fooloflove Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Me and my boyfriend talked about how we are different person.. i told him there is no 2 person that is totally compatible and i hope that we could try our best to make us work i really dont want to lose him.. he said he wanted a break to think about things, and he said its not a break up and we could still talk and text.. just no more mentioning about intense stuff such as differences and arguements i texted him a good morning text and some random normal daily lives texts. he didnt reply but i wish it's not the end. How do i convince him that i know what i did wrong and i hope for another chance and to tell him theres no point of having a break
GemmaUK Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 I'm confused. In your other current thread on this subject you said you were the one that asked for the break. 2
coolheadal Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Me and my boyfriend talked about how we are different person.. i told him there is no 2 person that is totally compatible and i hope that we could try our best to make us work i really dont want to lose him.. he said he wanted a break to think about things, and he said its not a break up and we could still talk and text.. just no more mentioning about intense stuff such as differences and arguements i texted him a good morning text and some random normal daily lives texts. he didnt reply but i wish it's not the end. How do i convince him that i know what i did wrong and i hope for another chance and to tell him theres no point of having a break It's not working out for you with him. (Break, they want time, me time or space) These words me they're done with you. Time for you to move on and do not contact him. Do not cling, do not grab on to something that's over. He found someone else, as it sounds to me. This happens you can't change his mind. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Yeah... I thought you asked for the break? Do you mean he just agreed it was a good idea. He sounds really frustrated and just fed up atm, OP. Fed up with drama. Your best chance is giving him space for awhile. NC break and let him miss you, then reach out to him and hope he didn't like the break. But consider if you're really compatible. You're LDR and he refuses to discuss the future. Seems like you're getting fed up too even though you care for him.. Please don't threaten breakups/breaks ever again unless you mean them:( 1
MidwestUSA Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 I'm confused. In your other current thread on this subject you said you were the one that asked for the break. She asked for a break, then he asked for a break. I think. OP, stop texting him and give him the break he asked for. You did the same thing when you called for break time! (Yea, I don't even know what that means, but...) 3
Author fooloflove Posted March 19, 2017 Author Posted March 19, 2017 I'm confused. In your other current thread on this subject you said you were the one that asked for the break. Yes i need the break, but for 1 day i thought aboout stuff and i want to fix us. so i took him and called him up, and he said he wants a break instead, im confused as well
Author fooloflove Posted March 19, 2017 Author Posted March 19, 2017 Yeah... I thought you asked for the break? Do you mean he just agreed it was a good idea. He sounds really frustrated and just fed up atm, OP. Fed up with drama. Your best chance is giving him space for awhile. NC break and let him miss you, then reach out to him and hope he didn't like the break. But consider if you're really compatible. You're LDR and he refuses to discuss the future. Seems like you're getting fed up too even though you care for him.. Please don't threaten breakups/breaks ever again unless you mean them:( Yes i do regret on saying i need a break and will take note not to simply say it anymore, he replied to my message and i think i will change and stop mentioning about intense stuff anymore 1
MidwestUSA Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Well, this tells you what you need to know. "He changed back to his own picture instead of our selfie." You guys are broken up. Sorry. Be careful what you ask for.
Author fooloflove Posted March 19, 2017 Author Posted March 19, 2017 Yeah... I thought you asked for the break? Do you mean he just agreed it was a good idea. He sounds really frustrated and just fed up atm, OP. Fed up with drama. Your best chance is giving him space for awhile. NC break and let him miss you, then reach out to him and hope he didn't like the break. But consider if you're really compatible. You're LDR and he refuses to discuss the future. Seems like you're getting fed up too even though you care for him.. Please don't threaten breakups/breaks ever again unless you mean them:( He didnt't say he needed to be in NC, he just said he wants to stop saying about arguements and time to figure stuff. :<
smackie9 Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 Sounds to me the relationship has run it's course.....he doesn't want to "fix" things. He even said he is not interested in talking about intense stuff.
Author fooloflove Posted March 19, 2017 Author Posted March 19, 2017 He said he jz wanted to change to another pic, and it doesnt mean anything else and he said im always overthinking.... and this is why he's so fed up and say im a total different person, as im chill before
Author fooloflove Posted March 19, 2017 Author Posted March 19, 2017 He thinks theres nothing to fix and it's all just my problems, me being selfish and wanting him to adapt to everything i want, i do realise im selfish and i dont really care about what he wants,but i just hope i can change his mind.....
MidwestUSA Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 He thinks theres nothing to fix and it's all just my problems, me being selfish and wanting him to adapt to everything i want, i do realise im selfish and i dont really care about what he wants but i just hope i can change his mind..... Food for thought? 3
coolheadal Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 He thinks theres nothing to fix and it's all just my problems, me being selfish and wanting him to adapt to everything i want, i do realise im selfish and i dont really care about what he wants,but i just hope i can change his mind..... Don't you get it! You can't change his mind! It's done, it's over! He told you that! Do not chase him down, you make yourself look weak to him and others. Is that what you really want to do! I am sure there is another woman involved. Mostly when men do and say this to you they have their own backup in place now. Your discarded, I know that sounds bad but at lease he told you the truth.
GemmaUK Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 In your other thread you say you're forcing him to do things he isn't willing to do and that you're being irrational. What exactly is it you're trying to force him to do? What's going on behind these breaks?
Miss Spider Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 (edited) He didnt't say he needed to be in NC, he just said he wants to stop saying about arguements and time to figure stuff. :< Yeah...I know he probably did say that... the thing is ..for all intents and purposes, this is a breakup...or at least I think it should be seen as such... I mean.. he's still wants to talk..so what else could 'break' mean? What does he mean by break? And they usually suggest not to be in contact with someone in these circumstances. I'm not sure think it's a good idea on the same friendly terms during a breakup or 'break' ... Give space for awhile, revisit, chat, and see if he wants to try the rship again Edited March 19, 2017 by Cookiesandough
ExpatInItaly Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 I read your other thread, OP. What was behind these arguments, and what was it you were trying to force him to do? You say you know you're being irrational, but about what, exactly? Based on what you wrote here and your other thread, I would prepare myself for a break-up. It doesn't sound to me like he's interested in trying to make it work anymore, and he's taking steps to detach from you.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 19, 2017 Posted March 19, 2017 This is not a healthy relationship for either of you. I don't know what the 'intense stuff' is, but it sounds like the relationship is at its end or irretrievable.
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