Ranger17 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Ex and I recently broke up, she started smoking weed to suppress her emotions and it's killing me. She is attracting the wrong kind of attention. We work together and I was in a good mood and she approached me saying she thinks it's stupid I'm so happy and she's done with me now. Then the very next day she is ignoring me and when I ask her why she is extremely angry, calling me arrogant and saying she's "happy trust me" I asked for my things back and she flat out said no. What is going on with her? I do care for her and would take her back. Seems like she is going through some phase...
goldway90 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Who knows what's going on with her!! If she's going through a phase it's none of your concern, move on instead of trying to save her. 1
LostOnes05 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Hey, would you take back a headache if it decided to leave? No?...So why is this any different?
Chi townD Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Sounds like you were the dumper and she's hurting. Doesn't know how to cope. So, she doing destructive behavior to numb the pain. She hates you right now because she believes you're the cause of her pain. So, she has to demonize you. Easier to hate you then feel horrible about what happened. My advice. Just leave her alone. Sooner or later, she'll calm down and get on with her life. Right now, things are a bit too raw.
Author Ranger17 Posted March 16, 2017 Author Posted March 16, 2017 She was the one who left me. She's in a bad place and wish I could help her out of it. When I asked if there was any I could so she yelled and said she doesn't need my help... she is extremely stubborn. To the point where she pushes people away.
Altair0770 Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Sounds like you're somewhat in a similar situation as me (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/616420-different-story) in which our exes break off with us and then go down a destructive path. Unfortunately we CANNOT save people. We can try so hard, and mean the best for them, and have all the answers, but if they won't listen there is nothing we can do. They have to find their own way out of the darkness. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. Sounds like you could be happier with someone else.
Chi townD Posted March 16, 2017 Posted March 16, 2017 Well, that's telling as well. Even though she dumped you, she needs to demonize you in her head. Make you the bad guy. Easier to walk away from someone if you're mad at them. (even if that anger is unfounded).
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