, Hey, if you ever get to where you have time to go out, please shoot me a text. I'm not going to keep pressuring you if you're busy. 1
SevenCity Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Grad school can be tough. If I were you I would just tell her, Hey, if you ever get to where you have time to go out, please shoot me a text. I'm not going to keep pressuring you if you're busy. No. This is woman speak for "I'm not interested". Don't say you're not going to pressure her (admitting you feel that you are). Just say "great. Reach out to me when your schedule frees up" and never call her ever again. Chances are you'll never hear from her but even if you do do you want to go out with a girl who is too busy for you? If a hot supermodel called you at 11 pm I'm sure you'd find time in your schedule to go out with her that night. You want a woman to be interested in going out with you. You'll have more fun and more success. 3
normal person Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Later when I knew she was getting off from work I asked about our date later. No response. I didn't hear anything until about 8pm that night to which she apologized and said she had a hectic day. She told me that she doesn't think she can do this right now and seems to have trouble juggling her time. i texted her that I understand and I don't want to put any pressure on her and I am willing to hang out when she can. I haven't heard from her after that. It's been a couple days. I think you need to read between the lines. Do you think this is a way of "letting me down easy" or do you think she is sincere with what she is saying. Very obviously, yes. She's on the ap, I'd imagine she'd make time for someone she thought was worth making time for. "I don't think I can do this right now" translates to "I don't think I can do this with you, sorry." If someone wants to make time for you, they'll find a way. I've made similar excuses to people and have gotten similar ones myself. Your best bet is to just leave her alone for now and don't burn the bridge. If by some chance she really was telling the truth then you might hear from her randomly at some point in the future. Best of luck. 1
Tressugar Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 I never understood why ppl get on these dating apps in search for a date or to date only to claim that they are too busy to date. Then why get on these dating sites in the first place? Ppl need to stop wasting other ppl's time and be real with themselves. 2
coolheadal Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 So I met this girl using the bumble app. We went on a date and really hit it off. We talked all the time whether it was on the phone, text, or at our university. She's a graduate student and works so her schedule is busy. We planned another date but she had to cancel since she was bombarded with school assignments. I figured no problem since that is to be expected with grad school. We reschedule for the following week when she was done work. I figured I'd be sweet and wish her and great day at work and she said thanks and all that. Later when I knew she was getting off from work I asked about our date later. No response. I didn't hear anything until about 8pm that night to which she apologized and said she had a hectic day. She told me that she doesn't think she can do this right now and seems to have trouble juggling her time. i texted her that I understand and I don't want to put any pressure on her and I am willing to hang out when she can. I haven't heard from her after that. It's been a couple days. Do you think this is a way of "letting me down easy" or do you think she is sincere with what she is saying. That Bubble app no better than Tinder one too. You're being toyed with. Listen best you keep looking elsewhere and don't waste your time on this girl. Your showing weakness on a woman that doesn't care to be with you. She most likely seeing other men that are more important than you. It happens. When they say they things like hectic day or etc they're saying I had a date with someone else and forgot about you. This is another way of putting it. But you can clearly see she's not even texting you back. Try to find someone who has the time for you. Your getting the brush-off here.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 Yes, she is trying to let you down easy. She's on a dating app, right? It wouldn't make sense to be looking if she truly didn't have any time to date. She does, but for whatever reason, she isn't interested in actually meeting up with you, OP. I would keep looking.
Miss Spider Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 I think she's letting you down easy. Just coming from a woman who uses the "I'm so busy" excuse to let guys down easy on bumble often
GoldSparkz Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 She shouldn't be dating if she's too busy, so my guess is that she's dating someone else who she's more interested in. 1
act00 Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 It could be she's letting you go gently, but it could also be she's extremely busy and trying to date was a mistake. In any case, be glad she let you know it's not working for her, rather than ghosting you and leaving you wondering what in the world is going on. 1
Erik30 Posted March 20, 2017 Posted March 20, 2017 It's just an excuse, especially since she still has the app. She didn't just cancel the date, she basically ended everything. She didn't mention any kind of alternative like after her exams or something. If you would wait a couple of days/weeks to ask her out again, she'll probably come up with something else. If you keep pushing, she'll tell you the real reason. (Not interested anymore/met someone else) But don't waste your time doing that, find a new girl. Usually, if It's difficult to set up a date with someone, things are not going to work out. It should be easy.
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