She became distant when her ex-husband got married. Now I'm friend zoned.

[selinaluv]

Saw that she has created a profile on Match.com. I deleted her number and blocker her on all social media.

 

So sorry to hear this. But at this time for her it really is all about trying to find her "self worth" and feeling wanted. I did it and really had to get it out of my system. Doesn't make it right, but it just is her reality right now. She is also trying to figure out how to have fun on her own again. She tried to tell you in her own way.

[TheTraveler]

Looks like you are correct. It will take me some time to adjust. If she texts wanting me to come over, it's going to be difficult to say no.

 

I am correct.

 

Even if you hooked up and had sex with your shorts excuse to spend time with each other, this was still the inevitable outcome.

 

Last note...come on man. You can pick out your shorts. You picked out your own clothes before you ever met this woman.

 

GL and move onto the next OP

[computersandsuch]

Human nature never deviates. You can see it coming around the corner.

 

We don't give advice just to stick pins in your balloons--we advise because we've had the experience and know the outcome.

 

Now that I've had the experience, I will try to help others who are going through the same thing. Thank you so much.

[computersandsuch]

Human nature never deviates. You can see it coming around the corner.

 

We don't give advice just to stick pins in your balloons--we advise because we've had the experience and know the outcome.

 

So sorry to hear this. But at this time for her it really is all about trying to find her "self worth" and feeling wanted. I did it and really had to get it out of my system. Doesn't make it right, but it just is her reality right now. She is also trying to figure out how to have fun on her own again. She tried to tell you in her own way.

 

Thank you for your response. I guess I ignored the red flags because she had been divorced two years. I thought she was finally over him. She just used me as a distraction. I don't think she did it on purpose, but she did. This is an experience I will use to help others as much as possible. Thank you for your help.

[computersandsuch]

I just noticed that she unfriended me on social media. Guess she noticed I had blocked her. Thought she wanted to remain friends. She hadn't "liked" any of my posts in a long time. I was shocked. I didn't think she would notice.

Edited March 31, 2017 by computersandsuch

[computersandsuch]

So sorry to hear this. But at this time for her it really is all about trying to find her "self worth" and feeling wanted. I did it and really had to get it out of my system. Doesn't make it right, but it just is her reality right now. She is also trying to figure out how to have fun on her own again. She tried to tell you in her own way.

 

I just discovered another red flag that I ignored. Last week when she was trying on dresses, she told me that it was too "attract single guys." Then she said "i'm halfway kidding." I thought she was trying to make me jealous. I just realized in her online profile pics she was wearing a couple of the dresses. I have made a list of all the red flags and negative things she did to me. It is helping me move on to the anger stage of recovery.

[computersandsuch]

We went about four or five days without talking to each other. She called me a couple of days ago. Asked if I had tried to text her because she had been experiencing problems getting all texts. I told her no. I then mentioned meeting up on her only available day which is Tuesday. She said ok. I the hung up. Phone call may have been a minute tops. I didn't want to talk. She texted me yesterday afternoon saying we'd have to meet early because she had plans with coworkers after work. I tried calling and texting her last night to confirm. She didn't answer or read my text.

[computersandsuch]

Last post. I went to her house yesterday to return something. I noticed she had a stack of pictures of her and her ex husband on a table. I asked her about it. She finally admitted that she's going through "some issues."

 

I wished her good luck and left. She called me and we argued for a bit. I told her I'd be open to seeing her again when her head is on straight, but I've already started seeing other people.

 

She told me we need to part ways.

[preraph]

I think the reason why this all came to a head when her ex married is because then she perceived that you felt this should be an opening for you, but she simply doesn't feel that way about you. Time to let it go and date others.

[computersandsuch]

I think the reason why this all came to a head when her ex married is because then she perceived that you felt this should be an opening for you, but she simply doesn't feel that way about you. Time to let it go and date others.

 

Thank you. I am actually dating others. I'm am trying to get over her. I've never been a rebound for someone before. It hurts.

[preraph]

Thank you. I am actually dating others. I'm am trying to get over her. I've never been a rebound for someone before. It hurts.

 

I know. Just remember that a good relationship is fun and doesn't hurt. Bail as soon as it isn't fun anymore when you're just dating. Save all that trying to work it out energy for after you are married and have kids. Just look for someone who makes you happy and who you make happy for now.

[computersandsuch]

I know. Just remember that a good relationship is fun and doesn't hurt. Bail as soon as it isn't fun anymore when you're just dating. Save all that trying to work it out energy for after you are married and have kids. Just look for someone who makes you happy and who you make happy for now.

 

Thanks! Great advice. I don't want to give up, but I'm not gonna wait around. I've got some dates lined up. Who knows. Maybe down the road she and I will try again. Maybe I'll find someone new. I just know what I'm doing now isn't helping the situation.