Andrew91 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 (edited) Hi guys, we've been together for 2 years and I'm 25 and she's 27. so... where do I start. My girlfriend has problems in managing anger. When we're having a discussion, most of the time she'll just explode by starting to scream, throwing things around the house, pull her hairs and so on (sometimes she even tried to hit me). Today something even worst happened. We were not having a discussion about anything, but she was just asking for my opinion on an assignment she needs to do for uni. We already discussed this, so I just said my opinion once again. For some reasons, this time she found my opinion to be different from the one I gave her a few days ago (which is not true, as she later understood) and she simply started to panic. She starts to scream, pull her hairs, saying 'you said another thing the other day!!!!', then she go into the kitchen, she grabs a fork and she throw it to the wall. Then she pick it up and she throw it again. She later calmed down and started to cry, saying she's sorry etc etc (as she always does). I'm honestly scared and I don't know what to do. Maybe she has a nervous breakdown or something, but she always behaves like this. What should I do? Thank you so much! Edited March 16, 2017 by Andrew91
ZayKayWill Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Sounds to me like she has some psychological issues that need some managing. I would maybe have her see a therapist or something because that behavior is anything but normal and definitely isn't fair to you since all you're trying to do is help and she's just making your life harder. Plus she's 2 years older than you? Maaaaan.... When it comes to relationships there are always gonna be disagreements in opinion. Why do people have such a hard time understanding this? xD
Author Andrew91 Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 Do you have children? =) Not at the moment, no. This would be scary as hell if we had children!
coolheadal Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 (edited) I can see you love this girl but at what price do you put up with the bipolar behavior she's doing on you. She will always tell you she's sorry but you can be supportive or you can leave her? That's your choice as to none of here can tell you how to conduct your life with her. Because of the situation you have allowed to go on so long. It will not get any better. My ex was like this too throwing things it was tuna fish cans and they hit the drywall and dented it. Back then. I had to repair the walls she dented. That's how I know how to repair drywall so good. Can't tell the difference when I repair it. You have to take care of the fork holes in your wall. My advise is help her or leave her? Edited March 16, 2017 by coolheadal
Space Ritual Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 What should I do? Run..... Run Like The Wind To be free again.
whichwayisup Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 You need to talk to her with her family present. This is more than just anger management, sounds like she's bi polar or some has other form of mental illness. Her behavior isn't rational and one day she is going to harm someone or even herself. She needs professional help.
Larryville Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 I’m gonna ditto SR: Run..... Run Like The Wind To be free again. Some say seek help and others are dead set against it. But going on purely what you posted, tread lightly, and don’t freaking have kids with this woman, because the older she gets the worse it will become. This behavior goes WAY back, long before you. I'm honestly scared and I don't know what to do. Yeah you should be! At least you did not start this thread by saying “but I can’t leave her cause I love her” crap! Back out of this slowly….
smackie9 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Mental illness is a relationship killer. She probably suffers from BPD, borderline personality disorder. She needs serious medical attention for a proper diagnosis. TBH this isn't your responsibility, this is on her and her family to deal with. Tell her to get help...if she refuses, you walk.
William Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Merged two threads so read back for complete details. Thanks!
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