Long Distance Relationship for 3.2 years. Never met each other and now breakup

[Anzac]

Please do read it because i am really in a dire situation with both my career and my love life on the line.

 

My relationship is a long distance relationship.(I met her on orkut)So i still have not seen her. I am 5 years younger than my ex gf. I have been with for for 5 years, 2 years as a friend who was in one sided love ( she knew about it) and then 3.2 years as her boyfriend. My relationship started on 2013 December 11 and she broke up with me this feb 10th 2017.

 

Throughout all these 3.2 years of our long distance relationship we didn’t even meet once, we never saw each other physically only through skype and phonecalls were we talking to each other(we wanted to but we never really got to the point and make time over how to meet). Also in these 3,2 years of our relationship we had decided about everything from marriage to our kids name as well(it happened way in the beginning around 2 year of our relationship).

 

From 2016 we were serious about our future (she was about to complete her college and start working while i would enter in college) So we were always telling each other over and over again to work hard (so that we could really have a future we wanted with each other) and had decided to meet each other finally after 3.2 years around in april of 2017 which was just after my final exams of class 12th(i am from india). But i don’t know what happened between jan 28 to feb 10, i was talking a bit less to her due to my exams being really close just 1 month away and was really serious about studying and making our future come true. I was giving her less time from january and in these days she started being more with one of her male friends and took his advice and broke up with me. I got in contact with her through her sister on 26th feb and then my gf said that she had started liking that guy and didn’t want to be with me( and i just couldn’t believe this thing and my heart still believed this is not her true feelings).

 

She finally after listening to her sister said to me to work hard for our future and to which i said i will and that i need her not to talk to that guy to which she did agree first. this happened on feb 26th 2017. i tried to study somehow for 4 days but this feeling of this guy who is physically there with her might really change her feelings was killing me(me and her sister weren’t really sure of this thing about liking someone else was true or false) and i asked her again on 1st march about whether she has stopped talking to that guy, and in a bit of heated argument things got hard and we talked to each other while being in a conference with her sister and my ex, she told that she only said all these things about liking other guy to test me and also because she wanted me to go away from her and just doesn’t feel the same about me and then blocked me.

 

I tried contacting her again yesterday but nothing helped, i said everything i could but she said she has moved on, and that i am irritating and she doesn't even think about me. what should i do ? Her sister at least cleared one thing that there is nothing going on in her life related to other man, my ex told this to her sister and swore on it yesterday. My exams are going on (next exam is on 20th march) also these exams are final term exams and i literally have no one whom i can share all of this with. Now help me please on how to deal with the situation. What should i do ? It has already been 1 month 6 days and i have tried contacting her so many times and told her so many times of the time we have spent and nothing helped. I am thinking of going to meet her between this 25th of march and 1st april for the first time. Tell me please, i am literally going to do everything i possibly can to get her back.

 

I am not moving seriously, even if i have to keep on trying for her i will keep on trying. Will my meeting her finally do something ? She of course doesn't know that i am finally coming to meet her. Our relationship was really full of love, just 5 days before breakup she was telling me on phone how she misses me and told me to promise not to ever leave her.

 

There are some details that i have left out but if you need any more info then please feel free to ask.

Edited March 16, 2017 by Anzac

[PegNosePete]

what should i do ?

You should listen to what she is saying. She doesn't want to be with you. She has said that loud and clear. Whether there is someone else or not (this "test" thing sounds like a pile of baloney to me), it doesn't matter, she still doesn't want to be with you. Sorry.

 

Will my meeting her finally do something ?

Yes, it will get you arrested for stalking and harassment. Seriously dude. She has told you loud and clear that she doesn't want to be with you, that she finds you irritating, and she doesn't want to talk to you. Turning up unannounced to see her is the worst thing you could possibly do.