CAT1314 Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 (edited) So there is a guy who with a girlfriend keeps flirting and doing tons of romanric things to me.he is so passionate and sweet. we text eveyday and started to see each other.Unfortunately I am so attracted to him.i think we both like each other a lot. but i dont think he will leave his gf ,they have been staying together for 5 years, i feel really bad for being another woman and also feel unfair.so last week i decided to over this and asked him to stop texting me.i did a bit harsh. i said we even couldnt be friend. i want to know if i made the right decision. i have been upset these days. why guys cheat on their girlfriends. he said they argued a lot. but i dont think he doent love his gf.i saw there were a lot of their pictures together on his fb. if he loves his gf why he wants me?what are these people thinking about? Edited March 17, 2017 by CAT1314 1
smackie9 Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 Not just guys but women do it too. They do it to escape temporarily from their situation to give themselves a self esteem boost. Yes you did the right thing. 2
Jj66 Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 It's natural to want some strange every now and then. To break a commitment to get it shows a lack of integrity. Both sexes are guilty of it. 3
Miss Spider Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 So there is a guy who with a girlfriend keeps flirting and doing tons of romanric things to me.he is so passionate and sweet. we text eveyday and started to see each other.Unfortunately I am so attracted to him.i think we both like each other a lot. but i dont think he will leave his gf ,they have been staying together for 5 years, i feel really bad for being another woman and also feel unfair.so last week i decided to over this and asked him to stop texting me.i did a bit harsh. i said we even couldnt be friend. i want to know if i made the right decision. i have been upset these days. why guys cheat on their girlfriends. he said they argued a lot. but i dont think he doent love his gf.i saw there were a lot of their pictures together on his fb. if he loves his gf why he wants me?what are these people thinking about? He's thinking he can use for ego stroke/ and possibly sex on the side. He's with her but he wants a little sum sum on the side...if it wasn't you, it'd probably be someone else. My ex considered doing this to me. He's a selfish ass. Be harsh. I hope you told him to fck off. 1
kendahke Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 Cheating is done by both sexes because they're selfish. Full stop. So there is a guy who with a girlfriend keeps flirting and doing tons of romanric things to me.he is so passionate and sweet. we text eveyday and started to see each other.Unfortunately I am so attracted to him.i think we both like each other a lot. but i dont think he will leave his gf ,they have been staying together for 5 years, i feel really bad for being another woman and also feel unfair.so last week i decided to over this and asked him to stop texting me.i did a bit harsh. i said we even couldnt be friend. i want to know if i made the right decision. Yes you did. If you were the girlfriend and some chick he'd been flirting with came here with the above post, what would you want us to say to her? i have been upset these days. why guys cheat on their girlfriends. They cheat because women they focus on let them, like you did while he was flirting and texting--all the while you knew he had a girlfriend. It's not like you shut this down the moment you found out he had a girlfriend. You indulged for a while, so to answer your question: look at how you proceeded. That's why they cheat. It takes two in agreement to cheat. he said they argued a lot. Of course he did. How else would he have been able to get as much traction with you as he did? Would you have given him traction if he'd said that he was really happy with her and that she was his soul mate? If they argue a lot, could it be that he flirts and texts with random chicks all the time, like it's a revolving door for him? No behavior happens in a vacuum. but i dont think he doent love his gf.i saw there were a lot of their pictures together on his fb. if he loves his gf why he wants me?what are these people thinking about? It's not so much that he wanted you, per se, but that he wanted to know that he could still hook one and reel her in on command--that he's still got it and can attract whomever he wants. If he's not leaving her for you, then this wasn't ever about "you"; you just happened to be the chick in the vicinity this time around with whom he did this. Next time, it'll be someone else who'll allow him this much berth. 4
Author CAT1314 Posted March 17, 2017 Author Posted March 17, 2017 i see this is the right thing to do..i asked to stop quite a few times.but end up he wanted me back...i just need to be strong enough.... 1
Satu Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 i see this is the right thing to do..i asked to stop quite a few times.but end up he wanted me back...i just need to be strong enough.... You can be strong enough. This is an opportunity for you to see that, and prove it to yourself. This will stand you in good stead as you progress forward in life. Take care. 3
kendahke Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 i see this is the right thing to do..i asked to stop quite a few times.but end up he wanted me back...i just need to be strong enough.... Your phone has a block feature. If you are sincere about what you said, you'll use it. If not, you won't and you'll just be "that" girl... 1
act00 Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 You were right to call it off, full stop. Let's say he did leave his girlfriend for you? He will do the same thing to you eventually. He will cheat on you. Relationships get messy and hard, and they take work, and you don't need a man who runs off to the next girl any time things get rocky. If he's that unhappy with his GF, he needs to break it off, take some time to heal, and pursue a new love interest when he's ready. Responsibility. You will not be his long-term new love. You'll be his transition, his rebound, as he moves on to greener pastures. Facebook isn't a good judge of life. No one usually posts the bad parts. You were right to call it off. Be done with it and know you dodged a bullet. 1
coolheadal Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 Not just guys with girlfriends, girls with a boyfriends but women with husbands. Everyone doing their own thing today. If you tolerate this behavior just got yourself to blame. 2
GoldSparkz Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 You done the right thing by dropping this guy. He sounds incredibly selfish and weak for not trying to fix things with his girlfriend when the relationship took a bad turn. He came to you for an ego boost, nothing else! So you kept your dignity by cutting him off.
pogredad Posted March 18, 2017 Posted March 18, 2017 I think you choose the good solution. But even if you are not the only one responsable, cheating is breaking a relation. And he had a 5 years relation. They build a relation and a commun life together. I find it really bad to destroy it.. (The man is also responsable.)
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