CasualAngel Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 Well, here is my little problem, in my college there is a very pretty girl and, I want to talk to her but, I don't know how to do it without looking creepy because I don't know anything of her, I don't have any classes with her, and don't have friends in common. Everytime I see her, she is alone and I want to talk to her but, I feel it will look so creepy. I hope you can give some advices
preraph Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 Well, to begin with, are you as attractive as she is? My feeling is if she is really attractive, she probably already has some love interests. Best advice to break the ice is simply to say "Hi" as you pass by. Then say "hi" again when you pass by again. Eventually she will either look happy to see you and maybe say something or try to avoid you. A lot depends how social she is herself. 2
curiouslysearching Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 Well, to begin with, are you as attractive as she is? My feeling is if she is really attractive, she probably already has some love interests. Best advice to break the ice is simply to say "Hi" as you pass by. Then say "hi" again when you pass by again. Eventually she will either look happy to see you and maybe say something or try to avoid you. A lot depends how social she is herself. I like it...keep it simple, sincere and to the point pre...you have style and grace 3
OatsAndHall Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 There was a girl in college that I had a crush on. She used to come in to the school gym where I worked all of the time but I wasn't going to follow her around the weight room, hitting on her. I used to see her at the student union building and the library all the time as well. So I started frequenting the school library more often. One day, she was sitting alone at a table studying, so I pulled up a chair at the table, said hello, and started reading a book. After abut ten minutes, I introduced myself, asked her what she was studying for and we had a good conversation. I continued to pop into the library and strike up conversations with her when she was there. I asked her out after three of these talks but she politely declined and told me she had a boyfriend. I don't know if that was true or not but it didn't matter: I made an effort to connect with her without being a creepy stalker and then asked her out. I still did my studying at the library and we'd talk on occasion and nothing was uncomfortable. Done and done. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 Talking to random people in the real world is tough. Talking to random people in college isn't that awkward. It's college. The fact that you go to the same school gives you some measure of credibility & safety. I used to eat lunch late because I wanted some "alone time" I would sit in the cafeteria all alone at a table for 8 & read the newspaper. (It was a long time ago before we all got news on our phones). One day in an empty cafeteria with probably 50 open tables, this guy plops down across from me & says "Pretty girls shouldn't eat alone." I glared at him because he was invading my quiet time. I went back to reading my paper. He kept this up for a while . . . often just sitting & eating his lunch while I read. We became friends & lunch was our thing. If you can't be as bold as that guy, smile at her & say hi a few times. After you are confident that she gas figured out who you are & that you go to school with her, talk to her . . . about anything. "What's your major" is a classic pick up line in college for a reason. It works to open a conversation. 3
CptInsano Posted March 17, 2017 Posted March 17, 2017 Talking to random people in the real world is tough. Talking to random people in college isn't that awkward. It's college. The fact that you go to the same school gives you some measure of credibility & safety. Agreed, it is much easier in college. But talking to random people in public is much easier than many believe. As a student I set myself a goal to talk to one random person a day. At first it took effort, then it was just a game I enjoyed. Eventually it became second nature and I don't think about it anymore. Most people actually want to talk. 4
Author CasualAngel Posted March 18, 2017 Author Posted March 18, 2017 Talking to random people in the real world is tough. Talking to random people in college isn't that awkward. It's college. The fact that you go to the same school gives you some measure of credibility & safety. You're right, it's college isn't that awkward, I have been reading your answers and I want to thank you all of you Your answers help a lot with my little problem. She is always alone in one table, I think I can go to her and asking her if I can sit with her and then try to have a conversation with her. Well, again thank you to all of you for your answers, I don't have classes this Monday but, Tuesday I come back to classes, I will try to talk to her. 2
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